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    When Im older, I want to live on my own, ie. not be married. Every day I have volatile arguments with my mum and she never listens to my opinions about things no mater how hard I try to tell her them, and it just makes me feel like a really horrible person. I don't want to be in a relationship with someone where they're at all unhappy, and if they were it would just make me feel worse, which is why I feel no need to have a girlfriend/wife in the future.

    Is this unusual?
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    Hmm. How far do these arguements stem back from with your mother? Im just wondering if because of all the sh*t she puts you through, its stereotyped your view of women, thus making you not want to be married.
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    Very unusual. If you do go on like that your life will just turn into a miserable vicious circle..
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    There's a saying that goes "you can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family" and that's absolutely true.

    As you get older, you'll begin to know the type of people you get on with and learn how to pick friends who you can get on with, relate to and have a good time with. Mums will always be mums and you may never see eye to eye with her, but it doesn't mean all your future friendships or relationships have to in any way follow the same pattern. The key is realising that family is family and while you can't 'pick 'em', you can pick people to socialise with, who you are compatible with personality wise.
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    (Original post by Oh_Mighty_One)
    Hmm. How far do these arguements stem back from with your mother? Im just wondering if because of all the sh*t she puts you through, its stereotyped your view of women, thus making you not want to be married.
    Thank you for your reply, and theyve been happening every day for about 3 years now. I really respect women, theyre better than alot (not all) of boys in some ways (maturity, conversational capacity etc..), but I just feel like such a bad person for all this arguing, and I really can't stand the idea of making another person unhappy, and so I just want to be alone.

    Does that make more sense? This is kind of a vent for me more than anything else, but thank you all the same.

    EDIT: Anonymity fail, and sorry for the replicate post of this reply.
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    No, it's not unusual! Not as common as people who want to get married but in no way weird. You might find this radio 4 programme interesting :3 http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b00p67tq

    "The number of people living in single person households has doubled since 1971."
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    (Original post by Oh_Mighty_One)
    Hmm. How far do these arguements stem back from with your mother? Im just wondering if because of all the sh*t she puts you through, its stereotyped your view of women, thus making you not want to be married.
    Thank you for your reply, and theyve been happening every day for about 3 years now. I really respect women, theyre better than alot (not all) of boys in some ways (maturity, conversational capacity etc..), but I just feel like such a bad person for all this arguing, and I really can't stand the idea of making another person unhappy, and so I just want to be alone.

    Does that make more sense? This is kind of a vent for me more than anything else, but thank you all the same.
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    Thank you for your reply, and theyve been happening every day for about 3 years now. I really respect women, theyre better than alot (not all) of boys in some ways (maturity, conversational capacity etc..), but I just feel like such a bad person for all this arguing, and I really can't stand the idea of making another person unhappy, and so I just want to be alone.

    Does that make more sense? This is kind of a vent for me more than anything else, but thank you all the same.
    By the sounds of this then. It isn't because you've stereotyped. It's because you feel that your the one making the arguments, when most of the time your not. So you see that your making your mother unhappy, so you think that any other women you perhaps live with or get intimate with you will make unhappy.

    Personally, what i'd advise. Talk to some girls! Even just on a messenger program. Preferably face to face though. Get to know them. Make them laugh etc..

    What you feel like isn't uncommon though.
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    Dont have it as a thing at the forefront of your mind. Just go out in the world with an open mind xx
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    [Anonymous or delete, please.]

    When Im older, I want to live on my own, ie. not be married. Every day I have volatile arguments with my mum and she never listens to my opinions about things no mater how hard I try to tell her them, and it just makes me feel like a really horrible person. I don't want to be in a relationship with someone where they're at all unhappy, and if they were it would just make me feel worse, which is why I feel no need to have a girlfriend/wife in the future.

    Is this unusual?
    Who cares if it is unusual, if thats what you want then thats fine. Better than living with the thick, fake women that make up 90% of the female race today (don't care about neg' rep, its the truth).
 
 
 
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