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    (Original post by Adonis)
    well in this case

    it's watch but don't touch

    so imagine it as real-life porn
    I think he (your quote) means being faithful, both ways, not just the man.

    It's just a polite way of going "hey, I'm going to cheat on you, would you prefer it if you could see me do it?"
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    (Original post by >RazorImages<)
    I think he (your quote) means being faithful, both ways, not just the man.

    It's just a polite way of going "hey, I'm going to cheat on you, would you prefer it if you could see me do it?"

    Again.

    A lot of guys would think their girl with another guy = ohhh nooo
    their girl with another girl - ohhh yeaaa
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    I think to introduce another person into your sexlife you have to be going pretty strong notas a why to spice up a slump. Also when you say predicatble and boring....even "bad sex"(is there such a thing?!?!) isn't necessarily predictable andboring if you fancy each other. Sure it might not be great sex but if there's excitemant there... so maybe your problem is, is that you two don't have that lusty buzz anymore rather than the sex itself? (although this will obviously affect the sex)
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    (Original post by Adonis)
    someone

    or some guy?

    did he specify? most guys wouldn't care about a girl as it doesn't seem like cheating to them
    To him, cheating is cheating regardless of gender. And I kinda agree with him. One of his exes made out with a girl, she went and told him how hot it was and he dumped her on the spot.
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    Take it up the arse for him.
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    (Original post by Antonia87)
    To him, cheating is cheating regardless of gender. And I kinda agree with him.
    Same, not sure how I'd feel if my boyfriend kissed/slept with another guy though... probably not as hurt but still feel betrayed.

    My boyfriends straight though, I'm not sure what I am yet, somewhere imbetween straight and bi I think, it doesn't matter to me too much, I have my man ^_^
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    2. I'm not fat or ugly, thankyouverymuch.

    3. Neither is my friend.

    4. When I put the idea out there for his consideration, I made it clear that he wouldn't be having sexual intercourse with her, but me. He would be touching and watching (maybe kissing), but no penetration.

    5. He's not gay.

    I thought having a threesome was every guy's fantasy. I guess I was wrong.
    You want to have sex with someone else in front of him, but he isn't allowed to have sex with them.
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    (Original post by Adonis)
    well in this case

    it's watch but don't touch

    so imagine it as real-life porn
    Yeah, what he said.

    Guys, to take what has been said in the last posts, if you were in my boyfriend's position, would you consider this 'cheating'?
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    (Original post by Antonia87)
    No it wont. It will help you move forward. How will watching you screw another girl help him move forward?
    hit the nail on the head there, OP if you're sure it'll spice things up for you then it probably will but what about him? And have you talked about why he doens't wanna do it? If, like you said, he knows how you feel about your sex life, then maybe he's worried about this girl giving you more pleasure than he does, and that you then wanting it again. Maybe he feels emasculated or something.
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    OP, you're a fool for thinking there's something wrong with him, just because he doesn't want to have a threesome. You've probably bloody insulted him for even asking!

    Would you like to be strapped to a spinning table and have a cactus thrust into you? No? I don't know what's wrong with you, someone in the world would, so obviously it's YOU who's wrong ¬_¬
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    what is this world becoming of?..how would u feel seeing another guy all over ur bf?...yes...guys enjoy seeing two girls screw each other...but I am not so sure about seeing my gf screwing another girl...that would freak me out..

    Well..try this...maybe you guys shld take a break from having sex...for real..do other things that will let u connect better on an emotional level...then hopefully that would increase the sexual tension and hopefully he would become a tiger and tear you up in bed after maybe 4 weeks of not having sex...I know that would make me a tiger.. [wink]
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    the poor lad probably feels rejected and worthless cos hes no good in bed thats probably why he rejected the idea and plus if he really loves you why would he wanna be sexual with anyone apart from you
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    (Original post by tinkz-x)
    the poor lad probably feels rejected and worthless cos hes no good in bed thats probably why he rejected the idea and plus if he really loves you why would he wanna be sexual with anyone apart from you
    ^^ This.

    It really wouldn't be that hard to spice up your love life. There are plenty of books dedicated to this exact problem. Why not take the reigns and jump on top of your man?

    You just want to screw someone else, admit it.
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    (Original post by Butterflyleg)
    Am I the only one who's absolutely astonished that a straight guy doesn't want to be pleasured by two hot women? :mmm:
    surprisingly, no :p:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
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    Why don't you take a break from sex (not your relationship) for a while?

    Is it him that's bad or because it's something you've done before and it has become repetative?
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    (Original post by tinkz-x)
    the poor lad probably feels rejected and worthless cos hes no good in bed thats probably why he rejected the idea and plus if he really loves you why would he wanna be sexual with anyone apart from you
    This is totally true- i'd feel exactly the same. Poor boy. He's probably got poor self esteem and doesn't see the need to try because he knows he can't satisfy you. The more you 'seem to like it' the more we try.
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    (Original post by RightSaidJames)
    If he doesn't satisfy you, how will a threesome help beyond that one evening? You'll probably be worse off than before afterwards.

    Work on your everyday sex life first so that he does satisfy you.
    could not agree more with point - trust me you'll end up being in a worse position than before!
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    (Original post by Adonis)
    well in this case

    it's watch but don't touch

    so imagine it as real-life porn
    Well first, it is touch but no penetration.

    And the faithful/committed thing goes both ways. He obviously doesn't like the thought of his girlfriend being pleasured by someone else either. And no, the fact that it'll be with a girl doesn't necessarily rule that out.
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    He's shooting for a foursome no doubt :yep:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Awww, sweets! Are you asking me this because of your own experience?
    From my experience , my mates and my co workers women are disgustingly lazy in the bedroom and yet they still have the nerve to judge a mans performance.
 
 
 
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