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ok.u are anonymous.. so i cant ping you....for real..sign up...i think we can make something out of this....at least a strong friendship.....OK I have to announce to the world...i think i am actually attracted to you already......sign up to TSR and ping me....i will send you my pic....i think you will like it...i am not even trying to be funny...i am serious..i think i am attracted to u already....maybe we could start something?...friendship maybe?..oh by the way its not about the sex....i get laid every 2 days by different girls...but i have decided to kinda chill out for a while.....lol...i am serious though...maybe i can find something serious?
2kuayyaz
Damn thats a lot of reading. But judging from the title I'd say that you have a bad taste in men.
this.
and I didn't read it super carefully, but yes, sounds like you have bad taste in men, and also, people generally treat you like you act.
If you have confidence/self image issues, you will certainly attract people looking to exploit that for a quick fling. But it also sounds like you just haven't met the right guy, so no fault of yours for bad luck.
Jelkin
My guess would be these bits, to be honest - especially the bold. If you don't dress like that, why did your friend say that? Do you wear lots of makeup or something?
EDIT: Not that you should necessarily change - you might have just been unlucky
EDIT: Not that you should necessarily change - you might have just been unlucky
I dont wear lots of makeup, sometimes i can go without or just abit of concealer.
Think he may have said that because of the blonde hair/boobs thing
thats all i can think of but mine arent even that big...
just makes me think i must be giving off some "signal" that im skanky or something which is frustrating as i dont know what im doing wrong!
MassDebator
It's probably because you're a fat slag. Learn to punctuate your sentences you dirty, uneducated whore. Thanks for your time
Pronoy
Pronoy
Dang...this is meannnn...oh my goodness......
MassDebator
It's probably because you're a fat slag. Learn to punctuate your sentences you dirty, uneducated whore. Thanks for your time
Pronoy
Pronoy
yes yes of course because being a size 8/10, 5ft 7 is obviously fat! and im more active then alot of people at uni so im obviously not unfit
and wtf im at uni! (redbrick not polly btw)
besides its a bloody internet forum, should grammar really matter that much! (its not like im handing in this thread as part of a coursework assignment)
take your judgemental crap and piss off,
thanks for your time
seriously..your story is EXACTLY the same as mine. i can get f**k buddies, and all that but never turns into more.
i used to think whats wrong with me, why am i only worth one thing? and the same as you, i didnt exactly give it easily either, i made them wait so its not like they got what they want then ran off.
but then i finaly realised where id been going wrong all this time.
its because i had so big barriers up that i didnt allow myself to get close close to guys. and i didnt really show as much interest or make out i wanted more.
so basically moral of the story is..if you have a **** buddy and want more from it, tell them
show more interest etc
i used to think whats wrong with me, why am i only worth one thing? and the same as you, i didnt exactly give it easily either, i made them wait so its not like they got what they want then ran off.
but then i finaly realised where id been going wrong all this time.
its because i had so big barriers up that i didnt allow myself to get close close to guys. and i didnt really show as much interest or make out i wanted more.
so basically moral of the story is..if you have a **** buddy and want more from it, tell them
show more interest etcAnonymous
know this may sound a little pathetic asking advice like this on an internet forum but here it goes
I just seem to find that guys only see me as a **** buddy or as some casual fling rather than as serious gf material. I have had some casual sex in the past. However i dont go out picking up guys in clubs, i have never been fingured on the dance floor or shagged in the toilets or anything that gross. Ive had one ONS which i regret and ive had a few **** buddies which ive ended it with now but we're still friends. Now before i get lots of replies screeaming "SLAG!!!!!!!!! OMG". I am still in the single digets club if that really matters, i dont go out wanting to sleep with strangers and i dont wear "tarty" clothes. Now i do get that some people would never ever consider a girl if shes had a ons, regardless of her other attributes, but even if guys dont know this they still dont seem to take me seriously.
heres the low down...
I generally lead a busy & active life. I regularly go caving, climbing, kayacking, and if i can (which isnt very often as im very busy!) i do a spot of archery.
I enjoy keeping fit
Im loud, outgoing and quiet chatty
Im a politics student and (shock horror) im conservative, though slightly libetarian (awaits for comments on how im a toff...Im not upper/middle class, my family are from a council estate, i just worked hard to get here).
I'm 5ft 7, blonde, green eyes and size 8/10 but quiet toned; so not overly skinny, just healthy.
hourglass figure, if that really matters that much
people have said that im easy to talk to, but usually thats not till i get to know them very well.
i try not to take life too seriously, though that isnt always easy, but i guess we're all guilty of doing that from time to time
not really a clubby person, i go maybe a few times a month tops
I do enjoy house parties, pub crawls and gigs if i get the chance to go
love camping and the outdoors
im from essex, i only mentioned that incase anyone was immature enough to believe those stereotypes, though i can kind of understand why people may not get a good impression of me, im blonde, from essex (though i have not lived there all my life so i do not have the accent...thank goodness!) and im chatty so maybe i come across as abit of a joke, i dont know
im an athiest, though slighly agnostic
I may have strong opinions but i dont go round preaching my political or non-religious views to people.
I couldnt care less about celebrity gossip, they are just people afterall
I listen to mainly rock, metal, classic rock, indie with a spot of brit pop and so called "emo music". I listen to most things really as long as its not hip hop or r'n'b (especially the new r'n'b which compared to the old stuff, is truely dreadful)
I hope im nt comming across as arrogant but people have called me hot, attractive, etc before by guys and they seem keen at first but then they sort of "dissapear" and it cant be because ive slept with them because i do not always sleep with them during the early stages. I take things as they come and do what i feel comfortable with, what feels right for me at the time. I guess it could be the conservative thing as ive noticed uni does tend to have alot more left wing students so maybe that puts them off, then again would i want a guy whos completely opposite to me and have little in common with?
But thats the thing though, plenty of guys have complimented me, stare, etc, but rarely initiate anything or try and talk to me in pubs or anything.
not sure how relevant it would be to mention this but i have had depression for the last few years which was pretty bad last yr, though now i think im over the worst of it & try to keep busy, etc. I can be quiet insecure at times and will assume people dont take me seriously, think im stupid, blonde, dappy, etc. I sometimes try too hard to impress people if i feel that i have made a bad impression and that they hate me because of it, though im pretty good around new people. Have had body confidence issues in the past as ive had my ex call me "squidgy" and the ex after that called me fat at a time when felt my most insecure so i lost over a stone and became something silly like 8stone 2 or something, stopped having periods, etc and he still called me fat so tbh im still abit funny around guys i really like cause i just assume they dont like me, only see me as a **** buddy,a quick shag, etc and as a result i tend to do a dissapearing act before i become too involved
my question is, how to i get guys to take me seriously and see me as gf material and not a quick fling before they get bored, find someone better, etc
i know i can be abit ditzy and yes i have blonde hair (mid-dark blonde which i hope doesnt look too silly as my eyebrowns are not too dark), my guy mate once pointed out that my "default look" (which is what stereotype you look most like when you wear something plain, i.e. jeans and a black tee) is a cross between barbie and essex chav. Though i do not dress like a chav,essex girl in the slightest, blonde suits me better than any other hair colour and i cannot help my ditzy moments, i cannot pretend to be come socialist when im not as in the long run this is pointless.
Also how can you tell when a guy really likes you, takes you seriously, rather than seeing you as some dappy, thick girl he can get laid with?
I just seem to find that guys only see me as a **** buddy or as some casual fling rather than as serious gf material. I have had some casual sex in the past. However i dont go out picking up guys in clubs, i have never been fingured on the dance floor or shagged in the toilets or anything that gross. Ive had one ONS which i regret and ive had a few **** buddies which ive ended it with now but we're still friends. Now before i get lots of replies screeaming "SLAG!!!!!!!!! OMG". I am still in the single digets club if that really matters, i dont go out wanting to sleep with strangers and i dont wear "tarty" clothes. Now i do get that some people would never ever consider a girl if shes had a ons, regardless of her other attributes, but even if guys dont know this they still dont seem to take me seriously.
heres the low down...
I generally lead a busy & active life. I regularly go caving, climbing, kayacking, and if i can (which isnt very often as im very busy!) i do a spot of archery.
I enjoy keeping fit
Im loud, outgoing and quiet chatty
Im a politics student and (shock horror) im conservative, though slightly libetarian (awaits for comments on how im a toff...Im not upper/middle class, my family are from a council estate, i just worked hard to get here).
I'm 5ft 7, blonde, green eyes and size 8/10 but quiet toned; so not overly skinny, just healthy.
hourglass figure, if that really matters that much
people have said that im easy to talk to, but usually thats not till i get to know them very well.
i try not to take life too seriously, though that isnt always easy, but i guess we're all guilty of doing that from time to time
not really a clubby person, i go maybe a few times a month tops
I do enjoy house parties, pub crawls and gigs if i get the chance to go
love camping and the outdoors
im from essex, i only mentioned that incase anyone was immature enough to believe those stereotypes, though i can kind of understand why people may not get a good impression of me, im blonde, from essex (though i have not lived there all my life so i do not have the accent...thank goodness!) and im chatty so maybe i come across as abit of a joke, i dont know
im an athiest, though slighly agnostic
I may have strong opinions but i dont go round preaching my political or non-religious views to people.
I couldnt care less about celebrity gossip, they are just people afterall
I listen to mainly rock, metal, classic rock, indie with a spot of brit pop and so called "emo music". I listen to most things really as long as its not hip hop or r'n'b (especially the new r'n'b which compared to the old stuff, is truely dreadful)
I hope im nt comming across as arrogant but people have called me hot, attractive, etc before by guys and they seem keen at first but then they sort of "dissapear" and it cant be because ive slept with them because i do not always sleep with them during the early stages. I take things as they come and do what i feel comfortable with, what feels right for me at the time. I guess it could be the conservative thing as ive noticed uni does tend to have alot more left wing students so maybe that puts them off, then again would i want a guy whos completely opposite to me and have little in common with?
But thats the thing though, plenty of guys have complimented me, stare, etc, but rarely initiate anything or try and talk to me in pubs or anything.
not sure how relevant it would be to mention this but i have had depression for the last few years which was pretty bad last yr, though now i think im over the worst of it & try to keep busy, etc. I can be quiet insecure at times and will assume people dont take me seriously, think im stupid, blonde, dappy, etc. I sometimes try too hard to impress people if i feel that i have made a bad impression and that they hate me because of it, though im pretty good around new people. Have had body confidence issues in the past as ive had my ex call me "squidgy" and the ex after that called me fat at a time when felt my most insecure so i lost over a stone and became something silly like 8stone 2 or something, stopped having periods, etc and he still called me fat so tbh im still abit funny around guys i really like cause i just assume they dont like me, only see me as a **** buddy,a quick shag, etc and as a result i tend to do a dissapearing act before i become too involved
my question is, how to i get guys to take me seriously and see me as gf material and not a quick fling before they get bored, find someone better, etc
i know i can be abit ditzy and yes i have blonde hair (mid-dark blonde which i hope doesnt look too silly as my eyebrowns are not too dark), my guy mate once pointed out that my "default look" (which is what stereotype you look most like when you wear something plain, i.e. jeans and a black tee) is a cross between barbie and essex chav. Though i do not dress like a chav,essex girl in the slightest, blonde suits me better than any other hair colour and i cannot help my ditzy moments, i cannot pretend to be come socialist when im not as in the long run this is pointless.
Also how can you tell when a guy really likes you, takes you seriously, rather than seeing you as some dappy, thick girl he can get laid with?
from what i've read its your taste in men you certainly sound like the type of women id go for but then again personailty comes into it aswel. keep your chin up chick
. pm me if you want sum1 to chat to.
Bearies810
Also, if they're going through the trouble of internet dating they're probably not just looking for a **** buddy.
Did you actually just say that?
i think its the first bit, that you are quite active and busy, cobined with being a smart girl (study politics), good looking, and a toff.
Being active in particular tends to make guys think you are very self sufficient and dont need a guy in your life since you ahev your own interests and can look after yourself. your bright and well off, so men think they can't/dont need to 'provide' for you.
therefore as you can manage fine without a man, the only gap in your life a guy can see to fill is by shaggin you. most men are intimidated by a girl with all the above, as most men like a needy clingy wimpy girl who can form half of a relationship rather than be a person in their own right. look at your paired off friends, they hang around grinning foolishly behind their man making him look good and follwing in his steps.
be your own person and rinse those men for ck and money i say.
Being active in particular tends to make guys think you are very self sufficient and dont need a guy in your life since you ahev your own interests and can look after yourself. your bright and well off, so men think they can't/dont need to 'provide' for you.
therefore as you can manage fine without a man, the only gap in your life a guy can see to fill is by shaggin you. most men are intimidated by a girl with all the above, as most men like a needy clingy wimpy girl who can form half of a relationship rather than be a person in their own right. look at your paired off friends, they hang around grinning foolishly behind their man making him look good and follwing in his steps.
be your own person and rinse those men for ck and money i say.
It's prob either your taste in men or the "vibe" you send out. (I've been told that I don't seem very "approachable", that I have my nose a little in the air or something).
To never consider a girl because she had an ons is a bit silly - many guys have had one too, and many of those who don't, would given the option. So the guys that wouldn't consider you on those terms are not many, and shouldn't limit your possibilities.
I think you should stay as you are Don't go "looking for a boyfriend", these things usually happen when you're not prepared for it. And remember that you have to be comfortable with yourself first, you can't rely and things to be great once you have a boyfriend. It's a cliché, but you really have to love yourself before someone else will.
To never consider a girl because she had an ons is a bit silly - many guys have had one too, and many of those who don't, would given the option. So the guys that wouldn't consider you on those terms are not many, and shouldn't limit your possibilities.
I think you should stay as you are
Don't go "looking for a boyfriend", these things usually happen when you're not prepared for it. And remember that you have to be comfortable with yourself first, you can't rely and things to be great once you have a boyfriend. It's a cliché, but you really have to love yourself before someone else will.I just thought of something, so new post
A lot of girls out there have boyfriends because they really wanted one and went for it. A lot of girls use techniques for guys to stay with them, like withholding sex. ("This will have to be serious if we're going to bed together" ). Or pushing them to update their facebook status, and remove the "single". But how great our those relationships? They are forced. If you started out just sleeping together, you know each other in a different way, and if he develops feelings for you, you know it's for YOU, not because he wants to get laid regularly ( he can do that anyway).
This may seem wrong to a lot of people, and I am not saying you should enter a **** buddy agreement with someone you might have feelings for. But try to choose guys that are open to everything. Hey, if you easily get **** buddies, at least chances are you are good in bed!
A lot of girls out there have boyfriends because they really wanted one and went for it. A lot of girls use techniques for guys to stay with them, like withholding sex. ("This will have to be serious if we're going to bed together" ). Or pushing them to update their facebook status, and remove the "single". But how great our those relationships? They are forced. If you started out just sleeping together, you know each other in a different way, and if he develops feelings for you, you know it's for YOU, not because he wants to get laid regularly ( he can do that anyway).
This may seem wrong to a lot of people, and I am not saying you should enter a **** buddy agreement with someone you might have feelings for. But try to choose guys that are open to everything. Hey, if you easily get **** buddies, at least chances are you are good in bed!
int_applicant
ok.u are anonymous.. so i cant ping you....for real..sign up...i think we can make something out of this....at least a strong friendship.....OK I have to announce to the world...i think i am actually attracted to you already......sign up to TSR and ping me....i will send you my pic....i think you will like it...i am not even trying to be funny...i am serious..i think i am attracted to u already....maybe we could start something?...friendship maybe?..oh by the way its not about the sex....i get laid every 2 days by different girls...but i have decided to kinda chill out for a while.....lol...i am serious though...maybe i can find something serious?
nice try fool
shinytoy
nice try fool
common are u serious?..this thread was started way back in Feb/march?...common get a life, slut
shinytoy
YA AND LEMME GUESS, YOUR STILL SINGLE AND TROLLING FOR PU$$ ON TSr.
GET A LIFE, M
RN
GET A LIFE, M
RNlol..common mennnn , you seem to have a lot of anger in you...dummy
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