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should we end this now?

my gf we started at the start of summer about mid june. we have got pretty close but she told me the other day when uni comes it will prob end and she just wants summer fun. should i end it now as i am developing an emotional relationship with this person i dont want to just wait for september to know we will end it. i went into this thinking if we were goign strong when uni time came we would make it work, should i end it now to save myself the heartache?
i reckon yes, impending splits are always harder to take, because you spend all the time thinking "whats it worth".

ollie :biggrin:
Reply 2
Thats a tough one, if you going to the same uni, then id hang on she might change her mind..

If your going to ones at different ends of the country, it might be worth ending it now and taking the rest of the summer to get over it and get in the mood of meeting someone new at your uni.

But if you think the relationship is something worth dying for, then id fight for it reguarless.
Reply 3
tktaylor6
my gf we started at the start of summer about mid june. we have got pretty close but she told me the other day when uni comes it will prob end and she just wants summer fun. should i end it now as i am developing an emotional relationship with this person i dont want to just wait for september to know we will end it. i went into this thinking if we were goign strong when uni time came we would make it work, should i end it now to save myself the heartache?


Talk to her about it and see if you can work your way round it. I mean I have a long distance relationship, see her only once a month but we have more desire and it has made us so strong. It is difficult but you both need to have trust and patience.
Talk about it, see if you both want the same things.
Reply 4
Well you need to decide whether or not you want to carry on with a futile relationship or not. She obviously isnt interested in anything after summer so... i know its hard.. but i'd say stop it now so that its easier to break away.
Reply 5
I say end it now. You know it's just gonna end come uni - so why let yourself get more involved before you break your heart? Talk to her about it - if she's gonna end it anyway, why not do it now? See if she changes her mind. If she doesnt, break up with her.

All the best :smile: