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I think I've had Genitial Mutilation. watch

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    Okay so basically I have a errmm 'Closed ****.'

    Im born to muslim parents in a muslim country whilst my elder and younger sister were both born here in the UK. Ever since whenever I have been aware that my vaj is like... closed.

    I am not frigid and I get VERY wet etc. I just can't seem to get in. Please dont reply or post if you are going to say 'keep trying/use lube/try sex anyway' Because I've done all these things. I knew from about 3-4 years (Im 17 now) that my vagina is not like other people. Its quite small compared to those in porn or in textbooks and when I spread it open there does not seem to be a gaping whole. I get periods. I can feel a sort of ridged (cant think of word to put here so heres a pic made from punctuation [----]) As though it sbeen sewn up.

    So I was reading this months BMJ and there was an article on GM. And I have never considered this before cause no matter how psycho my parents are Im sure as feck that I this isnt normal practice in the country I was born in (Pakistan) and my parents wouldnt have asked for it. But then I reaslied that when I was born my mum got really sick and was unconsious for days and my dad was here working :/

    So... Im defo not normal down there so dont try to convince me otherwise. I need to get it fixed because I have a huge sexual appetite. I am really embarassed and do not want to go to the GP (even though I am aware that its their job and its confidential but I just can't!) Though I might consider going to one of those anonymus genitial centres (do these exist? or is that just in my head?)


    Thanks in advance for any help.

    xxxx
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    Erm, sounds like you've got an intact hymen.

    It SHOULDN'T look like a 'gaping hole' as you put it, especially when you've got a hymen. Porn stars have had sex thousands of times, you've never put anything in your vagina... of course it's going to look different from theirs.
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    I don't think that's how FGM works....
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    Warning: graphic

    Here is link to some pictures of what female genital mutilation actually is. If you have been subjected to this then you will be missing part or all of your vaginal lips and clitoris.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:FGC_Types.jpg
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    http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/hymen.html

    Have a look here, it might help.
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    (Original post by Diaz89)
    I don't think that's how FGM works....
    Not in any of the articles Ive read, though some have been sewn up so they entirely cant have sex until marriage and then 'opened up' but otherwise it sounds nothing like it.
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    What you're looking for is a GUM clinic.

    Completely anonymous and free.

    http://www.fpa.org.uk/Findaclinic

    You could just book in for an STD... and if anything wasn't normal, they'd tell you.
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    Uhh... go see a doctor just to check? I know it's embarassing so maybe you can make an appointment with someone who's not your GP?
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    http://figitalrevolution.files.wordp..._milkyway1.jpg
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    ditto what everyone else has said about your hymen and that gential mutilation usually involves removal of certain parts. Get a mirror, have a look at what's going on down there and don't compare yourself to a porn star!!

    if you're still concerned then go for an STD test, they'll tell you if anything is out of the ordinary.
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    (Original post by SpamBa)
    Warning: graphic

    Here is link to some pictures of what female genital mutilation actually is. If you have been subjected to this then you will be missing part or all of your vaginal lips and clitoris.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:FGC_Types.jpg
    My clit is intact, but my outer vaginal lips are not so...

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    Erm, sounds like you've got an intact hymen.

    It SHOULDN'T look like a 'gaping hole' as you put it, especially when you've got a hymen. Porn stars have had sex thousands of times, you've never put anything in your vagina... of course it's going to look different from theirs.
    There is no opening at all though, Ive never bene able to put a tampon in and its not my hymen. Theres no actual labia majora just pink flesh that comes together slightly inwarsd in the centre and with these ridges. :/
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    How can I upload a pic without causing an anon fail??

    my photobucket has the same username as my TSR.
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    You HAVE to see someone about this. Why is a doctor worse than someone at a GUM clinic? Either way, making someone who knows their stuff look at it is a good idea, if only to ease your mind.

    EDIT: Is your clitoris intact?
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    never been able to put a tampon in? mmm
    gp would probably be the best place, i know it's embarresing but just think, they have probably seem peoples private parts a million times before.
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    You should get to a doc if you're worried OP :hugs:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    How can I upload a pic without causing an anon fail??

    my photobucket has the same username as my TSR.
    Sign up a new account for both?



    Also, you know you can request a female doctor if it makes it easier.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My clit is intact, but my outer vaginal lips are not so...

    There is no opening at all though, Ive never bene able to put a tampon in and its not my hymen. Theres no actual labia majora just pink flesh that comes together slightly inwarsd in the centre and with these ridges. :/
    Do you have periods? If so, there IS an opening, otherwise the blood wouldn't be able to get out and it would cause a lot of problems.

    You can't upload a picture of it on here as that would breach our nudity rules. But if you're concerned, you really need to go to either your GP or the GUM clinic. Tbh I'd go for the GP, as if there IS a problem, they will be able to refer you to gynaecology, whereas the GUM clinic quite possibly would have to send you back to your GP for that anyway.
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    You just confused the turd out of me.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    How can I upload a pic without causing an anon fail??

    my photobucket has the same username as my TSR.
    you shouldn't be embarrassed about going to the GP, they see vaginas and penises alllll the time. Honestly, they won't judge you or think it's a weird query in the slightest.
    Or go to a sexual health clinic or GUM clinic if you really want. Ring and ask to make an appointment, tell them the reason. You need to put your mind at rest. It's free and people there are trained to be non-judgemental and respectful. :console:
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    (Original post by Helenia)
    Do you have periods? If so, there IS an opening, otherwise the blood wouldn't be able to get out and it would cause a lot of problems.

    You can't upload a picture of it on here as that would breach our nudity rules. But if you're concerned, you really need to go to either your GP or the GUM clinic. Tbh I'd go for the GP, as if there IS a problem, they will be able to refer you to gynaecology, whereas the GUM clinic quite possibly would have to send you back to your GP for that anyway.
    It was more just a drawing on paint. I could see my dignity dying a slow and painful death if I were to upload a picture of my wagina on the internet!
 
 
 
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