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    I'm really embarrassed about this so no flaming please.

    So recently my boyfriend and I have begun fingering one another sort of with the anticipation of sex following soon.

    Anyway he tried to put more than one finger in me and it hurt so much just trying to put it in that I had tears in my eyes and had to make him stop.

    Now I'm really scared about how much the real time will hurt. Are two fingers wider than a penis? It's kind of difficult to measure. I tried to get two of my own fingers in as well but couldn't. Is there something wrong? Am I too tight? Or is it supposed to be this painful?
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    Have you ever tried it before? its totally normal that it hurts.

    My gf had the same thing and at first I couldnt even get my whole index finger in her because it hurt, but gradually after we tried a few more times she "stretched" more and now i can get two fingers in and she likes it fast where as before i had to go slow because it hurt for her.

    point is, you just gotta try a few more times and you have to make sure you're totally relaxed too! enjoy it and have fun and you wont be as tight.
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    No, two fingers are not wider than most penises, but getting used to something wider than a tampon / one finger should come with gentleness and time. Your vaginal muscles aren't used to opening up yet.

    Yes, have lots of going slowly practice, making sure you are turned on and wet (naturally and/or with lube) before you try anything larger. If you have enough privacy in the bathroom, a warm bath is both relaxing and wet.
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