How can I make myself look better?

I just got back with my ex boyfriend and things were going ok until the about a week ago he said I was fat and ugly and that he didn't want me to see his friends. I was a bit upset and I didn't think it was true. I'm 5'1'' and weigh 6 stone and 1 pound. I have longish blonde hair and my eyes are greeny blue. I thini now though that I am fat and ungly so I need to fix it. What can I do to look better? I don't really know what colour make up would suit my eyes and hair. I'm on a diet and I've done 100 sit up every morning since Tuesday morning and have done extra gymnastics practice and am going to do more swimming too. I have lots of extra time too with it being summer so any help would be good!

Reply 1

Glory

1

just ignore him, i think he has some issues especially after what i read in the other thread about him.. I think i was 9 or 10 stone when i was 16, but i am quiet tall. Have you tried doing a BMI that would tell you if your over weight, to me you dont seem overweight id guess and say ur in propertion.

Reply 2

Saffie

11

You aren't fat. Simple as. And you shouldn't change who you are for anyone other than yourself. I'm sure your boyfriend didn't actually mean it, he just said it because he knew it would get to you. - That's a pretty harsh thing to say, sure he's worth it?

Sorry, that probably wasn't the reply you wanted. But you sound beautiful and really really thin. My friend's 5'1 and 8 stone, and she's thin, I mean she could be an ickle thinner but still, 6 stone sounds anorexic. :afraid:

Reply 3

Tyler Durden

17

I wouldn't bother. The guy sounds like a total waste of time. If he doesn't accept you how you are you should look around for better. 6 stone and 5'1'' sounds perfect (if not a bit low).

In general it's a bad idea in life to do things solely to please other people. If you want to do fitness for your own sake to become healthier etc then I'd look around at some of the threads about exercise. Seriously, if you lose too much weight though you could get quite ill. Your boyfriend sounds like a ******. What kind of guy would actually say that? I'd tell him to piss off and find yourself someone who appreciates you enough as a person not to be cruel to you.

Reply 4

tbm

13

*Saffy*

I just got back with my ex boyfriend and things were going ok until the about a week ago he said I was fat and ugly and that he didn't want me to see his friends. I was a bit upset and I didn't think it was true. I'm 5'1'' and weigh 6 stone and 1 pound. I have longish blonde hair and my eyes are greeny blue. I thini now though that I am fat and ungly so I need to fix it. What can I do to look better? I don't really know what colour make up would suit my eyes and hair. I'm on a diet and I've done 100 sit up every morning since Tuesday morning and have done extra gymnastics practice and am going to do more swimming too. I have lots of extra time too with it being summer so any help would be good!

If your 'boyfriend' seriously thinks you are fat when you only weigh 6 stone, he needs his brain testing.

Personally though I dont think this bloke appreciates you, you are perfect just the way you are. Dont change for him, find someone else who will appreciate you for who you are and not expect you to change for them. You deserve better!!

Reply 5

username9303

3

Yer 6 stone is definitely not fat, far from it. I havent got a clue what you look like but on the weight side, he was most certainly wrong. what a spongemonkey :biggrin:

Reply 6

Saffie

11

bbc BMI calculator

You're off the scale on the BBC BMI calculator, you're so light! I did the nearest one, 6st 7- which gave an underweight BMI of 17.77 (or 17.something)

Reply 7

andyukguy

He sounds like a dick to me.

Andrew

Reply 8

Mata

16

1) Your boyfriend is LYING to you.

Probably because he is insecure about your relationship. He may be afraid that unless he makes you think you can't get anyone else, you will leave him. You are petite, blonde and have blue eyes, I'll bet he's scared that someone else will come along and steal you, and they should. Instead of wasting your energy on him, find a man that will worship you.

2) You don't need to lose weight. At 5'1, six stone is perfectly normal. Losing weight will make you ill, and 100 sit-ups a day just isn't necessary.

Until you dump this guy, you will not be happy. Would you rather be single and happy, or with a guy that puts you down and forces you to feel this way about yourself.

Reply 9

adamu

Sorry babe but i think your going about it the wrong way - its good that you want to look good for him, but for him to say that to you is simply not right unless he was joking and just has a bad sense of humour. If your unhappy with you weight (which you shouldent be at 6 stone) then do something about it - dont just do it for him, you need to feel good about yourself. Oh and you need some relationship reworkings if he talks to you like that. Get a man that respects you for what you are - THEY ARE OUT THERE

Reply 10

~NC~

11

Just ignore him, its what normal people think not people like him. You are definatly not overweight, you should to be honest probebely eat more not diet. Talk to oyur mates to boost your self confidence, don't let waht he said get you down. Enjoy your life and dont let him drag you down, hes probably not worth it.

Reply 11

bean69

Mata

1) Your boyfriend is LYING to you.

Probably because he is insecure about your relationship. He may be afraid that unless he makes you think you can't get anyone else, you will leave him. You are petite, blonde and have blue eyes, I'll bet he's scared that someone else will come along and steal you, and they should. Instead of wasting your energy on him, find a man that will worship you.

2) You don't need to lose weight. At 5'1, six stone is perfectly normal. Losing weight will make you ill, and 100 sit-ups a day just isn't necessary.

Until you dump this guy, you will not be happy. Would you rather be single and happy, or with a guy that puts you down and forces you to feel this way about yourself.

totally agree

Reply 12

Lirael Abhorsen

1

yeah you are definitely not fat! and you sound very attractive. seriously this guy is a bully if he says stuff like this to his gf. this reminds me of my dad saying to my mum when they were going out that he didn't want her to meet his family because she was too fat! 20 yrs on he is ruling her life and is manipulative and a bully. she has lost a lot of self esteem due to him. i really think you do not need to lose any more weight! unless this was a joke and if so a very poor one, definitely get rid of him. if you want to do more exercise make sure you don't overdo it and eat healthily and enough, but there's really no need to go on stringent exercise regimes.

Reply 13

*Saffy*

OP

Thank you for all your replies. It's nice of you to say I'm not fat and that but he's said if before when we were going out so he definately means it. I just wish I could look better really quick but it takes time. I know I wrote a post about him before in another thread Glory, but it got deleted I don't know why. I felt ok until he said some nasty things to me but now I realise they weren't nasty and its the truth, he wouldn't lie to me. I guess the truth hurts even more. I suppose I don't need to do lots of sit ups maybe just 50, but I'm still sticking to the diet. Thank you again. :smile:

Reply 14

andyukguy

*Saffy*

Thank you for all your replies. It's nice of you to say I'm not fat and that but he's said if before when we were going out so he definately means it. I just wish I could look better really quick but it takes time. I know I wrote a post about him before in another thread Glory, but it got deleted I don't know why. I felt ok until he said some nasty things to me but now I realise they weren't nasty and its the truth, he wouldn't lie to me. I guess the truth hurts even more. I suppose I don't need to do lots of sit ups maybe just 50, but I'm still sticking to the diet. Thank you again. :smile:

Andrew

Reply 15

spider from mars

13

Ditch him. He sounds an ickle bit too much little Charlie off Corrie for my liking.

Reply 16

Glory

1

its your choice, but i just dont agree with what he said, i fear you'll make yourself sick. Men lie i think alot of the girls on here can vouch for it, there are some good guys out there, but your bf doesnt sound like it. What kind of guy would cause you pain and not stop when you ask.. id be well rid of him.

Reply 17

*Saffy*

OP

Glory

its your choice, but i just dont agree with what he said, i fear you'll make yourself sick. Men lie i think alot of the girls on here can vouch for it, there are some good guys out there, but your bf doesnt sound like it. What kind of guy would cause you pain and not stop when you ask.. id be well rid of him.

But Glory, about that other thread, he said I'd do it if I love him and I do, I don't want him to dump me :frown:

Really I don't.

Reply 18

Glory

1

*Saffy*

But Glory, about that other thread, he said I'd do it if I love him and I do, I don't want him to dump me :frown:

Really I don't.

yeh maybe you do love him, but hes pressuring you into it by playing with your head. Guys like him make you feel like you arnt good enough for them saying you fat and ugly. They make you think that your lucky to be with him becos no1 else will look at you twice cos your "fat".

What do your girl mates think about him, maybe you should talk to them?

Love is blind afterall and we can only offer advice, your friends however will know him and about your relationship and will probabily be able to see his true intentions.

Reply 19

*Saffy*

OP

Glory

yeh maybe you do love him, but hes pressuring you into it by playing with your head. Guys like him make you feel like you arnt good enough for them saying you fat and ugly. They make you think that your lucky to be with him becos no1 else will look at you twice cos your "fat".

What do your girl mates think about him, maybe you should talk to them?

Love is blind afterall and we can only offer advice, your friends however will know him and about your relationship and will probabily be able to see his true intentions.

My girl mates say he's nice, they haven't seen much of him since we got back together with it being summer, I didn't tell them about why we split up first time round (the reason was sort of in the other thread, he said I wasn't good enough in bed but I wasn't ready) cos I was embarressed. I find it a bit hard to speak to them about these things face to face. I am lucky to have him becuase like you say, all the other boys would think I'm to fat. I do appreciate all your help though, its good to see what other people would do.

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