How can I make myself look better?

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Reply 20

Your BMI is 16.1 and that is no way fat. It's classed as underweight. Personaly I think your height and weight should be okay as it is probably fine for your body structure. I don't think you should be doing a diet at all. Eat healthy and that yes but don't put yourself on a diet to lose weight cause as people have said it will just make you ill. I've been there and done that . It isn't easy to get out of that rut.

If he's saying your fat just tell him that your classed as underweight as it is and say "do you want to be the reason for me to go anorexic. If you do, fine, keep saying that I'm fat." He will soon shut up about it as he'll realise what he is saying could do to you.

Also if he's so superficial to say that your ugly he's in the relationship for the wrong reasons. It doesn't matter what a person looks like. If two people are in a relationship it is because they love each other. If he's saying your fat and ugly he can't really love you as you might think he does. If he keeps it up I would dump him as he isn't worth the pain and agrivation. "No one has the right to make you feel infirior without your concent" - can't remember who originaly said it but it's true.

Reply 21

*Saffy*

Thanks for your reply. I don't think I'm anorexic as I don't make myself sick, I just don't want to put any weight on as he'll definately dump me then. When we got together first time he said it too and used to make me cry but then he would say sorry. I didn't think I'd get back with him when we split up but then I missed him so much I was so happy when he asked me out again! :biggrin:

I just want to make him happy, he doesn't want to show his friends me if I'm a fat girfriend cos they'll probably tease him won't they? I just wish I could make him proud and glad to take me out places nice, thats all.

Reply 22

Glory

anorexicia is not making yourself sick, its not giving your body enough food, in other words starvation and over exercise. Making yourself sick after binging is bulemia, ive seen friends go throught both and it brings tears to my eyes thinking about it. They just wouldnt beleive any of their mates trying to tell them.

There better now, they saw what they were putting their friends and family throught, and got healthy. They were bullied being told they were fat and ugly by some girls from school.

Reply 23

adamu

bulimia nervosa is making yourself sick - anorexia is not eating

Reply 24

*Saffy*

adamu

bulimia nervosa is making yourself sick - anorexia is not eating

Yeah but course I'm not going to eat if I want to lose weight, otherwise I won't lose any will I? And I need to lose some! :smile:

Reply 25

adamu

Stopping eating is not the way to lose weight - infact its very bad for you and can have the opposite effect. You need to eat as normal but healthy more balanced foods and get some exercise.

Please for god sake dont diet/stop eating.

Reply 26

Glory

Right you dont want to beleive any of us when we say your underweight, and that your not overweight.. Why dont you go and book an appointment with your doctor, he will be able tell you what weight you should be and he is trained afterall. The doctor wont lie to you afterall your health is his best interest.

Reply 27

at least lara

englishstudent

I wouldn't bother. The guy sounds like a total waste of time. If he doesn't accept you how you are you should look around for better. 6 stone and 5'1'' sounds perfect (if not a bit low).

In general it's a bad idea in life to do things solely to please other people. If you want to do fitness for your own sake to become healthier etc then I'd look around at some of the threads about exercise. Seriously, if you lose too much weight though you could get quite ill. Your boyfriend sounds like a ******. What kind of guy would actually say that? I'd tell him to piss off and find yourself someone who appreciates you enough as a person not to be cruel to you.

what he said :smile:

Reply 28

Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

*Saffy*

I just got back with my ex boyfriend and things were going ok until the about a week ago he said I was fat and ugly and that he didn't want me to see his friends. I was a bit upset and I didn't think it was true. I'm 5'1'' and weigh 6 stone and 1 pound. I have longish blonde hair and my eyes are greeny blue. I thini now though that I am fat and ungly so I need to fix it. What can I do to look better? I don't really know what colour make up would suit my eyes and hair. I'm on a diet and I've done 100 sit up every morning since Tuesday morning and have done extra gymnastics practice and am going to do more swimming too. I have lots of extra time too with it being summer so any help would be good!

sweetie dont be dieting you weigh less and than me and ya are taller so lucky you :p:

but sweetie when people break up they say things they dont mean :frown:

- go get dolled up with ya girlfriends and go out on a night on the town and life the night to the fullest!!!!!! xoxo

Reply 29

Bilal

The dude sounds like a prick. Ignore him.

Reply 30

dreamer86

You're underweight as it is and your bullying, controlling boyfriend is brainwashing you into thinking you are fat. I think he is insecure as you are obviously attractive and he thinks you might leave him. Which, in my opinion, you most definately should. Ok, I don't know the whole situation, but any guy who makes you cry on a regualr basis, especially one who cruelly insults you and has possibly triggered an illness is not worth it. Be single and happy, and when the right guy comes along who truly appreciates you you'll realise just how much of a bastard your current boyfriend is.

Reply 31

adamu

Have you tried reassuring him that you love him, find him attractive - this would help no end!

Reply 32

*Saffy*

Sorry its not that I don't believe you but you don't know what I look like, I am ugly too, :bawling:

I just started the thread to see if anyone can help me on looking better! I appreciate you replying, I really do and I'll think about what you've all said. :smile:

Reply 33

Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

*Saffy*

Sorry its not that I don't believe you but you don't know what I look like, I am ugly too, :bawling:

I just started the thread to see if anyone can help me on looking better! I appreciate you replying, I really do and I'll think about what you've all said. :smile:

awk sweetie I dont believe that for a second! everyones beautiful ^_^ and its not and old cliché or to make you feel better but its the truth! you are made in a likeness of God and sweetheart that is the most beautifulest thing in the world :smile:

and if your boyfriend is being like that I would say hes not worth it...you derserve someone better, who loves you for you and is not ashamed to be seen with you HE IS THE ONE THAT DOESNT DESERVE YOU AND SHOULD BE ASHAMED EVEN STANDING NEAR YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND HE WANTS TO HIDE YOU FROM THE WORLD!! :hugs:

xoxo

Reply 34

_poptart_

So why are you still with him?? Hate to say it but he is treating you like $hit how dare he call you fat when you so obviously arent!!!! Find someone who actually appreciates you.

Reply 35

MagicNMedicine

this boyfriend sounds like a right one doesn't he, look where he's got Saffy, he can bully her and pick on her and get away with it because he's used the ultimate bullying trick - making her feel like she can't get anyone else and she's lucky to have him.

You need to get a hard look at reality and see whats going on and being single is better than being bullied, I'm not trying to use scare tactics but the way that you're starting off here Saffy, you're in danger of ending up one of those women who ends up with abusive blokes who beat you up and then you stay with them because you think that's all you can get.

Have a hard think about this, is your boyfriend really your ideal man, or are you just wishing so hard that he would change his ways and you could make him into your ideal man. If it's the second one then that says it all.

I'd never bully a girlfriend or anyone for that matter in any way. I appreciate that you are worried about being 'left on the shelf' but what I predict will happen is you will carry on with this bloke for a certain amount of time, the more you let him get away with the worse he will do until eventually you can't tolerate it any more. You'll be single, feel down and cry about it for a bit and then meet someone else who actually makes you feel good about yourself and doesn't put you down in this way. Then you will review this last boyfriend in a different light and wonder how many genuine lads passed you by while you were shacked up with this bully.

Right now onto your question, I am male so no expert on stuff like what makeup will suit your eyes and stuff like that, I'll leave it to the girls but on the weight thing wooooah 6stone whatever you don't want to be losing weight. Apart from making yourself ill the thing you're going to do if you try and slim from that is make your physique look more "male" as thats one thing about skinny girls, they lose the female body shape which is attractive from a male point of view, also if you go starving yourself you are going to lose shape from your breasts but because the skin is going to kind of be at it's natural shape for your breasts, you risk getting saggy tits. Not good!

Having said that, gymming and fitness stuff is all good, as long as you're keeping enough calories and carbohydrates coming into your body to fuel it. Go for some runs, maybe some swimming, or join a gym, I use gyms and what you always notice there is that the girls who go regularly have bodies which are fit as, even the bigger girls, because the exercise tones up your body firms up your thighs and arms which makes them look toned and a turn on. DO NOT go starving your body and increase the amount of exercise you do, I have a female friend who does that and she goes through spells of fainting because she's not fuelling her body what it needs.

Reply 36

viviki

why don't you just dump him. You are too thin you cant possibly be fat at that weight. Hes making you feel bad about yourself is it worth it.

Reply 37

Mata

Ok... say that everything he says *is* true (though everyone thinks it isn't) and that you *are* overweight (which medically you aren't) and you *are* ugly (which is unlikely as your nasty bf went out with you in the first place).

Do you WANT a man who *tells* you that you are fat and ugly? Whether you are or not isn't the point. As your boyfriend he shouldn't say these things. I ghave a friend who is a size 20, and her boyfriend would *never* comment on her weight or the way she looks.

Your boyfriend is NOT good for you. Whatever your weight or looks, you don't have the problem. The problem with the way you look is him, not you. You are fine.

Reply 38

Sephrenia

sweetie, there is no way in the world you can possibly be fat at 6 stone. im the skinniest person in my school, and trust me my school has lots of skinny people, and im almost 8st. you are perfect in who you are, and nothing can change that unless you diet and try to loose weight. look at your clothing size, im betting that it isnt even in double figures, or if it is very low ones.
your boyfreind isnt worth a damn if he is telling you that you are ugly and fat, because EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL in their own way.
honey, please dont do anything silly like becoming anorexic, or going on a diet, because it will do you more harm than good. my heart is with you, and pleasepleaseplease believe us all when we say you are beautiful, and dieting and excess exercise will damage your body.
please believe in yourself and what you can do - you are beautiful, and in no way are you fat.
look after your body - its the only one you will have and it is perfect for you because it is unique, like you. never forget that EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL.
tricia xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Reply 39

Amlea

Dump him! and then find someone who makes you feel beautiful! Your so not fat as well. Focus on the bad things about him...it will make you feel better.