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    Re-posting- sorry, no silly answers please, I'm upset as it already is

    Please can someone help...I don't understand myself.

    Right, Sorry if this is long:

    There was this guy who got on the same bus and waited at the same bus stop as me in year 7. We went to different schools and despite his looks I started falling for him when I was in year 8. Every day these feelings would become stronger and stronger as I saw him every day. I could not stop thinking about him, every moment of every day. Because we got on the same bus it meant seeing him at least 4-5 times a week. I had this crush on the guy until around year 10 and I could swear down that I loved him. In year 10, one day he came to the bus stop with his girlfriend and started making out with her right in front of me, obv. I was really upset. Then him being in year 11 I didn't see him much anymore. Now I'm in year 11 and I totally forgot about him and it's been almost a year. The other day I was going through friends list and saw a familiar picture, I clicked on it and it revealed to be him. He has over 200 photos which he's been tagged in and for the last week I've been going on it almost every day and looking through them, and the feelings are coming back again even though I don't have him added you can still look through them. I can't email him because he might not even know who I am and it would be weird saying 'oh hi, i used to get the same bus as you and I have this huge crush on you.'

    I couldn't concentrate today in maths and science. My friends are all saying that I don't seem like myself. I never though I would feel this way. I want to make a fake account and pose as a guy and add him and ask him if he finds it ok to fall for a girl that gets the same bus and ask him if he's ever been in the same situation. But it sounds so stupid.

    I'm really confused because I don't even know what these stupid feelings are. I've been having non-stop dreams about him for the past week and how we might live together in the future...it's never going to happen. I'm just being sooooo stupid.


    SOMEONE PLEASEEEEEE HELP!

    P i think the main reason why I fell for him in the first place was his personality- he was funny every time he was with his friends talking, he let women on the bus first...gentlemen...
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    Don't make a fake account. That's kind of creepy and stalker-ish. You'd have to make a fake account and add him, and he probably wouldn't even accept because he doesn't know who the fake person is. Even if he did accept, he'd think it was pretty strange that some guy he doesn't know and who only has one friend if asking him personal questions about a girl at a bus stop... bad, bad idea.

    You're not in love with him, nor have you ever been. You've had a crush on him. It's hard to be in love with someone you've never even spoken to. He could be a real jerk for all you know.

    My only advice to you is to add him over facebook or whatever online thing you use, and in a message say something like, "Hey, didn't we ride the same bus for a few years?"

    If he accepts and responds back to your message, keep the conversation going and maybe try to get to know him a bit. If he doesn't accept your friend invite or write back, you're at the same place you are right now and you haven't really lost anything.


    Let's just say, I think you know why I've given you this answer
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    I had a crush like this for absolutely ages. I never really noticed him until one night we shared a drunken kiss. It was a one-off and we didn't really speak afterwards, but I remained smitten for like two years after it, even after I left college and would very rarely see him.

    To be honest, I only got over it when I went to uni and was in a completely different environment with new people. Obviously back home there was more stuff to remind me of him, and every time I went out I'd pray he'd be there... desperate times. I actually prayed to God to let me kiss him again haha. (Didn't work.)

    No idea why my feelings were so strong, but yeah. Perhaps when you leave school you can forget about him!

    (I'm not trying to be all discouraging, I'm not saying nothing will ever happen, but you can't wait for him forever. If it's meant to be, it'll be. )
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    firstly ,stop looking through his photos. this will not help you at all, and tbh the fact that it went from year 7 to year 11 without anything happening its unfortunately a pretty good indicator that this wont work out, sorry to have to put it so bluntly. its extrememly hard to just 'stop' thinking about someone like people will tell you,, but its important to focus on other things- chat to your friends, go to the cinema, anything to distract you. there are many other guys out there who have great personalities and are funny, he will definitely not be the only one. hard as it is, you have to move on, good luck
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    (Original post by sil3nt_cha0s)
    Don't make a fake account. That's kind of creepy and stalker-ish. You'd have to make a fake account and add him, and he probably wouldn't even accept because he doesn't know who the fake person is. Even if he did accept, he'd think it was pretty strange that some guy he doesn't know and who only has one friend if asking him personal questions about a girl at a bus stop... bad, bad idea.

    You're not in love with him, nor have you ever been. You've had a crush on him. It's hard to be in love with someone you've never even spoken to. He could be a real jerk for all you know.

    My only advice to you is to add him over facebook or whatever online thing you use, and in a message say something like, "Hey, didn't we ride the same bus for a few years?"

    If he accepts and responds back to your message, keep the conversation going and maybe try to get to know him a bit. If he doesn't accept your friend invite or write back, you're at the same place you are right now and you haven't really lost anything.


    Let's just say, I think you know why I've given you this answer
    Yahoo answers eh?
 
 
 
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