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    I always find myself falling for men who are significantly older than me (I am nearly 22) and out of reach, either because they are married or in a position of authority over me.
    I hang out with guys my own age a lot but I rarely am attracted to them in that way. Whereas I cannot stop wanting the ones I do like.

    Does anyone else have this problem, and how did you deal with it?
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    i fell for, fell in love with, moved in with and got engaged to a man 12 years older than me

    so it does sometimes work out, you just have to pick the ones that arnt married lol
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    Nobody said you can't fancy older men. I think most women find men their own age a bit hit and miss, there's a few mature ones and a lot of immature ones that act like teenagers and make you feel like you're back at high school.

    As long as they're not married or in a relationship, age doesn't really matter. Surely you know other people you can hang out with, or have people you can go out and meet people with.

    I don't really see what the problem is?
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    Nothing wrong with being attracted to older guys. Different people find different things attractive/appealing. It's nothing 'wrong' Just try to stay away from the married ones :p: some wives maybe not so open minded
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    Is your dad dead?

    EDIT: As harsh as that sounds, it's common for women who had a very poor relationship with their father or his death at a young age to be attracted to older men.
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    I have to say, that boy in your sig is so cute
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    There's nothing at all wrong with liking men older than you, I very much have a liking for older men. My parents have an age gap of 16 years, and they've been together 25 - with the right man, it really can work.
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    No problem at all, in fact...I'm in a similar position! Age does not matter to me at all and it shouldn't....but obviously don't try and get one who's married or already in a relationship! :-P

    But if you do like someone, and they are single etc then go for it! Don't hold back based on what you think society will feel....that's how I see it lol.
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    My problem is the opposite, I attract old men and I want guys my age to like me :sad:
 
 
 
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