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    I go an A in science today and I told him and he was like You can never get an A*, I bet Sarah (ex-best friend) got double A*
    He ALWAYS compares me to her and it really annoys me...when he said the above I went into my room and just burst into tears. I'm trying my hardest and all I can achieve is an A. The fact that he's always so interested in what others get really bugs me.

    I have a very good father and he tries to do anything I ask for...New laptop, books etc. But someone I can't be the 'perfect daughter'

    I do a fair revision but I get bored easily and distracted hence why I don't always do so well. Maybe I should just give up my dream of being a Dentist and getting the grades I need. Every time my dad compares me to others I get less motivated and I can't be bothered anymore. I've spoken to him about this and he says he won't do it again and he does it again, so I'm not talking to him again...At the end of the day, he's still my dad and he has raised me for all these years.
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    your dad a**h********
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    "I do a fair revision but I get bored easily and distracted hence why I don't always do so well."

    theres your god damn problem
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    (Original post by Media student)
    your dad a**h********
    Interesting number of stars on the 'hole' :rolleyes:
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    Your dad seems like a completely reasonable father who loves his daughter. Once in a while these issues materialise out of nowhere, just try and accept he wants the best for you.
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    (Original post by Justagirl4)
    I go an A in science today and I told him and he was like You can never get an A*, I bet Sarah (ex-best friend) got double A*
    He ALWAYS compares me to her and it really annoys me...when he said the above I went into my room and just burst into tears. I'm trying my hardest and all I can achieve is an A. The fact that he's always so interested in what others get really bugs me.

    I have a very good father and he tries to do anything I ask for...New laptop, books etc. But someone I can't be the 'perfect daughter'

    I do a fair revision but I get bored easily and distracted hence why I don't always do so well. Maybe I should just give up my dream of being a Dentist and getting the grades I need. Every time my dad compares me to others I get less motivated and I can't be bothered anymore. I've spoken to him about this and he says he won't do it again and he does it again, so I'm not talking to him again...At the end of the day, he's still my dad and he has raised me for all these years.
    You said you wanted to become a dentist, so why not turn your dad into your motivation. Prove him wrong, so when your grades come through you will have that A* and when he asks what your old mate got you will tell him lower than you.
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    i think he's maybe trying to motivate you, but you're not taking it that way?
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    (Original post by puma21)
    You said you wanted to become a dentist, so why not turn your dad into your motivation. Prove him wrong, so when your grades come through you will have that A* and when he asks what your old mate got you will tell him lower than you.
    Thanks
    I'll try.
    xoxo
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    Keep your grades to yourself in future or share them with those who will celebrate with you.
    Congrats on that A!
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    My parents used to do that too. It used to piss the hell out of me too. But I'll be honest, the main reason I got as good results as I did in my GCSEs was because of them, pressurising/encouraging/wanting to do them proud... whatever you call it, and it's landed me in a fantastic uni, so I guess I have no grounds to complain.

    But eventually, you need to study for yourself and not for your parents. And they need to realise this too.
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    (Original post by KayK)
    Interesting number of stars on the 'hole' :rolleyes:
    'ASS HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO-le'

    Meet the Fockers, oh yes. :woo:
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    (Original post by puma21)
    You said you wanted to become a dentist, so why not turn your dad into your motivation. Prove him wrong, so when your grades come through you will have that A* and when he asks what your old mate got you will tell him lower than you.

    This, I'm 24 and what my dad says still matters to me. Earlier in my course I was having a rough time catching busses and being on time (in my defence I leave the house at 6:20 most days and with 2 busses and 2 trains and 3 miles walking to Uni, only one of those has to be late/not show up and i'm stuffed).

    He kindly gave me a lift to the train-station one particular morning and I got the hour long 'You're going to screw this up speach'.

    Since then in a rage of fury I've been early or on time to every lesson, every day & working like a headcase in the evenings and am on my way to my first (real) distinction. (everyone who managed to apply for uni in my class was given a distinction in the 'Applying to UCAS' module :laugh:)

    Some people naturally compare, My mother once came 2nd in a test at school, was delighted told my grandfather who's response was 'why weren't you first'. 30 years on when she studied for her degree she came top of her class with full honours.

    So Your decision:
    A) decide you don't give a damn what he thinks and do what you like
    or
    B) Set out to prove him wrong, prove you can do it
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    ITT:Parents in annoying to their kids shocker.

    Get over it.
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    He probably only wants you to do well in life.

    Becoming a dentist is easily one of the most difficult and competitive careers that exist. (In some ways harder than Medicine, due to specialism and course entry)

    So just keep on working at it. And remember he only wants the best for you.
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    I think he is being a tad harsh if you ask me... i mean "A" is a really high grade, he should be supporting you and praising you not comparing you to others! That angers me... if i were you i'd have another talk to him about it, i wouldn't stand for that.
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    An A is an excellent grade, so I don't know what your father is worried about. I can emphasize with the ex-friend bit though because i have an ex-friend who always gets better grades than me, each and every time i have to take certain measures to make sure he doensn't find out about it.

    I read post number 1 and number 3 and thought: WTF??
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    Your dad is in love with Sarah.
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    (Original post by CityOfMyHeart)
    'ASS HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO-le'

    Meet the Fockers, oh yes. :woo:
    :yes: You're too :cool: lol
 
 
 
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