So I'm 21 and my partner is 24, we have been together for about a year and a half. We both still live at home as both still at uni so cant afford to move in together yet. The problem is his dad. He makes him pay half of all bills even though he's at uni and cant afford to, if he falls behind on payments his dad threatens to chuck him out, tells him i'm not allowed round and if i do i'll be chucked out and threatens to take some of his stuff. This is causing stress as he lost his last job due to it closing. However he has now found two new jobs so just has to pick one, his dad still isnt happy and expects him to go away for a week with him to work up the country to earn some money, even if this means missing uni. He also only told him last night when we have already paid and booked for things for valentines day, which is when he said he had to leave.
He never really has liked me, as doesnt invite me to any meals they have togehter, and if he asks if i can come they say no its just family even though his dads gf can come. I've never done anything to offend him but the more i've got to know his dad the more i dont like him and its having a bad impact on my partner.
I dont know what to do to help him, should I go round anyway and see if he says anything to me, all will this make things worse for him? I've tried to see if i can afford to have a palce with him but we both just cannot afford it. My parents have said he can move in with me, but because my partner is now starting to learn to drive, we live in the middle of nowhere so he cant get to uni or work here.
Sorry this has gona on so long lol, its just really frustrating and i want to help but dont know how? Any ideas?
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- Thread Starter
- 05-02-2010 17:03
- 05-02-2010 17:10
Just plant drugs on his dad and get him arrested. That'll ruin his life rather than just moaning at him.
- 05-02-2010 17:32
if at 24 you are still living at home then he needs to pay IMO