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    experiencing my rebellious side by seeing someone 6 years older than me. I'm 17 and he is 23 and about to go to Berlin for a good few months.

    We've been seeing each other for a good few weeks and things have been going really well. We haven't really discussed our relationship status considering he's going away there's not much point. He wants to keep in touch and seems interested to carry on where we left off when he comes back.

    The problem is is that he's invited me round his house, and I haven't had the chance to tell him I am still very much a virgin.

    Now I don't know how much of a deal to make, should i go for it if the situation arises, or ask him nicely to wait and see where we are when he comes back. I don't really want to lose my virginity in a casual way and I'm worried I'd get horribly attached if it were to happen, and be gutted when he goes away.

    Bit of a confused problem, any suggestions or opinions at the sacred-ness of virginity would be appreciated.
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    Date someone your own age. There is way to big an age gap between you and him - frankly it's worrying you get on so well. He should be thinking about a mortgage and career, you should be thinking about university.
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    The thread title sounds like the description to a porno.
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    (Original post by Jingers)
    The thread title sounds like the description to a porno.
    And the post itself doesn't?
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    (Original post by Jingers)
    The thread title sounds like the description to a porno.

    A GOOD PORNO!
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    (Original post by ras90)
    A GOOD PORNO!
    I think it's in my collection actually... :sly:

    I'll go check.
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    You sound pretty damn stupid, but that's young girls for you these days.
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    (Original post by Mazty)
    Date someone your own age. There is way to big an age gap between you and him - frankly it's worrying you get on so well. He should be thinking about a mortgage and career, you should be thinking about university.
    I'm 23. I couldn't be further from a mortgage and a career. I'm not immature or stupid or younger than my years. In fact I consider myself to be very mature but that doesn't mean I don't want to have fun. 23 is incredibly young to be tying yourself into lifelong debt and serious career decisions!

    It makes me wonder how old you are if you think those are the goals every 23yr old should have in mind?!

    That being said there is no way I'd date a 17yr old. No offence to teenagers but as much as I don't have mortgages on my mind, I also don't the same ideas/goals as I did when I was 17.
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    It's not so much the sacredness of virginity! You've answered your own question if you read what you've written. You've said you don't want to lose your virginity in a casual way, you haven't discussed your relationship with him and it may make it harder for you when he leaves. Don't put yourself under any pressure.
    You can both carry on where you left of when he comes back IF you both feel the same way then (no guarantees there though).
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    Whatever you do, dont be pressured into anything.
    Personally, I wouldnt, I like to think that being a virgin gets me a little more respect from some people. But then I'm not you.
    And I dont think dating a 23 yr old is rebellious...it sounds ideal to me...* african beliefs speaking*
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    I wouldn't do it if I were you; it seems as though the risks could possibly outweigh the benefits! If you honestly weren't bothered then i'd say go for it, but if you don't want to lose your virginity in a casual situation then I'd hold off.

    Unless he is a decent guy, and you feel as though you could talk to him about it/where you're at?

    If not then wait for now, and see how things go when he gets back. He'll respect your decision if he's decent and if not.. Well, it's a good thing you didn't do it in the first place.
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    (Original post by Jingers)
    The thread title sounds like the description to a porno.
    Yeah, I was hoping for a megaupload/rapidshare link in the OP.
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    All the young girls (14-17), all want to grow up quickly and start wearing make up and 'dating' dudes in their 20's, calm te **** down, being in a relationshipis overrated, and mostpeople i know get into relationships to avoid loneliness
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    That being said there is no way I'd date a 17yr old. No offence to teenagers but as much as I don't have mortgages on my mind, I also don't the same ideas/goals as I did when I was 17.

    Thanks for your reply compared to the others :P
    Although I understand the risqué issues that have apparently sparked the imagination of many adolescent boys, a point of defence is the maturity levels of males and females. I would not want to be in a relationship with a younger guy - although i understand that this particular age gap is a bit different.

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    (Original post by Jingers)
    The thread title sounds like the description to a porno.
    OMG MY SENTIMENTS PRECISELY.

    on a more serious note; er... iunno. Just slip it into the conversation if you're really close enough with him to consider, yknow sexual relations...

    Um, yeah. Tell him to 'be gentle'.

    USE A CONDOM
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    What the hell is this?
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    (Original post by TuckingFypo™)
    Yeah, I was hoping for a megaupload/rapidshare link in the OP.
    I know!! This forum is such a letdown sometimes

    and also your sig made me doubletake:eek:
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    (Original post by supergirl182)
    I know!! This forum is such a letdown sometimes

    ...I think you're looking on the wrong forums
    you want a very different type of website...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks for your reply compared to the others :P
    Although I understand the risqué issues that have apparently sparked the imagination of many adolescent boys, a point of defence is the maturity levels of males and females. I would not want to be in a relationship with a younger guy - although i understand that this particular age gap is a bit different.

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    Exactly! I am female (and bisexual) and I wouldn't date a guy or a girl younger than me.

    However when I was 17 I probably wouldn't have had a problem dating someone 23! I think it all depends on the person. Some 17yr olds are going to be a lot more mature than boys their age and they are then better suited to guys in their early 20s.

    My advice regarding your "purity" is to be careful. Don't do anything you're not comfortable and there is no rush. It's not a race. I was 19 before I slept with anyone. And even then I was drunk and I somewhat regret it.
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    (Original post by sweetnesspink)
    I'm 23. I couldn't be further from a mortgage and a career. I'm not immature or stupid or younger than my years. In fact I consider myself to be very mature but that doesn't mean I don't want to have fun. 23 is incredibly young to be tying yourself into lifelong debt and serious career decisions!

    It makes me wonder how old you are if you think those are the goals every 23yr old should have in mind?!

    That being said there is no way I'd date a 17yr old. No offence to teenagers but as much as I don't have mortgages on my mind, I also don't the same ideas/goals as I did when I was 17.
    I'm 21 :p:
    I never said the guy wouldn't want to have fun, I don't know where you got that from, but basically life at 23 should be vastly different to life at 17, well in terms of how the two ages think about life.
    And anyway, you just backed my point that a 23 year old shouldn't have much, if anything, in common with a 17 year old.
 
 
 
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