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    I need some help, but I don't know who I should talk to or what I can do to sort my problems.

    Basically, I have really low self-belief and it's affecting my college work and my happiness in general. I don't believe that I can acheive anything so I don't bother doing anything, no matter how much I want it.

    For instance, I want to reduce my body fat percentage but I find it really difficult to get myself out running and I am really quite impatient with it. If I don't see results in a week or two (which is hugely unrealistic) then I get demoralised and give up. It's not down to laziness, although I could be described as lazy, I think something is wrong in my head...

    If someone could reccomend some sort of professional help that could help me, I would be forever thankful

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    Have you got a counselling service at uni?
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    (Original post by hannah_dru)
    Have you got a counselling service at uni?
    Think I might do. Although I think they are specialised in dealing with people who self-harm or who have family issues. It's worth a try though.

    But if it doesn't work, do I have any other options?
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    This might sound silly, but if it's not a serious issue (as in, not causing major problems yet) then you could give self-help books a try? Low confidence is really, really common and whilst it can have a really negative effect on everything.. It's often not that difficult to fix. Equally, you could be a bit cheesy and google 'self-esteem building exercises' or something like that.

    If you actually want to talk to someone about it then you could speak to someone at college (a tutor? student support service?) and let them know that it's affecting your work, and they might be able to point you in the direction of some help.

    If you honestly feel that there really is a deeper, serious issue (obviously we don't know your exact circumstances) you could always give your GP a try. If it's getting you to the extent where it's affecting your every day life, then it's not trivial and something that they could probably help you with.

    Good luck.
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    (Original post by raisin.)
    This might sound silly, but if it's not a serious issue (as in, not causing major problems yet) then you could give self-help books a try? Low confidence is really, really common and whilst it can have a really negative effect on everything.. It's often not that difficult to fix. Equally, you could be a bit cheesy and google 'self-esteem building exercises' or something like that.

    If you actually want to talk to someone about it then you could speak to someone at college (a tutor? student support service?) and let them know that it's affecting your work, and they might be able to point you in the direction of some help.

    If you honestly feel that there really is a deeper, serious issue (obviously we don't know your exact circumstances) you could always give your GP a try. If it's getting you to the extent where it's affecting your every day life, then it's not trivial and something that they could probably help you with.

    Good luck.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Think I might do. Although I think they are specialised in dealing with people who self-harm or who have family issues. It's worth a try though.

    But if it doesn't work, do I have any other options?
    Counsellors are generally there to listen to anyone's problems, not just people with self harm or family issues. They're just there to talk things through with.

    For other options I'd do what raisin said.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)

    Basically, I have really low self-belief and it's affecting my college work and my happiness in general. I don't believe that I can acheive anything so I don't bother doing anything, no matter how much I want it.

    If someone could reccomend some sort of professional help that could help me, I would be forever thankful

    Thanks
    Self-help books will be useful... I mean, you can't truly achieve until you actually BELIEVE you've achieved!
    Stating the obvious, a depressive mind set appears to be the obvious problem, you're creating barriers for yourself, holding yourself down with 'mind-forged manacles'!!!

    If councelling doesnt work, is there someone who you can persuade to have a laugh with you!?
    Motivation comes with self-belief, you probably connect self-belief with success and recognition of success can only be achieved with happiness!!!

    Sounds hard, but dont worry and start enjoying yourself first! If you have, say, a street dancing society? then grab a friend and join it! Not because it will help tone (though it will) but because you can! then, you will be doing a form of excericise you enjoy, with a friend, it will release endorphines, when it goes wrong it doesnt matter, when it goes right WOO!!!

    When I want to work or an essay I cry just thinking of, I put on my 'ultimate' playlist with all the classics and just see what it is I can do... then at least im doing SOMETHING even if its not brilliant, whilst i quite like it when 'what have you done today' comes on and raises the mood

    If you can increase, and this is a fine balance to achieve, rational understanding of what it is you want and what it is you have to do.. and what it is you want to do, then tasks become easier to accomplise and if you feel like you are drowning then you can step back for a moment until you realise your feet can still touch the floor

    Good luck!!!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I need some help, but I don't know who I should talk to or what I can do to sort my problems.

    Basically, I have really low self-belief and it's affecting my college work and my happiness in general. I don't believe that I can acheive anything so I don't bother doing anything, no matter how much I want it.

    For instance, I want to reduce my body fat percentage but I find it really difficult to get myself out running and I am really quite impatient with it. If I don't see results in a week or two (which is hugely unrealistic) then I get demoralised and give up. It's not down to laziness, although I could be described as lazy, I think something is wrong in my head...

    If someone could reccomend some sort of professional help that could help me, I would be forever thankful

    Thanks
    I recommend counsellors! Even if you think your problem isn't HUGE like you're self harming or whatever you're entitled to go and it may just help.

    I decided to go because I found I was sad a lot of the time and couldn't see the good in anything and felt that I had no self worth and that people just didn't like me.

    I felt silly explaining this but my counsellor gave me good advice and just some time out in my week to vent!

    I recommend it, hey, what can you lose? It's free and it's a service for students. USE IT
 
 
 
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