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Making friends when you don't use facebook.... watch

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    Please keep anon. Thanks.

    I'm finishing university this year and will start a post-grad course somewhere else in September. I've had some illnesses during my time at university and haven't made many good friends. I'm also a bit socially anxious/shy and find it difficult to socialise with people who I don't know very well. During my time at uni I have barely gone out clubbing or whatever at all, so I have no "facebook photos" and my "facebook wall" is pretty empty....the last post is from 2008!

    Anyway, that's just some background. I've tried to change and become more confident and I was happily thinking I could start "fresh" this September and really try to make a new life for myself. But then it dawned on me -- if I start making new friends during the first few weeks, they'll obviously want to "add me" on facebook. And then they'll see what a loner I am - why would anyone want to be friends with somebody who hasn't got any friends?

    I just feel like I'm trapped and can't escape - it's like I've dug a hole by not socialising at uni and now it's too deep for me to get out. Any advice?
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    If you are that concerned about being seen as a "loner", create some sock puppet profiles and have them write on your wall to make yourself look a bit more active?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    But then it dawned on me -- if I start making new friends during the first few weeks, they'll obviously want to "add me" on facebook. And then they'll see what a loner I am - why would anyone want to be friends with somebody who hasn't got any friends?

    No-one cares how many friends/photos/comments you have on facebook.
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    Delete your facebook - pretend you never had it. When you start your post-grad, create a new account and slot something witty (:rolleyes:) into your profile about how you've 'finally given in to the evils of facebook', or something. Simple.

    In reality though, I don't think people are that bothered/observant. It's nothing that the first few friends and wall posts won't cover up!
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    Thanks for the replies/ideas. I guess I just have this idea in my head that people don't think you're worth talking to unless you're seen to be "cool" on facebook. Completely ridiculous, I know, but still.
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    People don't care that much about Facebook.
    If you don't want to risk that, delete your profile. Make a new one when you start making friends and don't tell them it's the 2nd.
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    As people have said, no one cares about Facebook, seems like you got deeper issues to worry about than Facebook though.
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    Yeah no-one will care, just delete your facebook account!
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    We could all add you and post things on your wall if you want.

    Its not often that TSR comes together and does a good deed like that for someone
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    If you haven't had any updates since 2 years ago, surely all they'll think is that at some point you got bored of it and stopped using it? My bebo is like a desert now, but it's not because I'm some sort of freak =P
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    Facebook is for sheep - don't worry about it dude.
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    I barely use my facebook and most of the guys I know, don't have it as they don't have the time to use it.
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    People don't "make friends" on Facebook anyway...so you'll be fine.
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    (Original post by halfoflessthan50p)
    We could all add you and post things on your wall if you want.

    Its not often that TSR comes together and does a good deed like that for someone
    This is a nice idea.
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    Facebook is really just another means of communication and brings everything and everyone together in one handy place. I wouldn't worry too much about not using it a lot - I don't use it a great deal, only just to catch up with people who I've not spoken to in a while and see what they're up too, which is the main function in the first place!
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    If they're your real friends they WON'T CARE lol.
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    (Original post by Philosoraptor)
    If they're your real friends they WON'T CARE lol.
    I agree
    since ur looking for true friends u shudnt lie to them- nt exactly the best way to start a friendship. :P
    because u havent been on fb for hwevr long doesnt make u a loner, like u said u nevr had the time b4
    plus after a while there isnt much to do on fb anyway
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    as these lot have said.. no-one really cares about Facebook!
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    I would go with the idea of deleting your account and then making it again once you have made new friends...if you're starting afresh with friends, might as well start afresh with a new Facebook account. But I also agree with others here, Facebook isn't very important at all.
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    give me ur facebook name... i'll add you and post on your wall... don't worry its not gonna be something bad
 
 
 
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