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I feel guilty for wanting intimacy watch

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    My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half (I'm 19 and he's 26) I lost my virginity to him and we used to have great sex many times a week. Before that, we would make out for hours and hours like nothing else existed.
    We've been living together for 8 months now, and the frequency of sex or even intimacy has been declining. It's always been the case where I would be initiating, though I didn't mind that so much because he would get in to it as well.
    But for around 3 months now, he's been stopping whenever I kiss him passionately and as a result we only make love when he wants to which is maybe twice a month.
    Now I just feel guilty for kissing him, because it's like I'm wasting his time. Or making him feel bad for rejecting me, and so that makes the situation worse. So I've stopped myself from trying to make him want me.. and we don't cuddle in bed like we used to and he doesn't give me nearly as much attention as he used to. Mornings are often silent...
    All other aspects of our relationship are fantastic, we get along so well and we love spending time together. There isn't much else I can complain about. We have a few disagreements, but we've resolved that we can work through them in time. We love each other so much.. but this is really breaking me up inside, as I'm not very confident about myself, my looks especially.
    Earlier, I pulled him to the bedroom and kissed him without saying anything making it clear what I wanted and he said he wanted to get something to eat as he hadn't eaten much all day. And then I said we never used to even think about food, we'd just spend the entire day in bed.. We made dinner and now he's probably tired after eating and is doing some work-related stuff even though it's the weekend.
    I don't even want to go to the bedroom now, because I'm scared I'll cry, because I'm feeling so rejected. And I don't want to tell him, because it's late and I don't want to stress him out.
    I __really__ don't know what to do... or what to think...
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