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    I sometimes feel like i'm the only person who isn't trying to bust a nut whenever I go for a night out.

    All I see are trampy girls and trampy guys trying to slam each other at bars and clubs. It's ugly and I don't respect it whatsoever.

    Apparently I'm in the minority on this, i'm supposed to go out, get drunk and try to **** the first thing which looks in my direction.

    What happened to the more authentic type of courtship?
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    Promiscuous girl you're teasin' me.

    Personally, i go out to try and break my record for shot-glass towers. I'm oblivious to any female attention.
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    Lol actually, if i go to clubs, i don't think of these stuff.. all i want is to drink alcohol and challenge my own tolerant!
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    I just love to dance!
    I just really hate getting drunk, I don't see the point. How can it have been a good night when you can't even remember it?
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    troll.
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    ITT: liars.
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    (Original post by 00EyeOfTheStorm00)
    How can it have been a good night when you can't even remember it?
    Errrmmm... easily? Just because you cant remember doesnt mean you wernt having a wicked time on the night.

    Can you remember all your childhood holidays etc? Doubt it. Does that mean they cant have been good times? Doubt it.
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    I think that certain people do go out just to find someone to sleep with and, personally, I think that if that's what someone thinks is a good time then they have problems.
    I love going out, not to get drunk, but to have fun, dance and socialise. I could never just meet someone in a club and sleep with them. There is no relationship, trust or anything.
    Also people like this get a reputation. I know many people who sleep around and then get upset when people are calling them a '****' or saying that they're easy but you have to face the consequences...
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    Do you not get really horny when drunk? I can't help myself :o:
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    I 100% agree with the OP. It seems that many are quite happy to get drunk, get off with a randomer and have sex with them! Wtf ever happened to self-respect?
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    (Original post by msarrakc)
    I think that certain people do go out just to find someone to sleep with and, personally, I think that if that's what someone thinks is a good time then they have problems.
    I love going out, not to get drunk, but to have fun, dance and socialise. I could never just meet someone in a club and sleep with them. There is no relationship, trust or anything.
    Also people like this get a reputation. I know many people who sleep around and then get upset when people are calling them a '****' or saying that they're easy but you have to face the consequences...
    but thats the whole point, no-strings sex. you both know its not going to lead onto anything like a relationship and after a polite "good morning" text, you never see them again. so much less hassle than a proper relationship! :yep:
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    Well it's natural right - we all got urges towards people we find hot - and this intensifies when alcohol induced! That said you can definitely find people to date the old school way. Or a mixture of both which is my fave - i.e. find someone on a night out you find fun, kiss but nothing more and meet them a few times before you get down on it
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    (Original post by Philosoraptor)
    Well it's natural right - we all got urges towards people we find hot - and this intensifies when alcohol induced! That said you can definitely find people to date the old school way. Or a mixture of both which is my fave - i.e. find someone on a night out you find fun, kiss but nothing more and meet them a few times before you get down on it
    :yep:

    OP, don't worryy, promiscuity isn't the norm...please don't make it your norm! :nah:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I sometimes feel like i'm the only person who isn't trying to bust a nut whenever I go for a night out.

    All I see are trampy girls and trampy guys trying to slam each other at bars and clubs. It's ugly and I don't respect it whatsoever.

    Apparently I'm in the minority on this, i'm supposed to go out, get drunk and try to **** the first thing which looks in my direction.

    What happened to the more authentic type of courtship?
    You aren't obliged to follow this culture if you don't want to, but I don't see why promiscuity is frowned about if neither person is deluded about what they want. Also of course so long as they don't have a baby. Other than that its their fault if they aren't careful enough to avoid STDs.

    Also bars and clubs are generally bad places to go looking for relationships, traditional courtship won't take exactly take place in this setting.
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    OP I don't think it is actually the norm. Most people go out to dance and to get drunk. I mean I personally know a lot of people who all go out clubbing together - they're not doing it to have sex - they just have a party before hand, go to a club, and come back and have another little party. Lots of people who go clubbing are already in relationships so I doubt their intention is to solicit sex.

    Personally - I don't really like the clubbing scene :p: So I don't go clubbing in the first place.. but if I did I wouldn't be doing it to have sex. I'm not really comfortable with the idea of sex outside of a relationship. But if other people are - it's their life and their bodies, if they are responsible enough to not produce unwanted pregnancies then there isn't much reason to disapprove of their lifestyle choice.

    I'm more inclined to disapprove of the copious alcohol consumption :p: That causes far more trouble than sex.
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    It's pretty much the norm these days. In the 50s it was considered precocious to get a kiss on the first date, now that's considered as going slow if you fail to get it on a first date.

    With my last girlfriend everybody had started quizzing us if we'd slept together after just one week of dating. Honestly, that's far too quick in my opinion and I feel like sex has been completely trivialized.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I sometimes feel like i'm the only person who isn't trying to bust a nut whenever I go for a night out.

    All I see are trampy girls and trampy guys trying to slam each other at bars and clubs. It's ugly and I don't respect it whatsoever.

    Apparently I'm in the minority on this, i'm supposed to go out, get drunk and try to **** the first thing which looks in my direction.

    What happened to the more authentic type of courtship?
    That's exactly my question!

    I'm in the middle of my first year at uni, and I'm the only person out of my friends who hasn't ever had a one night stand/f**k buddy/what ever. I don't think it's ridiculous to want to get to know someone before you start destroying bedframes with them

    I'm made to feel like a prude by my promiscuous friends just for having enough self restraint & self respect to not sleep with a guy just because I have the opportunity to :p:

    *not that promiscuous people don't respect themselves, they just hold a different perspective on sex to me!*

    What, indeed, has happened to authentic courtship?
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    (Original post by msarrakc)
    I think that certain people do go out just to find someone to sleep with and, personally, I think that if that's what someone thinks is a good time then they have problems.
    I love going out, not to get drunk, but to have fun, dance and socialise. I could never just meet someone in a club and sleep with them. There is no relationship, trust or anything.
    Also people like this get a reputation. I know many people who sleep around and then get upset when people are calling them a '****' or saying that they're easy but you have to face the consequences...
    Why should getting slated be a consequence of having casual sex? Nobody has the right to call someone a '****' or easy or whatever because of what they choose to do with their sex life, it's nobody else's business.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I sometimes feel like i'm the only person who isn't trying to bust a nut whenever I go for a night out.

    All I see are trampy girls and trampy guys trying to slam each other at bars and clubs. It's ugly and I don't respect it whatsoever.

    Apparently I'm in the minority on this, i'm supposed to go out, get drunk and try to **** the first thing which looks in my direction.

    What happened to the more authentic type of courtship?
    unless you are a peacock or some other animal with an extravagant mating display then going to clubs getting pissed and fuxing is the human way
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    In the words of Sir Toby from Twelfth Night (yeah, I get some reading done in between binge-drinking and ******* everything in sight, because only extremes exist right) 'Dost thou think because thou art virtuous there shall be no more cakes and ale?'.

    I'm so tired of people that enjoy clubbing and what it entails being criticized from every angle. One minute nobody actually enjoys clubbing, it's just a roomful people trying to look cool and pretend they're having fun, and the next minute actually everybody's having too much fun!

    This horrible piousness and puritan attitude really winds me up. If you genuinely think 'authentic courtship' has disappeared then you're either only going to crappy small-town nightclubs and mixing with the wrong people or you're just a bit oblivious to what actually happens in daylight in the outside world, you know outside the front door? Not just between the pages of whatever newspaper is most zealous that all teenagers today are uneducated ****s.

    Also, god forbid people should actually enjoy having sex with people that they aren't dating. As long as it's safe it shouldn't worry you.
 
 
 
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