Hi guys, first post... yay!
Ok want some opinions/advice. Do you think this is wrong? (Sorry for the essay)
Basically, I have two friends from two different social groups that met through me in October. The guys not had a gf in over a year (we're in 2nd year of uni) and in my opinion doesnt like the girl at all and is just after some action. Anyway the girl is quite innocent (virgin) and I think likes him. Me and my two friends went out to a bar (this was way back in November about a month after they first met) and we ended up getting sperated and I talked to a few different friend (they were acting quite 'couply' as well). The guy ended up getting the girl really drunk, the drunkest she's ever been. We intended to go to a club after, they headed off and I followed with friends to find them lay on the pavement with the girl passed out. The girl had never thrown up from being drunk before, the guy had also thrown up but was in no where near as bad a state. She was slurring words and couldnt walk, he was pefectly fine. Anyway I couldnt leave my friend as she was so helped take care of her. She ended up throwing up for over an hour after we got her to my guy friends place. She then got in her sleeping bag and looked like she was going to sleep. I left them to go home thinking she was safe. Anyway I found out yesterday that after I left the girl started shivering uncontrolabvly. I think this may have been due to the drink since this was the first time she'd ever thrown up and had never drank that much before. The guy then got into her sleeping bag with her and started touching her (under her clothes). She didnt move and just sort of let him. I dont believe she was in any state to have stopped him even if she tried. They didnt kiss. It was mutual at all. The guy then ended up ejaculating.
Do you think the guy took advantage? How mad should I be. I blame myself as well cos I shudnt have trusted the guy. I should have known better. I dont think I shud have left him with her. Personally I put it at best as major taking advantage or at worst on the same path as rape.
My female friend claims he didnt take advantage, but I think she's trying to protect him. I think he's manipulating her and taking advatage of her innocence.
Its been a while since then and they both spend a LOT of time together. They still havent kissed and arent in a relationship but act like they are (like they hold hands and 'talk' like a couple).
I found out a similar thing happened again to what happened in novemeber a week ago. They were ment to go a club, the guy got the girl really drunk, she threw up (this is the 2nd time she's ever thrown up from alcohol and the guy didnt this time) and then he got in bed with her and started touching her. The second time I think she may have felt him back cos he moved her hand to touch him. I still view it as wrong. They didnt have sex.
Any thoughts/opinions?
I personally think I may cut off contact with the guy completely. I dont think I want to be associated with people like him. Is that an over reaction?
Thanks for reading!