Jealousy

Do any of you girls have a problem with jealous guys? All i have to do is mention that one of my friends is a guy and my boyfriend goes into jealous mode. I went to stay with my mate for about a week while my boyfriend was away and when he found out he was really annoyed. I know my boyfriend doesn't trust me and he has a good reason which will remain undisclosed, but if i thought my mate was a threat to my relationship i wouldn't have gone to see him. He kind of relaxed when i mentioned that i had taken another friend with me, but i just wish he would stop being so jealous as he knows that i am not stupid enough to go stay with someone who might persuade me to risk or damage my relationship.

Reply 1

Harv616

9

Well some guys are just insainly protective of there girlfriends and dont want to lose them. I know i am =/

Reply 2

sahsum

13

i have serious problems with a jealous boyfriend. Although he won't admit it exactly, he gets pissed off if i ever go out with other guys in like a group. One time i bumped into a male friend from work in town, who is fit, and introduced him to my boyfriend and my boyfriend was plain rude with the most insincere "hi". It does my head in, when i go to uni it will be hell!!

Reply 3

Talya

16

Ant93, you say he has good reason not to trust you, so you can't expect his behaviour to be any different if you're staying with a guy and you've cheated before (I assume it was something like that)

I don't blame your boyfriend.

Reply 4

DeLboY

Jealousy is VERY common and very hard emotion to ignore, especially with insecure boys. It is definately something that gets easier to deal with age.
Believe me, there aren't many teenage boys secure enough to let their girls go out with other guys and not feel more than a little paranoid. If you have broken his trust before, then that is going to play on his mind whether its ancient history or not.
Its hard to say much more without knowing all the details, but if you're serious about each other, give it time.

Reply 5

adamu

True - its very common, i was jelous about my now ex-girlfriend all the time, it takes over. Its not his fault, if he has reason to as you say. You need to work on reassuring him by letting him know how much he means to you.

Just give him some time and let him know how you feel.

Reply 6

Sarah7

1

Doesn't everyone get a bit jealous/insecure occasionally?

To be honest, I don't think I'd be exactly happy if my boyfriend had gone and stayed with one of his female friends for a WEEK while i was away...

Reply 7

Glory

1

One of my ex's was very jelious. We met while he was on hols over here, and we hit it off, he had to go home(holland) a few days later but we kept in touch using webcams, msn and phoning each other. But he was so insecure and i didnt realise how much til he went home.

A few months after he went home, half turm time i went to copenhagen with my sister and her mate from uni and his now wife, to go and spend a weekend with some people we as a group know from online. My bf was going to meet up and stay at our accomdation, but last minute he couldnt get transport, so i enjoyed the weekend without him.

I got back to a flood of messages on msn from him. He seemed to think i might of hit it off with some of the lads there, in a simular way to how i just clicked with him. I couldnt stand it, the only way i could describe it was the green eyed monster, he had no reason to think id dump him for someone else, i ended it with him a month after, i gave him a chance to stop it and beleive me but the doubt was in his head and he started thinking i was seeing guys from college now.

Im kind dead stuck on not seeing guys from other countries, its just not worth the hassle.

Reply 8

john !!

14

Ant93

Now lets see, what can i remember? Agreed to go out with a gay guy, stole a shot glass, kissed a complete stranger several times, before i found out his name, then this week a kissed my best mate after he told me he fancied me, while i have a boyfriend.

lol

Reply 9

khil

15

Ant93

Do any of you girls have a problem with jealous guys? All i have to do is mention that one of my friends is a guy and my boyfriend goes into jealous mode. I went to stay with my mate for about a week while my boyfriend was away and when he found out he was really annoyed. I know my boyfriend doesn't trust me and he has a good reason which will remain undisclosed, but if i thought my mate was a threat to my relationship i wouldn't have gone to see him. He kind of relaxed when i mentioned that i had taken another friend with me, but i just wish he would stop being so jealous as he knows that i am not stupid enough to go stay with someone who might persuade me to risk or damage my relationship.

Well, since you have said yourself - he has good reason to be jealous - do you really think going to stay with a male friend while he's away would rebuild that trust or did you think it would damage it?

Doing something like that would just make him trust you less, really. The better way to go about it I would've thought would be - talk to him first, tell him, hear what he thinks, explain what you think, come to a compromise. Then eventually as he trusts you again, you won't have this problem of jealousy anymore even if you don't tell him! Besides, isn't it reasonable for a bf to be jealous if you're actually staying over at the guy's house? I would be if my bf went off to a girl mate and stayed overnight without telling me. It's not doing it that's the problem - it's not telling me.

And everyone knows sometimes things happen you never intended for. But sometimes it can still happen! I mean, like getting drunk then accidentally (not so much accidentally but just cus you're really drunk) kissed another guy while you're involved - things like that happen. I think you bf has good cause to be jealous - and playing with his trust by telling him AFTER you've done it isn't gonna help you rebuild trust between the two of you.

Reply 10

Luize

13

I've had jealous bfs. It gets annoying and they never had any reason to be jealous.
But I still understand why I drive myself mad over thinking everything I just never bother to say anything because I know how annoying it is.
Still it is nice in moderation...although it can cause arguments it does show that they care and really like you.

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