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    I am 27 in 6 months and been in uni accomodation for 2 years, did a year part time, then a year full time but withdrew to go elsewhere and start again

    The issues I have had in the last 2 years have been nightmares, first year(part time) lived in private house for 3 months wanst too bad but had a 24 year old girl who liked to have loud sex a lot and was very spoiled, to the point where she got on average £800-£1000 a month from parents and spent it within 7-14 days and then talked about how poor she was and had a £12 a hour job working in a local radio station just welcoming guests and making drinks and complained about it despite them even paying travel expenses.

    Then I went to halls and nice time but the people liked to socialise in the hallway, i.e drag a table from one guys room and block off any access then play music till as late as 5am.

    I then moved to another uni for full time as I changed from media to business and moved to a private building with 40 rooms and constantly had all my food stolen, parcels stolen and people tell me it was my fault for buying food and not having a mini fridge, or for wanting to buy stuff from the internet, second house started out ok but the guy in next room starting having all night parties EVERY night so I failed a few exams as the guy never slept till like 8am and got a hour or twos sleep every night and smashed doors, bannisters, furniture etc.

    So finally this year I am in a proper house with only 1 other tenant, hes not too bad all things considered, HOWEVER he likes to socialise so often 2 or 3(or sometimes more) times a week he brings his friends round and plays his music so loud the floor rattles, I normally let him get on with it because I go drinking with him once a week but dont like it, but he seems inconsiderate, he has a female friend who is very mothering who always talks to me and told me that he is taking advantage as he has been boasting to them that he never has to clean as I do it all(which is true) and he can get off with anything.

    I told him on Wednesday I had a VERY important tutorial at the small campus 45 minutes walk away at 9.15am and if I dont go I may be chucked out and he promised to not make any noise that night then brought his friends round, played music blasting loud and left loads of beer cans and bottles everywhere.

    I am fed up with him leaving months old food in the fridge(think 4 month old mouldy milk) and buying garlic breads and leaving them in the fridge stinking out my food(I am not very picky about food but some jelly I made tasted garlicy!) and he has NEVER bothered with rubbish or recycling, when I moved in there was about 20 overflowing bin bags at the back, the recycling was overflowing and the pan and dish scourers were orange and soaked with food so I bought some more. I also found out my spare pc I left in living room for a communal pc is broken, and I know it was working 2 weeks ago just before he decided to have an all night house party without telling me and his friends kept banging into my pc.

    Am I being too soft?
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    Yes.
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    yes. This guy is just abusing how nice you are. Try and get a studio flat or something?
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    (Original post by Aqualung)
    Yes.
    Done. If you couldnt reread your own post OP without kicking yourself then youre more of an idiot than incredibly well meaning. This is why Im glad I had to stay at home and commute - id kill some of the people you mentioned.
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    That sounds horrendous, actually. I think you're just spectacular at picking crap places to live :s
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    Stand up for yourself dude. If someone stole food or a parcel from me i would go insane.
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    (Original post by psychocustard)
    That sounds horrendous, actually. I think you're just spectacular at picking crap places to live :s
    Actually they have all been quite nice places its just I am not into the clubbing scene most nights or taking pot or cocaine(the place last year) and prefer to sit in my room watching tv and would prefer to go to uni bar with friends(dont have any though) or go up town and have a laugh then get drunk and go to the same 2 horrible bars each time(the guy this year) which are the main student bars but nothing to do with uni and are grotty dives and proper pubs are avoided because they are like 5 minutes walk from the main bars in town(which is a horrible area) and too spread out.

    Anyway just got back and a bit annoyed since found most of my food in freezer shoved onto the top shelf of the fridge(which is one I use though we have 2 almost empty, so have 5 pizzas starting to defrost forcing me to eat them, all because he has bought a massive party pack of chicken and dips etc(the SFC ones that takes up 2 shelves of our 4 shelf freezer, fair enough that I used about 3 shelves to myself before but that is because the only thing he has used it for in the last 3 months is some mixed veg which is still sealed!

    Either his parents have been since thats the only time he has food or he is skint as he was telling me his loan was already gone last week when I said this months phone and internet is due.
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    ****, I hope my future house mates don't screw up my food. It'd drive me insane.
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    (Original post by MittenKrust)
    Actually they have all been quite nice places its just I am not into the clubbing scene most nights or taking pot or cocaine(the place last year) and prefer to sit in my room watching tv and would prefer to go to uni bar with friends(dont have any though) or go up town and have a laugh then get drunk and go to the same 2 horrible bars each time(the guy this year) which are the main student bars but nothing to do with uni and are grotty dives and proper pubs are avoided because they are like 5 minutes walk from the main bars in town(which is a horrible area) and too spread out.

    Anyway just got back and a bit annoyed since found most of my food in freezer shoved onto the top shelf of the fridge(which is one I use though we have 2 almost empty, so have 5 pizzas starting to defrost forcing me to eat them, all because he has bought a massive party pack of chicken and dips etc(the SFC ones that takes up 2 shelves of our 4 shelf freezer, fair enough that I used about 3 shelves to myself before but that is because the only thing he has used it for in the last 3 months is some mixed veg which is still sealed!

    Either his parents have been since thats the only time he has food or he is skint as he was telling me his loan was already gone last week when I said this months phone and internet is due.
    This is what I mean when I say you pick crap places to live. I'm not saying they're nasty, just that how you manage to consistently live in places with people that are so awful should probably tell you something.
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    (Original post by psychocustard)
    This is what I mean when I say you pick crap places to live. I'm not saying they're nasty, just that how you manage to consistently live in places with people that are so awful should probably tell you something.
    The thing is I don't know what to expect or put up with as I have asked before and been told you have to expect people drinking and being a bit lazy in student accomodation.

    Now I dont mind people getting drunk and being loudish if I dont have to be forced to deal with it or with its repercussions i.e they do it in the room and I am in another corner of the house I cant hear it and I dont have to go in kitchen and see rubbish etc.

    I actually want housemates to be sociable as lived in a place for 2 months that had somewhat boring flatmate, one did go drinking a few times on freshers but he was international so didnt invite rest of house, another went drinking twice in 2 months and another was never in.
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    You need to stand up for yourself mate and tbh you need to just be a little more laid back!
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    (Original post by Hart92)
    You need to stand up for yourself mate and tbh you need to just be a little more laid back!
    Oh I am laid back, but when there is spilled tobacco over part of the living room floor and I have to squeeze past a table and chairs to get into kitchen its a bit annoying, plus seeing about 6 empty bottles of cider, and a table with spilled drink over and paper stuck to it etc that takes a few minutes at most to clear and tidy.

    I wouldnt really care if we had a cleaner as then even I would be a bit less tidy but still would wash plates after myself and clean sides etc but would leave big things to do like taking out rubbish etc.
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    Last year I lived in halls. In a way I prefered halls to living in a house. I guess because your not pressured to be with the same old people. Obvoiusly I had my flatmates, but it was just a bit of conversation in the kitchen, with 1 I became friends with. But since Ive been living in a house, Ive really started to grit my teeth at one of my housemates.

    I simply dont like him. There are a few reasons, but I think essientally its a clash of personalities, he is constantly on the drugs, going out, caning it, where as I am more the opposite. It is becoming stressful living with him. When I think of him it makes me really angry. Ahhh.
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    All I have learnt so far is that living in a house full of other people is pretty ******* ****. Its different with family, or a partner, or maybe 1-2 other people max. But for me anyway, living with messy, druggy types really irritates me. I dont deserve these types of people. Im sure for some its pretty fun. For me Ive realised that sometimes living with your 'friends' isnt always neccasarly the best grounds for housemates. I moved in with 2 friends (guys) and two girls that we didnt know so well. Its turned out that the girls are fine to live with. They are clean, considerate and balanced individuals. But its been my 'friends' that have actually irritated more in their general habits.

    In the future I am going to try and live in a 3-4 bedroom house max, and then make sure those people arent so ******* messy. grrr.
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    (Original post by MittenKrust)
    I am 27 in 6 months and been in uni accomodation for 2 years, did a year part time, then a year full time but withdrew to go elsewhere and start again

    The issues I have had in the last 2 years have been nightmares, first year(part time) lived in private house for 3 months wanst too bad but had a 24 year old girl who liked to have loud sex a lot and was very spoiled, to the point where she got on average £800-£1000 a month from parents and spent it within 7-14 days and then talked about how poor she was and had a £12 a hour job working in a local radio station just welcoming guests and making drinks and complained about it despite them even paying travel expenses.

    Then I went to halls and nice time but the people liked to socialise in the hallway, i.e drag a table from one guys room and block off any access then play music till as late as 5am.

    I then moved to another uni for full time as I changed from media to business and moved to a private building with 40 rooms and constantly had all my food stolen, parcels stolen and people tell me it was my fault for buying food and not having a mini fridge, or for wanting to buy stuff from the internet, second house started out ok but the guy in next room starting having all night parties EVERY night so I failed a few exams as the guy never slept till like 8am and got a hour or twos sleep every night and smashed doors, bannisters, furniture etc.

    So finally this year I am in a proper house with only 1 other tenant, hes not too bad all things considered, HOWEVER he likes to socialise so often 2 or 3(or sometimes more) times a week he brings his friends round and plays his music so loud the floor rattles, I normally let him get on with it because I go drinking with him once a week but dont like it, but he seems inconsiderate, he has a female friend who is very mothering who always talks to me and told me that he is taking advantage as he has been boasting to them that he never has to clean as I do it all(which is true) and he can get off with anything.

    I told him on Wednesday I had a VERY important tutorial at the small campus 45 minutes walk away at 9.15am and if I dont go I may be chucked out and he promised to not make any noise that night then brought his friends round, played music blasting loud and left loads of beer cans and bottles everywhere.

    I am fed up with him leaving months old food in the fridge(think 4 month old mouldy milk) and buying garlic breads and leaving them in the fridge stinking out my food(I am not very picky about food but some jelly I made tasted garlicy!) and he has NEVER bothered with rubbish or recycling, when I moved in there was about 20 overflowing bin bags at the back, the recycling was overflowing and the pan and dish scourers were orange and soaked with food so I bought some more. I also found out my spare pc I left in living room for a communal pc is broken, and I know it was working 2 weeks ago just before he decided to have an all night house party without telling me and his friends kept banging into my pc.

    Am I being too soft?
    Just move into a place by yourself imo of move in with like post grads who have to spend a lot of time working and not partying.
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    yes, move out and find a place on your own
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    I think problems with housemates are sometimes inevitable. After living with certian people for a certian amount of time, your bound to feel pissed of with them. Im just not sure what I can do about it. I dont think its going to help if I say he is really pissing me of etc. But on the other hand, I feel stressed just bottling it all up. Im not sure..either way..things will reach a conclusion. Sorry about this, needed to vent some steam.
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    That sounds horrible - especially when you've moved from place to place with no real improvement. Live alone.
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    (Original post by MittenKrust)
    I am 27 in 6 months and been in uni accomodation for 2 years, did a year part time, then a year full time but withdrew to go elsewhere and start again
    I know how you feel. At least they don't engage in recreational activities...

    Does your uni not provide accommodation for post-grads ONLY?
    Because the undergrads and post-grads are separated at my uni.
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    You need to put him straight. Make your house as a club for a night an don't invite him, then play loud music, bang doors and do all sort of the stuff he do when he calls his friend. Let him taste his own medicine.
 
 
 
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