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    My gf and i have been together for about 4 months now. I enjoy the relationship, but in bed she seems uninspired and apathetic about pleasuring me. Whilst i am making a massive effort (oral etc), she appears reluctant to reciprocate on any level - in other words: she just doesn't. I got the first handjob only 2 months, and countless organisms on her part later. She wont give me head, even though i - in my desperation - have actually asked for it.
    I am actually desperate for some advice, cause i don't know what to do anymore. I don't know if i can keep my effort up, i can already feel myself growing less and less keen to get with her - and i am certain, that this is also the reason we haven't yet had sex - i just don't want to! And she has been annoyed at me for this.
    I am super frustrated, because between being extremely athletic and apparently very attractive - she makes me feel less so.
    Please somebody help, i fear my relationship is at stake
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    ask her why? tbh communication is the number one factor in good sex and if you cant talk to her about it then it will be difficult to guess what is wrong. tell her exactly what you said here, just ask her outright. good luck
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    The fact that she won't give you a blowie causes your relationship to be at stake?

    Oh wow. Have you ever considered the fact she might not like giving oral pleasures?
    Maybe you could persuade her if you inform her you're gonna shower/wash down there before she does anything.. Or maybe lure her into the shower as well...
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    (Original post by Roxannabelle)
    The fact that she won't give you a blowie causes your relationship to be at stake?

    Oh wow. Have you ever considered the fact she might not like giving oral pleasures?
    Maybe you could persuade her if you inform her you're gonna shower/wash down there before she does anything.. Or maybe lure her into the shower as well...
    Lol'd. Totally teared that up.
    Seriously though, just talk to her and ask why?
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    3 replies in and no-one has made a comment about his "organisms". What's wrong with you people?
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    (Original post by ozzyoscy)
    3 replies in and no-one has made a comment about his "organisms". What's wrong with you people?
    Lol. 2 great comments I've read in 2 minutes by you, I must rep you. Secondly, I burst out laughing when I read that.

    OP, if she won't give oral then you've gotta stop giving oral. Talk to her. If she doesn't like giving BJ's then make a compromise by letting her do something else.
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    organisms haha
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    Yeah, I chuckled at organisms.

    OP: Talk to your gf. We can't tell you what to do, you need to raise it with her. She may have some reason for being quite unwilling - is she very experienced, does she feel comfortable and confident doing this? There are quite a few reasons why she could be acting like this, but you need to speak to her about it.

    Importantly, don't speak to her in a "oi, what the ****, why won't you give me head?" type thing, but in a "I've noticed that you seem rather unkeen to do things, is there any reason for that?"
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    (Original post by Doodahdoo)
    Importantly, don't speak to her in a "oi, what the ****, why won't you give me head?" type thing, but in a "I've noticed that you seem rather unkeen to do things, is there any reason for that?"
    I've found this works in many situations. Since I've stopped saying "oi, you ******* ****, go out with me or I'll ******* nut you" and "oi, you, do you sell wallets? Not the **** kind. If not, what kind of ******* shop do you call yourselves? I want to speak to your manager so I can spit in his ******* face. It's a woman? Well I'll do her up the ******* ******* and bust a nut in her face then" with "excuse me sir, I wish to partake in the exchange of moneys for particular goods. Do you stock wallets? If not, do you know of any establishments with which I can conclude my business?", I've been getting more success generally.
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    Maybe she is just scared she will hurt or that she thinks that she won't pleasure you well enough, therefore doesn't want to do it at all.
    Just have a nice talk with her and find out what her worry is.
    Don't force her to do it.
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    (Original post by ozzyoscy)
    3 replies in and no-one has made a comment about his "organisms". What's wrong with you people?
    I was going to say this XD :woo:
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    (Original post by ozzyoscy)
    I've found this works in many situations. Since I've stopped saying "oi, you ******* ****, go out with me or I'll ******* nut you" and "oi, you, do you sell wallets? Not the **** kind. If not, what kind of ******* shop do you call yourselves? I want to speak to your manager so I can spit in his ******* face. It's a woman? Well I'll do her up the ******* ******* and bust a nut in her face then" with "excuse me sir, I wish to partake in the exchange of moneys for particular goods. Do you stock wallets? If not, do you know of any establishments with which I can conclude my business?", I've been getting more success generally.
    Wow - you are ever so funny. Why don't you go back to playing World of Warcraft - and let the grown-ups discuss something you will acquaint with once you enter puberty.
    Big thankyou to you people, who have actually taken an interest helping me.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Wow - you are ever so funny. Why don't you go back to playing World of Warcraft - and let the grown-ups discuss something you will acquaint with once you enter puberty.
    Big thankyou to you people, who have actually taken an interest helping me.
    Big talk coming from someone anonymous.

    I don't play WoW, I leave that to people who take the internet too seriously. Like YOU. :shock:

    Good luck on those organisms though.
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    Organisms? Maybe you aren't getting any cause you're blates 12?
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    (Original post by ozzyoscy)
    3 replies in and no-one has made a comment about his "organisms". What's wrong with you people?
    i noticed straight away and lol'd

    "organisms"...
 
 
 
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