Cheated on Boyfriend and Now scared He'll Leave Me

I like how you're basing these huge personality flaws on three points that the OP made. She accepts that she was wrong for cheating on her boyfriend and, later in the replies, for drinking that much - although there was a slight removal of blame. I don't think she ever insinuated that she 'sleeps around', just that she had slept with this guy. Sleeping with a guy/cheating =/= sleeping around, really.

As for your other points, well, as I've said, you've no reason to think that apart from the few points she's made on here, so nice one for jumping to conclusions about somebody you have no idea about

hmmmm..this is a tough one...look i can tellu one thing with all certainty.....if he knows , the relationship will NOT WORK............

Well, you're not going to get a lot of sympathy from the TSR public, and probably quite deservedly so. HOWEVER, that doesn't mean you deserve the abuse you're getting along with it. The healthy part is you've acknowledged your mistakes and you want to put an end to it.

I would be trhuthful, because relationships depend on trust like there's no tomorrow.

If he dumps you, then I don't blame him. If he doesn't dump you, consider yourself very lucky and do your bloody damnest to make it up to him.

If the relationship does break up, you need to look at yourself. Are you really suited for relationships? Are you the type who should maybe not get so paraletic next time? I'd get some professional help as to discover what makes you want the attention and desire.

Find out some truths about yourself most of all. You're not a slag, but you've done something very, very stupid.

Good luck.

Yes because slag is a distinctly female word. Words like ***head, ****hole, c*** etc etc would be bandied about instead. All as correct as the term 'slag' applied to this girl.

I'm just such a horrible person! I haven’t slept properly all week because I feel so bad about everything. Wish I could change things.

Basically, my boyfriend who I've been dating for a while now went on a holiday for a couple of weeks. I live with a guy who has always fancied me and then one time I kind of did some stuff with him but not had sex or anything. He's a lovely guy, I really like him but I only did the stuff because of a dare I had going. Stupid I know.

Last week just before my boyfriend got back I went clubbing and I got horribly drunk and then I'm really not that sure of anything. All I know is that the next day I woke up in a guy’s bed and basically from what I remember is that we were very friendly with each other and then we ended up sleeping with each other. I was horribly drunk and I know I wouldn't have done it if I were sober.

Now, I really really like my boyfriend. I don't want to break up with him but I also don't want to tell him what I've done as then he's sure to break up with me. I feel so guilty about it and wish I didn't do those things but it's too late now.

Also, whilst he was away I had been leading 2 guys on, pretending that I was interested in them. I guess it was just loneliness and I craved attention. Not that that makes it any less wrong.

So basically, do I tell him what I did and risk him dumping me or do I just not tell him. He's so happy so I think why spoil it now? At the moment only 3 people know about it and I'm fairly sure they'll keep quiet about it. Is this a really bad idea?

If it were you would you really want to know??

You guys on TSR are all ********* calling the girl a slut.... so what if she cheated, you folks take petty realtionships too seriously, anyway OP you should tell him the truth

granted she may be regretful, but the more time she waits the worse it will get, she should have told him the day after if not sooner.

Granted a few people post seem rather abusive messages but to be fair it's understandable especially if they have gone through this. Granted those posts don't help but a few are posting quite insightful posts I think that should help her and i'm sorry for her to then suddenly comment on someones grammar if anything makes her out to be rather arrogant as if better than everyone who's posting.

She has made a number of mistakes including trying to say someone can't spell, even if that was simply a jab at someone saying how disgusted they were with her, but in all honesty he should be disgusted, cheating on someone is simply inexcusable in my opinion.

Alas it is not my, yours or anyone else problems, it's hers and the longer she waits to tell him the worse his reaction will be come D-Day.

You guys on TSR are all ********* calling the girl a slut.... so what if she cheated, you folks take petty realtionships too seriously, anyway OP you should tell him the truth

Tell the truth, and face the consequences.

If you tell the truth now and he is willing to stay with a cheat then that's fine. If he finds out later down the line you cheated and didn't tell him (it's likely he will) you will have no future with him, and will have invested all that extra time.

Honesty is always the best policy - especially in relationships, but in all of life really.

Obviously the point above is to an extremem. But she began by engaging in sexual acts with a boy for a dare, then whilst in a relationship strung two boys along because she wanted attention (attention seeking), next she cheats with the original boy, then she blames other people for each of these things. Stringing two boys along because she wanted attention and sleeping with the boy because someone never told her she wasn't allowed to drink any more.

I think the conclusions I came to about her personality are incredibly obvious to anybody who is not just trying to be polite for the sake of it. Honesty is the best policy, she is a slag.

youre not like that???

yes you are, you've done the deed you are exactly like that stop trying to come out looking like an Angel. You need people to stop you drinking before you go off and sleep with your mates, you sound like such a beacon of inspiration for all women. You need to sort your priorities, alcohol or boyfriend and no drink is not an excuse no matter how much you wish to sugar coat it. Face the bloody music woman and accept that YOU MADE THAT CHOICE TO SLEEP WITH YOUR MATE and stop using alcohol as a catalyst for this one night stand.

You don't want to be judged, then what the hell are you doing posting your problem on here for? Of course you're going to be judged. What did you expect a torrid of replys saying 'don't worry you've done nothing wrong'... everything you did that night was wrong, face facts for christ sake and stop telling people off for their mis-spellings.

If we're talking about spelling words wrong, I'm pretty sure that should be stopped...

I'm just such a horrible person! I haven’t slept properly all week because I feel so bad about everything. Wish I could change things.

Basically, my boyfriend who I've been dating for a while now went on a holiday for a couple of weeks. I live with a guy who has always fancied me and then one time I kind of did some stuff with him but not had sex or anything. He's a lovely guy, I really like him but I only did the stuff because of a dare I had going. Stupid I know.

Last week just before my boyfriend got back I went clubbing and I got horribly drunk and then I'm really not that sure of anything. All I know is that the next day I woke up in a guy’s bed and basically from what I remember is that we were very friendly with each other and then we ended up sleeping with each other. I was horribly drunk and I know I wouldn't have done it if I were sober.

Now, I really really like my boyfriend. I don't want to break up with him but I also don't want to tell him what I've done as then he's sure to break up with me. I feel so guilty about it and wish I didn't do those things but it's too late now.

Also, whilst he was away I had been leading 2 guys on, pretending that I was interested in them. I guess it was just loneliness and I craved attention. Not that that makes it any less wrong.

So basically, do I tell him what I did and risk him dumping me or do I just not tell him. He's so happy so I think why spoil it now? At the moment only 3 people know about it and I'm fairly sure they'll keep quiet about it. Is this a really bad idea?

If it were you would you really want to know??

No you're wrong. It should be 'he'd stop' me

Thanks for your comment.
Maybe I do need help; I've always craved attention and usually get it too. It's been a tough couple of month’s maybe that's why I've been behaving this way.

I've never been single for long, maybe just a few weeks or so. I think I am suited to relationships I just sometimes find it hard to stop myself from flirting with other guys too.

I never expected to receive any sympathy from TSR anyway, far from it. I know what I've done is wrong; I'd absolutely hate it if someone did the same thing to me.