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    I already posted another topic about relationship problems but felt like this needed a new topic. Well, the previous one was just about me and my girlfriend sort of breaking up but it's really weird/confusing because we still love each other and are both aware of it just not 100% sure of if we should get together.

    Well, at times I feel like she is definitely someone I should be with because she really makes me happy but then at other times I feel like we're just too complete opposites and shouldn't. Opposites attract as they say but are we just too different? In some occasions she's really cute and sweet and I feel really lucky to have been with her (and maybe will be with her) but then that changes sometimes to sheer immaturity and annoyance. She has a tendency to take jokes a bit too far so she'll maybe act annoyed in a jokey way but then carry it on too much to the point that sometimes it makes me think she's being serious when she is in fact not.

    I do love her but she's changed since we got together a year and a bit ago - quite a lot actually. The "core" is still the same but it's like she's becoming more and more different to me and I'm not quite sure I could be in a relationship with her and actually make it work which is why we have an one-and-off relationship - we love each other but the practical side of things doesn't really work. Or maybe I've changed and need to look to the future rather than try keep things from the past?

    It's the whole regret thing. When I'm with her she's great and makes me the happiest guy in the world and I feel like a fool for doubting how happy she really makes me. When we're not, however, she can be very immature and annoying and I feel like it's just not worth it. I forget (and forgive) too easily though so all the lows will be forgotten if we have a high. Part of me wants to be with her for the highs (despite the lows) but the other part wants to just cut my losses and, maybe, hope to find someone else who can fully appreciate me.
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    love sucks eh? unfortunately there is so simple binary answer to this. you have to weigh up the pros and cons, but think of it this way: if you are having enough doubts to have to ask people about it - do you really think its wise to stay together? i mean, the fact she is annoying/stressy etc when you are apart is probably because she misses you/is jealous etc, and annoyingly that does happen but its something she has to work at and she'll need your help with it. whats the situation - are you living close together etc? might be easier to give advice if i know the whole geographical thing
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    love sucks eh? unfortunately there is so simple binary answer to this. you have to weigh up the pros and cons, but think of it this way: if you are having enough doubts to have to ask people about it - do you really think its wise to stay together? i mean, the fact she is annoying/stressy etc when you are apart is probably because she misses you/is jealous etc, and annoyingly that does happen but its something she has to work at and she'll need your help with it. whats the situation - are you living close together etc? might be easier to give advice if i know the whole geographical thing
    We live about 10-15 minutes away from each other yet maybe saw each other only once a week? If anything I was the one that wanted to see her much more than she wanted to see me.

    You know, it's weird, because she'll text me quite a bit saying she misses me and stuff but when I ask about meeting up it feels like she just doesn't want to. She told me this herself - she said she does love me and does miss me but would rather meet up with friends or something - to her once a week is like a perfect amount and doesn't want any more. For me, that's weird, I don't know how you can really miss someone and live so close to them but still not have time to see them or actually NOT want to see them!
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    so are yoy actually like together? officially? thats honestly very wierd shes acting like that if you are so close living wise! usually it happens when you dont see the other person for ages due to distance. sounds as if she may be jealous/immature. she does sound er..slightly confused?! and if she is making you unsure it may not be the best idea to keep going out - if she loves you like she says she'll want to spent time with you too..perhaps suggest a break and see how she deals? though tbh she doesnt really sound very mature :/
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    (Original post by metrostation22)
    so are yoy actually like together? officially? thats honestly very wierd shes acting like that if you are so close living wise! usually it happens when you dont see the other person for ages due to distance. sounds as if she may be jealous/immature. she does sound er..slightly confused?! and if she is making you unsure it may not be the best idea to keep going out - if she loves you like she says she'll want to spent time with you too..perhaps suggest a break and see how she deals? though tbh she doesnt really sound very mature :/
    We WERE together and then she said she just didn't know what to do and so now feels like this. She's very confused, yep, and it doesn't help at all.

    Basically I think I'm stupidly hanging on to the past? I don't know.
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    yeah it does seem that way unfortunately :/ its really hard to let go though i know. may be the best thing for you though in the long run. dont cut her out of your life, but make some rules and stick to them. if she decided to mature you can give it another go, and if not, well you're at least more sorted on your own
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    I don't know why (well I sort of do) but it's like I'll get really annoyed but I have this personality in which I forgive too easily. Like the next day I'll not really forgotten about what happened but just not be annoyed at it even though the previous day I was and all.

    I don't want really to cut her out of my life because we were friends for many years before getting together so that would be a real shame. At times I feel like I was stupid to try and get with her in the first place because we had a good friendship and now that seems unlikely to be repaired - I guess it just takes time though.

    Yes, if she did mature more and so on we might have a good shot at it but that's not gonna be any time in the near future. I know it's obviously hard but just can't get her out of my head. It feels like a MASSIVE shame we can't just work our differences out.

    At times (I hope not though) I feel like maybe I was in love with the IDEA of being with someone, being that close to another person, rather than actually fully liking her. I was talking to my friend about her and he just said we were so different that it would NEVER work and he can't understand why we did get together - at times I feel the exact same way.
 
 
 
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