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should I take the plunge and live in halls or would I hate it? watch

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    Im 25 and starting uni soon and keep changing my mind about living in accomadation or living at home (it would take me an hour to get there everyday) Im a very quiet, laid back but timid person who likes peace and nature I get bored by group conversations very quickly and start to daydream which is why I have no friends. Im not into the clubbing atmosphere its just overwhelming to me my idea of fun is either keeping fit or a sunny day walking through the countryside with family.

    Anyway the uni Im going to is in the city (not good I know) but I can't decide whether to live in or not I do want to make friends and want to experience the student life but Ive no idea if I'l like it Ive watched some you tube videos of students acting daft in uni halls and its put me off. I feel as though I need to experience it though and get away from home, they said they would do me a 3 month contract so I wouldnt have to live in a full year. Its not that I hate living with parents but most would say its pathetic at my age so I feel I need to get out there and build some confidence Ive had anxiety in the past.

    Im guessing a lot of you will be living in halls so wanted to ask do you think Id hate it:o: Im too old really but my maturity level doesn't match my age Ive no confidence at all plus there will be a lot of mature students on my course anyway. Most people don't seem to fuss around like me they just decide to go to uni, follow through and love it Im just so complicated and have far too much self preservation Ive lived a sheltered life my mum is my best friend:o: Im female btw not that it makes any difference im still a loser :yep: .
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    Go for it, I can't wait till I start in September! Halls all the way! Looking back I am moving 4 hours away so it's really the only option ;D. Still, I'd say go for it! It's an experience you wouldn't want to miss out on.
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    (Original post by NS17)
    Go for it, I can't wait till I start in September! Halls all the way! Looking back I am moving 4 hours away so it's really the only option ;D. Still, I'd say go for it! It's an experience you wouldn't want to miss out on.
    Op is only living in for 3 months lol
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    Why would living at home be pathetic? I live at home and I don't mind, but then my social life has little to do with my uni.
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    Does your uni have halls for graduates and 'mature students'? If so, I would consider going there in your situation. You don't sound like you would enjoy the average hall corridor full of 17/18yr old first years very much.
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    (Original post by Bubbles*de*Milo)
    Why would living at home be pathetic? I live at home and I don't mind, but then my social life has little to do with my uni.
    25 years old living at home? A lot would say its pathetic
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    Does your uni have halls for graduates and 'mature students'? If so, I would consider going there in your situation. You don't sound like you would enjoy the average hall corridor full of 17/18yr old first years very much.
    No but Ive been told I'l be sharing with healthcare students not sure if they are any less wacky.
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    25 years old living at home? A lot would say its pathetic

    Sorry, I didn't see that part.
    Anyway a lot would, but who cares? Do what you're comfortable with, tbh it sounds like you'd hate halls (plus you'll be on average 6/7 years older than the majority). I wouldn't do it.
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    I don't think regular halls would suit you. But you should at least consider moving out.
    Look to see if your uni has mature student only halls.
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    25 years old living at home? A lot would say its pathetic
    Don't know about you but in other countries it completely normal to stay at home until your late 20s. If it's better for the person, it's no place for you to judge.
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    Your age is a bit of a stumbling block but don't let it put you off, there was a 25 year old that got stuck in in halls last year with socialising.
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    Thing is, theres quiet areas of the hall, mostly populated by mature students, and the louder parts with younger people. Given your reserved personality, I'd suggest you move into halls but be placed with the mature students (as you would anyway). That way you can make friends, with people your age, without all the noisiness of the student lifestyle.

    If you don't like it in the end, you can always move back.
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    I'm a similar age and personality to yourself and currently living in halls accommodation. My advice is to stay away from them.

    Living here has not enhanced my 'university experience' in any way, it has made me angry and miserable. The environment of halls are very artificial places in the sense that so many youngsters are living together under the same roof.

    I realised that my main problem with this place (apart from the excessive noise) was that I have found halls to be very public with the comings and goings of different characters. I really hate this.

    Next year I have decided to share with other students in a private house as after seeing where a friend of mine lives lives it is way to go. I am going live with random students to try to broarden my friend groups.
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    I lived a 30 minute walk off campus in my first 2 years of university. I found it really hard to meet people, socialise etc and missed out quite a lot.... I was 18 though. Now in halls for final year (aged 22) and its awesome. I'm not exactly a go out every night of the week type person (ok slight exception recently but thats due to immature people being annoyingly immature) and its been great... despite living with pretty much the worst bunch in our hall (they are mostly committee or running for committee).


    If you don't feel like halls, I'd suggest possibly looking into finding a close by flat share with postgrads or fellow mature students. There's a tonne of websites for finding flatmates... and you can meet/socialise with them first to get to know them.

    A 1hr commute will seriously cut into your time and become a drag..... really would not recommend it.

    Also, societies are an awesome way to meet people and have fun.... without the requirement to get stupidly drunk. If you have to drive home as opposed to say a short walk, you may be less inclined to give them ago.
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    I don't personally live in halls - my university wouldn't offer them to me living so close, but even if they had a lot of the things putting you off of moving out put me off too, and I reasoned I'd probably really dislike it. From what you've said and what friends who've moved into halls tell me about them (and what I've experienced staying with friends), plus a little bit of how I assessed myself in relation to halls, they don't sound ideal for you ... but I don't know you, and I can't give you an answer because only you can do that.

    Speaking as an outside observer, your heart seems to want to stay at home but you're concerned how people will view it. IMO, it's not pathetic to live at home no matter what age you are, but this view is strongly influenced by family traditional over the years. Some people will judge you - some people judge me - but if you've made the decision that truly makes you happy, their judgements mean nothing. Also, it's not unexpected that a mature student has an established job or home life, so fewer people will think it's pathetic and you could use it as an excuse if any do, if you feel uncomfortable about it.
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    Go for it, I can't wait till I start in September! Halls all the way! Looking back I am moving 4 hours away so it's really the only option ;D. Still, I'd say go for it! It's an experience you wouldn't want to miss out on.
    Really?
    I'm not sure what you are expecting but I'd like to know.
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