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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Exactly. I felt so out of place with the both of them there, it's horrible when a couple make you feel like that. Not to mention how different she is with me now she has him. She barely calls/texts, only when they argue. We used to be ultra close. I hate it when people change.
    Yeah I don't understand why they drop everyone. I've seen a few mates go off the radar after getting a bf/gf. I just accept it now and move on.
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    Man I'd be pissed if my friend did that to me? Can't spend one weekend away from her BF to see her best friend before she goes away for 6 months?? HOE.
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    She acted like a bad friend.
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    (Original post by RichyFrench)
    Man I'd be pissed if my friend did that to me? Can't spend one weekend away from her BF to see her best friend before she goes away for 6 months?? HOE.
    Thank you, well said! That sums up pretty much exactly how I feel.
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    Usually I'd let this pass.

    But you travelled 200 miles to see her after a long break, unless it was unclear to her how important it was to you that you spent that weekend catching-up, I would evaluate whether you want to continue putting in the effort to maintain her as a friend.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)

    ...Turns out he was sulking because he thought they should be in bed together and I should be the one sleeping alone..
    This disgusts me.
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    Ohhh :hugs:

    I feel so sorry for you OP! It sounds like you were really looking forward to spending some time with her... I was going to say that if she and her boyfriend aren't at the same uni/dont see each other much then it'd make more sense her wanting to grab all the time she can get with him, but they're travelling for 6 months and she hasn't seen you for 5!!

    I'd let her know how you feel, properly. Or show her this thread.

    :hugs: again! x
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    They sound pathetic. If I were you I'd be really angry.
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    basically she's gonna have a terrible time if/when she breaks up with him because if she's treated her other friends like she has treated you she wont have any friends left.
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    I'd be the same, especially because she's going to be off travelling the world with him and it'll be one of her last chances to catch up with you.
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    In my opinion, she was very selfish during your stay and maybe you should rethink your friendship. I can't think why she didn't make at least one day just for the two of you, although it must have been a bit hard because it seems that she is the kind of person to try and keep everyone happy, and in the process of this just annoyed you because she was trying to make her overly needy boyfriend happy..
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    I hate it when relationships destroy friendships
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    She's obviously oblivious to how this would make you feel
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    This is why the following should always be a rule.

    Bros before Hoes.
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    Chicks before Dicks.
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    I would be so, so angry if that happened to me. In fact it has in the past but at least you said something, I just got really annoyed inside!
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    what a chauvnistic, neologistnistic, egotisical, self-loving, man-sucking HOE.

    :sly:
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    I sympathise with you. The sad thing is, nothing lasts for ever, even friendship. I'm 28 year-old and when I think how many people I considered as friends in the last 10 years, but with how many I still have contact, I feel really disappointed .

    You should do the same as her. Not ignoring your friends, but finding a partner for a durable relation. Remember that parents are the only people who will always be there for you because they love you unconditionally, and if you are lucky, a nice partner. But friends, no matter how close to you they are, they will eventually leave you...
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    want to know the ironic part of this all op, when they break up..she'll come crying to you!
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    Ohhh :hugs:

    I feel so sorry for you OP! It sounds like you were really looking forward to spending some time with her... I was going to say that if she and her boyfriend aren't at the same uni/dont see each other much then it'd make more sense her wanting to grab all the time she can get with him, but they're travelling for 6 months and she hasn't seen you for 5!!

    I'd let her know how you feel, properly. Or show her this thread.

    :hugs: again! x
    I actually did want to show her this thread. The funny thing is I even said to her that I'm pretty certain if I asked a 100 people off the street to give their opinion they would agree that inviting your boyfriend over when all I have is a day to catch up is pretty out of order!

    I feel so much better that people are in agreement...for a moment I began to doubt myself!
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    I am very in love with my boyfriend - and I worry a lot about becoming this bad friend/boyfriend obsessed girl that everybody hates!

    Fortunately (or unfortunately?) I don't really get the chance to ditch my friends for him as we are in an LDR, also he is very friendly and charming towards my friends when we do see them together - I don't think it is awkward being with us as a couple.

    I can really understand the temptation though, because if i got my way I'd probably try and spend every waking moment with my boyfriend (perhaps to the detriment of the relationship :p: )

    However, I do think that if my friend had gone to such effort and expense to see me, and I had spent and was going to spend so much time with my boyfriend over the next few months.. that I would be more considerate.

    That said.. it is easy for me because my boyfriend is not needy or demanding. He is far more considerate than to put me in the situation of telling him "I'm sorry you can't come, my friend is here" by inviting himself round when he doesn't belong.

    Perhaps your friend prioritised him on this occasion because of something you don't know about - maybe she's done him wrong and is trying to suck up to him?
    Or perhaps she is in quite a bad relationship.. and actually he just tells her what to do and she does it (out of fear of losing him, need to be loved by him or something)
    It's quite possible also that she thinks you like him enough (sometimes if you really like someone you think everybody else must like them too) that you had a good/fun time socialising with them both.


    In any case you should probably feel sorry for her (in the long run) more than yourself because she is the one who will be left without friends
 
 
 
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