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    well i dont mean literally none...
    i dont go out much
    i have no (close) friends that are girls (being in a boys school adds to that problem)
    waiting for this september and going to uni where hopefully i'll actually become more social
    im not unconfident or one of those people who sits in their room inside books or working all day, i can talk about anything and everything i have a lot in common with people and (without bigging myself up) i know how to have fun and make people laugh

    so is it bad that im waiting until uni to go out more and have fun and socialise make more close friends etc. ?
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    You know, university isn't anything easier. Actually, I would say it is harder because in high school you go to classes with 20-30 students, while in university there may be 300 students in one lecture. Also, as the campus is big, you don't see your friends as often. There are many lonely people at university.

    Therefore, yes you should train up your social skills now, and not wait till university. Also, at university. Try to befriend many people from day one.
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    I was wondering, If uni classes are so big, how do we make friends?
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    flatmates is usually not that many people so you get to know your neighbours and that. Then the hierarchy sort of system works, they know people who know people etc. Thats my view to be honest but recently i have been flamed as its is my opinion lol.
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    (Original post by MJlover)
    I was wondering, If uni classes are so big, how do we make friends?
    hmm i agree......i wonder how ppl meet friends.....do they just randomly say hi?

    You seems like a shy person no? hopefully not haha! iunno why but yeh.
    well i guess there are many ppl waiting for uni life as i am one of the minority xD no worries. although u shd still try to keep some friends in high school, they might be important to u tooo:eek3:
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    (Original post by MJlover)
    I was wondering, If uni classes are so big, how do we make friends?
    Through the millions of clubs n societies! You will meet similar minded people :woo:
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    Well, you've got the whole of the summer so you might as well make more of attempt to socialise. Surely there are people who you're friends with, who go out and stuff? Just go with them and you'll meet people as you go. And as to those wondering about uni: most people make friends with their flatmates which isn't particularly hard to do unless you're a total retard. Over a month of so, you'll also get to know people on your course and people just generally make groups of friends. It's fairly standard tbh.
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    I never really hung out with any of my flatmates to be honest. I met my 2 closest friends at a welcome day before everyone moved in.

    Then just chatting to people ended up with a group of about 20! My lectures though were never really more than 20 people to be honest.
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    (Original post by Lloyd_wills)
    Through the millions of clubs n societies! You will meet similar minded people :woo:
    yeah im going to join as many as i can
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    (Original post by MJlover)
    I was wondering, If uni classes are so big, how do we make friends?
    Well it depends on the type of person you are.
    1. Some make friends through sports
    2. Study groups is a very good way to get friends
    3. Some people get friends through parties
    4. Some get friends through social clubs.
    5. Also, the orientation week helps a lot.
    6. Some get friends from their flat.

    If you get friends in high school, you should be able to get friends in university as well. However, I wouldn't say university is anything easier than than high school. If you have no social skills, you will find it hard to get friends in university as well.
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    I think a lot of people rely too much on the idea that uni is going to change their life. Yes you will meet new people all the time and there'll be endless opportunities to go out and meet more, but at the end of the day you're still you. Your personalitly isn't going to magically change overnight.

    Instead of waiting until uni, wishing your time away you'd be better off putting in the effort now. What if you turned up to uni and found out everyone in your flat/block in halls are blokes? Going to an all boys school is no excuse, go out with guys from there and make an effort to meet people, its not difficult especially if, as you said, you're not lacking in confidence and you know how to hold a conversation!
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    I pretty much did this. I didn't have many friends at school and hardly went out. Okay, I still don't have many friends and I only go out occasionally. But the friends I have are awesome.

    As for how I made my friends.. well, they are mostly from my corridor, a few from my tutorial group and labs, and others from my language class. You've heard it a million times but join societies you take an interest in and you'll find like-minded friends
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    (Original post by Will1692)
    flatmates is usually not that many people
    And there was me worrying about having to share a flat with 300 people. Thank god thats not the case!

    lol

    Sorry that made me laugh.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    well i dont mean literally none...
    i dont go out much
    i have no (close) friends that are girls (being in a boys school adds to that problem)
    waiting for this september and going to uni where hopefully i'll actually become more social
    im not unconfident or one of those people who sits in their room inside books or working all day, i can talk about anything and everything i have a lot in common with people and (without bigging myself up) i know how to have fun and make people laugh

    so is it bad that im waiting until uni to go out more and have fun and socialise make more close friends etc. ?
    To be perfectly honest, university did change my social life. I've always been pretty shy and my friends at home weren't the kind who went out clubbing and the likes, so I'd only ever been out a couple of times before coming to uni. Also, spending seven years in an all girls school - I had very few male friends (being shy didn't help me because making friends with guys involved me socialising outside my 'comfort zone' so to speak).

    Since being at uni I'm pleased to say I've become a little less shy, I have more guy friends, I go out a lot more and meet new people and I'm not as scared to talk to them. So in my experience it hasn't done me any harm waiting until uni to go out more, socialise and make more close friends.
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    (Original post by hannahhi)
    To be perfectly honest, university did change my social life. I've always been pretty shy and my friends at home weren't the kind who went out clubbing and the likes, so I'd only ever been out a couple of times before coming to uni. Also, spending seven years in an all girls school - I had very few male friends (being shy didn't help me because making friends with guys involved me socialising outside my 'comfort zone' so to speak).

    Since being at uni I'm pleased to say I've become a little less shy, I have more guy friends, I go out a lot more and meet new people and I'm not as scared to talk to them. So in my experience it hasn't done me any harm waiting until uni to go out more, socialise and make more close friends.
    very encouraging
    thanks a lot
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    (Original post by Mykk3i)
    hmm i agree......i wonder how ppl meet friends.....do they just randomly say hi?

    You seems like a shy person no? hopefully not haha! iunno why but yeh.
    well i guess there are many ppl waiting for uni life as i am one of the minority xD no worries. although u shd still try to keep some friends in high school, they might be important to u tooo:eek3:
    Yeah I guess I'm sorta shy... yeah i guess i can make friends in seminars.
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    (Original post by MJlover)
    Yeah I guess I'm sorta shy... yeah i guess i can make friends in seminars.
    yeh"] when are u goign to a university??
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    I fond that for me, friends come randomly. Like sitting next to someone, have one little convo and then they end up being your best friends
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    (Original post by Mykk3i)
    yeh"] when are u goign to a university??
    2010
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    (Original post by MJlover)
    2010
    lol like this year??
    well then best of luck<3
 
 
 
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