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Feel like I've failed at life and missed so many opportunities watch

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    Exactly what the title says. I'm at university and am so sick of all the different types of rejection that I've received over the years:
    I got rejected 3 times for talent competitions at my high school
    I got rejected from Camp America last week for not being skilled enough
    I never get the guys I want EVER (and/or they haven't made a move or shown they're interested in me)
    I got rejected from this charity organisation at my university which I was SOOO passionate about and instead it went to the popular kids who dominated it. And I didn't know them so I couldn't get involved.
    I got rejected from sport teams when I was younger.
    I got rejected from all the auditions for my university theatre.
    I got rejected from being head girl.
    I got rejected from my dream university.

    I feel like such a loser and am so depressed because I'm not good at anything. I've entered a few competitions but I bet I'll also get rejected from them too. Whats the point in even carrying on?
    Need advice and encouragement from others because I'm at a loss and feel so pathetic right now-everyone excels at something right, except me. And I'm sick of bitterly resenting the popular students who get whatever they want whilst they don't even know my name.
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    When you say you've been rejected do you mean you didn't win/get the position, or were thrown out? Quite a difference...
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    (Original post by sidi)
    When you say you've been rejected do you mean you didn't win/get the position, or were thrown out? Quite a difference...
    Both?
    I was usually rejected from the positions/talent competitions etc. I didn't win them.
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    What are you like!
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    Honestly, people shine at different times in their lives. I definitely shone a lot more when I was at school than since I've been at uni. But there are many years ahead and I believe I'll stand out again one day Keep your head up, your time will come.
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    Well that's not rejection. You didn't get head girl position. Only one person can get it and it wasn't you but neither was it several others. You obviously take things far too personally. Loads of people don't get into their dream uni. It's a fact of life. Don't be bitter about it. Think of the positives in your life not the negatives. If you've been 'rejected' from sports teams it means you're able-bodied. You don't have to be the best at everything, just do your best and accept what comes.
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    (Original post by NowBor)
    What are you like!
    Lols.
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    Ok, so what are you going to do about it? You have two choices really, wallow in being a victim, or keep fighting, work harder, stay determined and get where you want to be. Dont get bitter, the only person that affects is you, negativly. You are obviously putting yourself foward in the right direction, so have faith in yourself, dont generalise and step your game up.
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    Try not to over-analyse things but think why you "failed" and learn from your mistakes. From the opportunites that arise, make the most of them.
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    At least you tried
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    (Original post by sidi)
    Well that's not rejection. You didn't get head girl position. Only one person can get it and it wasn't you but neither was it several others. You obviously take things far too personally. Loads of people don't get into their dream uni. It's a fact of life. Don't be bitter about it. Think of the positives in your life not the negatives. If you've been 'rejected' from sports teams it means you're able-bodied. You don't have to be the best at everything, just do your best and accept what comes.
    I wasn't even put in the running for it-my teachers rejected me for it and chose 3 other girls to go head to head for it and 2 of them got deputy head girls in the end. My point is that of course I'm not the best at something and I don't want to be but I'm not ever given the opportunity to try or better myself. I just want to be competent at something-here at uni everyone seems to have a 'thing' like they've played netball regionally, can play an instrument and have other hobbies and activities yet I don't have any. I'm trying to learn languages but have yet to master them, I didn't have enough money to join in on the sports at my uni and can't afford music lessons-though when I had them they didn't help me .
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    You hadn't failed at life for the reasons you mentioned.
    However, you have failed precisely because you're declaring that you've failed at life.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Exactly what the title says. I'm at university and am so sick of all the different types of rejection that I've received over the years:
    I got rejected 3 times for talent competitions at my high school
    I got rejected from Camp America last week for not being skilled enough
    I never get the guys I want EVER (and/or they haven't made a move or shown they're interested in me)
    I got rejected from this charity organisation at my university which I was SOOO passionate about and instead it went to the popular kids who dominated it. And I didn't know them so I couldn't get involved.
    I got rejected from sport teams when I was younger.
    I got rejected from all the auditions for my university theatre.
    I got rejected from being head girl.
    I got rejected from my dream university.

    I feel like such a loser and am so depressed because I'm not good at anything. I've entered a few competitions but I bet I'll also get rejected from them too. Whats the point in even carrying on?
    Need advice and encouragement from others because I'm at a loss and feel so pathetic right now-everyone excels at something right, except me. And I'm sick of bitterly resenting the popular students who get whatever they want whilst they don't even know my name.
    are you at university?
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    "I've failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed." - Michael Jordan, one of my favourite quotes!
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    Get used to it. You miss the vast majority of potential opportunities that come your way.

    Still, the mark of a successful person tends to be persistence and the general ability to dust oneself off after a defeat and get back on the metaphorical horse.
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    I know what you mean, I feel kinda like this at times. I've failed at so much things over the past few years, it really can depress you after a while. You've just gotta push through and find ways to make things better for yourself. Remember, it could be so much worse. Hope you can cheer up :console:
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    (Original post by muckie)
    are you at university?
    Yeah but I'd written a bit about 6th form and high school too.
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    (Original post by afroman)
    "I've failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed." - Michael Jordan, one of my favourite quotes!
    That is one severely inspirational advert.
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    You're a failure if you think you are. If that's what you want then so be it - you're a failure. Only when you decide not to be one will you feel better.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah but I'd written a bit about 6th form and high school too.
    Right then... As someone has suggested, none of the things listed mean you fail at life, but the fact you're so pathetically moaning about trivialities means you fail entirely.

    Life isn't easy, it's full of knock backs and not getting everything you want, that's life.

    It's only when you let those failures and "rejections" beat you, then you are a failure. Consider your personal circumstances, what lies ahead, what are you able to achieve.

    If you fall down because of a few trivial issues, what will become of you when you face some of life's really big challenges. Never, ever give up, always push yourself to your absolute limit, then you can never be a failure, regardless of your circumstances.
 
 
 
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