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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah but I'd written a bit about 6th form and high school too.
    well when you get out into the real world you'll realise people make there own luck and theres no such thing as popular people. Just think positive and you'll do well.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Exactly what the title says. I'm at university and am so sick of all the different types of rejection that I've received over the years:
    I got rejected 3 times for talent competitions at my high school
    I got rejected from Camp America last week for not being skilled enough
    I never get the guys I want EVER (and/or they haven't made a move or shown they're interested in me)
    I got rejected from this charity organisation at my university which I was SOOO passionate about and instead it went to the popular kids who dominated it. And I didn't know them so I couldn't get involved.
    I got rejected from sport teams when I was younger.
    I got rejected from all the auditions for my university theatre.
    I got rejected from being head girl.
    I got rejected from my dream university.

    I feel like such a loser and am so depressed because I'm not good at anything. I've entered a few competitions but I bet I'll also get rejected from them too. Whats the point in even carrying on?
    Need advice and encouragement from others because I'm at a loss and feel so pathetic right now-everyone excels at something right, except me. And I'm sick of bitterly resenting the popular students who get whatever they want whilst they don't even know my name.
    You need to remove the word 'rejected' from your vocabulary, it almost seems like a badge of honour for you. You need to stop identifying yourself as a loser. It creates a self-fulfilling prophecy, if you keep thinking failue and talking failure, guess what you will get? failure! It's a disempowering mindset to have.

    There are no failures. Everything in life, good or bad, is a learning experience. Thomas Edison went through something like 10,000 experiments before creating the lightbulb. People asked him was he gutted that he failed so many times, but he said he never failed because he learnt 10,000 ways of how not to do something! Sometimes learning what NOT to do, is just as important as learning how to do something. There is obviously a pattern in your life here and believe it is perpetuated by your lack of self-belief and the fact that you beat yourself up about rejection.

    When I was 16, my whole focus in life was joining the Royal Navy. I trained 2 hours a day to get myself in to shape, went running every day, learnt how to swim, went swimming twice a week, and then I failed my medical twice. I got rejected at every job interview and I couldn't get in to college. The future seemed hopeless and I felt sorry for myself but that didn't change a damm thing. I did a course which made me confident and motivated again and I realised that the world doesn't owe me a living, if I want something, I have to work hard for it, and if I fail, I learn from my mistakes, and try again.

    I'm going to type out an extract from 'Unlimited Power' by Anthony Robbins:

    'Let me share someone's life history with you. This was a man who:

    Failed in business at age 21
    Was defeated in a legislative race at age 22
    Failed again in business at age 24
    Overcame the death of his sweetheart at age 26
    Had a nervous breakdown at age 27
    Lost a congressional race at age 34
    Lost a congressional race at age 36
    Lost a senatorial race at age 45
    Failed in an effort to become vice-president at age 47
    Lost a senatorial race at age 49
    Was elected president of the United States at age 52

    The man's name was Abraham Lincoln.'

    You have a choice. You can choose to be the victim and wallow in self-pity and defeat or you can pick yourself up, brush yourself off and try again. The only person who will ever hold you back in your life is yourself. Look in the mirror and you will see at the same time, both your best friend and your worst enemy.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I got rejected from Camp America last week for not being skilled enough
    Rather than focus on the problem, why don't you focus on the solution? if you failed because you weren't skilled enough, go out there and get the skills required.

    I couldn't get a job when I left school because I had no work experience and no confidence, so I started volunteering in a charity shop, which gave me retail experience, a reference, and confidence. The voluntary work also looked good on my CV. As a result of that, I eventually got a paid job.

    I was rejected by McDonald's for a job when I was 16 but a few years later, I ended up getting a job there. Just because you were rejected once, doesn't mean you will be rejected again. BUT, you have to realise WHY you were rejected. If you know why, you can figure out the how. So next time you apply, you won't make the same mistake again, or you will make sure you are a stronger candidate because you now have the skills and experience.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I never get the guys I want EVER (and/or they haven't made a move or shown they're interested in me)
    Have you actually done anything to try and get the guys that you want? You can't always expect other people to make the first move or you will be waiting a very long time, perhaps forever. You can't expect results if you don't put any work in. You have to be pro-active, you have to take the initiative sometimes.

    I would suggest reading the articles (I recommend ALL of them) at http://www.geoffthompson.com

    I guarantee that if you read through ever single one of them (took me about 3 days), it will change your thinking and your life forever. It changed mine. What have you got to lose?
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    (Original post by afroman)
    "I've failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed." - Michael Jordan, one of my favourite quotes!
    Quoted for absolute truth. :cool:

    LOL, I was reading the OP's post and was wondering when someone was going to post that quote.

    Can't go wrong with a quote from the G.O.A.T :cool:
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    [QUOTE=Anonymous] My point is that of course I'm not the best at something and I don't want to be but I'm not ever given the opportunity to try or better myself. QUOTE]

    If you want to better yourself, why not strive to be the best? Why aim to settle for second best?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I feel like such a loser and am so depressed because I'm not good at anything. I've entered a few competitions but I bet I'll also get rejected from them too. Whats the point in even carrying on?
    The darkest hour of your life is only 60 minutes long and the closer you get to the light, the darker your shadow becomes. The point of carrying on is that even though you're in a dark place right now, you're about to have an epiphany, you are the captain of your ship and the master of your fate, and you can change your future. Your past does not equal your future. Your past does not equal your future. You have massive opportunity and potential now to turn your life around.

    I was in a dark place like you many years ago, I had no confidence, no hope, no ambition and no self-esteem. My dad had died, my girlfriend dumped me, I failed two medicals like I said earlier, couldn't get a job and couldn't get in to college. I was pathetic. An embarassment.

    I then did the Prince's Trust course and that changed my life and I started achieving things beyond my wildest dreams. Since finishing the course in 2003, I've got a 2.1 Law degree from university, worked at Walt Disney World in America, Sailed with the Tall Ships Youth Trust in Norway, overcome my fear of heights by climbing the top mast of a ship, doing a 14,000ft tandem skydive and abseiling 150ft down a building. I've had a letter from Prince Charles, Fiona Phillips wrote an article about me in the Daily Mirror Newspaper and that led to a 2 week work experience placement at a big Law Firm in a Manchester and the opportunity for me to write an article for the Metro Newspaper.

    I've volunteered in a charity shop, a high school, a hospital and the Citizens Advice Bureau. I've interviewed Geoff Thompson, the guy who really inspired me and changed my life for the better and I've been on Radio One. I'm running my first marathon in April and I start Law School in September. That is why you should carry on. If I can achieve all that, anyone can, and believe me, I'm nothing special. You just need to work hard and to believe in yourself and you can create the life of your dreams. You will look back at all them rejections and think yeah that was a bad time for me but I learnt from my mistakes and I used that rejection as a fuel to spur me on forward to greater things. Sometimes not getting what you want in life is a wonderful stroke of luck. Looking back, I'm so glad I failed those Royal Navy medicals!

    I won't lie to you, it hasn't been easy, I've been attacked and hospitalised twice and lost my step father to cancer as well, but we all have bad things happen to us in life and we all lose people we love. You just have to learn to deal with it. I would recommend reading self-help books as they have had the biggest impact on my life and are responsible for influencing the vast majority of achievements I've listed.
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    bah fuсk Camp America. it's all about Canada, anyway.
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    Everytime you fall down, you have to get up n fight even harder, its the only way

    Never give up, push yourself to the top
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Both?
    I was usually rejected from the positions/talent competitions etc. I didn't win them.
    Someone has to be 'not the best'. Thats you.
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    (Original post by iwwhty)
    'Let me share someone's life history with you. This was a man who:

    Failed in business at age 21
    Was defeated in a legislative race at age 22
    Failed again in business at age 24
    Overcame the death of his sweetheart at age 26
    Had a nervous breakdown at age 27
    Lost a congressional race at age 34
    Lost a congressional race at age 36
    Lost a senatorial race at age 45
    Failed in an effort to become vice-president at age 47
    Lost a senatorial race at age 49
    Was elected president of the United States at age 52

    The man's name was Abraham Lincoln.'
    FFS he was shot dead what three years later, hardly a shining example there.
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    (Original post by Quady)
    FFS he was shot dead what three years later, hardly a shining example there.
    I think you're missing the point.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Exactly what the title says. I'm at university and am so sick of all the different types of rejection that I've received over the years:
    I got rejected 3 times for talent competitions at my high school
    I got rejected from Camp America last week for not being skilled enough
    I never get the guys I want EVER (and/or they haven't made a move or shown they're interested in me)
    I got rejected from this charity organisation at my university which I was SOOO passionate about and instead it went to the popular kids who dominated it. And I didn't know them so I couldn't get involved.
    I got rejected from sport teams when I was younger.
    I got rejected from all the auditions for my university theatre.
    I got rejected from being head girl.
    I got rejected from my dream university.

    I feel like such a loser and am so depressed because I'm not good at an.
    RELAX..the fact that you were even considered or tried for all of these positions means u are talented and special.....For example....you were rejected as the head girl but at least u probably had some qualities that made u qualify to be an head girl..I was the head boy of my school and those that ran against me, although were not picked, had good qualities.....I guess I was just better?:o:

    Look..RELAX.......if u get rejected...forget it and move on....u got rejected from ur dream univ....so?...find another university.....do u see a pattern here?..maybe u take things too personal?...I know we all have the tendency to, but you cant really afford to TAKE EVERYTHING personally...thats the root of all DEPRESSION....relax ..........[hug]
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    (Original post by iwwhty)
    The darkest hour of your life is only 60 minutes long and the closer you get to the light, the darker your shadow becomes. The point of carrying on is that even though you're in a dark place right now, you're about to have an epiphany, you are the captain of your ship and the master of your fate, and you can change your future. Your past does not equal your future. Your past does not equal your future. You have massive opportunity and potential now to turn your life around.

    I was in a dark place like you many years ago, I had no confidence, no hope, no ambition and no self-esteem. My dad had died, my girlfriend dumped me, I failed two medicals like I said earlier, couldn't get a job and couldn't get in to college. I was pathetic. An embarassment.

    I then did the Prince's Trust course and that changed my life and I started achieving things beyond my wildest dreams. Since finishing the course in 2003, I've got a 2.1 Law degree from university, worked at Walt Disney World in America, Sailed with the Tall Ships Youth Trust in Norway, overcome my fear of heights by climbing the top mast of a ship, doing a 14,000ft tandem skydive and abseiling 150ft down a building. I've had a letter from Prince Charles, Fiona Phillips wrote an article about me in the Daily Mirror Newspaper and that led to a 2 week work experience placement at a big Law Firm in a Manchester and the opportunity for me to write an article for the Metro Newspaper.

    I've volunteered in a charity shop, a high school, a hospital and the Citizens Advice Bureau. I've interviewed Geoff Thompson, the guy who really inspired me and changed my life for the better and I've been on Radio One. I'm running my first marathon in April and I start Law School in September. That is why you should carry on. If I can achieve all that, anyone can, and believe me, I'm nothing special. You just need to work hard and to believe in yourself and you can create the life of your dreams. You will look back at all them rejections and think yeah that was a bad time for me but I learnt from my mistakes and I used that rejection as a fuel to spur me on forward to greater things. Sometimes not getting what you want in life is a wonderful stroke of luck. Looking back, I'm so glad I failed those Royal Navy medicals!

    I won't lie to you, it hasn't been easy, I've been attacked and hospitalised twice and lost my step father to cancer as well, but we all have bad things happen to us in life and we all lose people we love. You just have to learn to deal with it. I would recommend reading self-help books as they have had the biggest impact on my life and are responsible for influencing the vast majority of achievements I've listed.

    What an inspiration...very insightful comments....God bless ur heart.....
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    Life's all about rejection - you miss 100% of the shots you never take. If go for something at least you put yourself out there. So much in life is a lottery and, as you get older, you see that it really is a numbers game. The more rejections you have under your belt the better, it hardens you to it and makes you better appreciate success. Rejection hurts especially when you set unattainably high standards for yourself: you got rejected as head girl - so did every other girl in your school but one, you got rejected from your dream uni...so did most people. You set yourself up to feel bad because you think it's never ok to fall short.

    The problem is also when you make rejection about you when it's not. Often the rejection is just the application you made, the things you said etc - that isn't you as person. They aren't rejecting you at the core - often it's just numbers they're rejecting.
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    (Original post by Jelkin)
    Honestly, people shine at different times in their lives. I definitely shone a lot more when I was at school than since I've been at uni. But there are many years ahead and I believe I'll stand out again one day Keep your head up, your time will come.
    this is the best advice i've read so far OP like jelkin said your time will come, although it doesn't look like it at the moment but when it does you definetly will shine through everything
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    Life's just like that. I used to get annoyed because I never won anything - I only have one little tiny plastic sports plaque for orienteering lol. You just have to get over it, y'know? Life does, and has, gone on despite you not winning.
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    You got into university didnt you? So you have achieved things, you got through school successfully and got into a university, even if it wasnt your first choice. Why not make this your turning point and think more positively about things?
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    (Original post by L i b)
    Get used to it. You miss the vast majority of potential opportunities that come your way.

    Still, the mark of a successful person tends to be persistence and the general ability to dust oneself off after a defeat and get back on the metaphorical horse.

    exactly
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    You have not failed "life", you this is only one hurdle in a long journey. All those things you have mentioned, do they really matter? You may think they do now, but does not being head girl really mean it's the end of the world? I'm sure that you have succeeded in loads of areas in your life, yet you are forgetting about them. You are still young and you will have you're fair share of success. Failure only makes you work harder to be more successful in the long run. Have a look at that - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dT4Fu-XDygw
 
 
 
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