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    Hey,

    Not often I post in this category, but now seems like as good as time as any.

    My gf and I are considering moving in together (exclusively) for our 3rd year of uni. Trouble is, I'm not sure how much I want to live exclusively with her. I'm not even sure if I'm ready to push our relationship into the 3rd year. I sort of miss being single, and feel incredibly guilty about it. Give it's our first relationship (i.e. neither of us have had a relationship before this one) I'm not sure whether to feel bad, or to consider ending things. Any input would be greatly appreciated!!

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    If you are not sure you want to move in together then don't do it. If it ends while you're living together it'll be so awkward having to be around each other all the time and be hard to find a replacement flat mate and deciding who moves out, etc.

    No need to feel bad about it.
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    Yeah I know, that's the logical idea, and exatly the advice I would give to someone else in my scenario. But I just find it so tough to hurt someone I have feelings for, and justify them as well.
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    she shouldn't feel hurt, she should be understandable I think!
    I mean if you feel you are not ready yet to move in together then don't, some people really need their own space so that's nothing to be ashamed about. You could still find to flats real close to each other and have tea together or things like that.

    I do understand it's hard as I guess she is really looking forward to moving in with you and all excited but I think if you just explain to her that you love her to bits but moving in together sort of scares you or you don't know if you are ready for that yet. I really hope she will understand and that things will work out.

    Think carefuly and make the right decisions.
    good luck!!
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    (Original post by Hologide)
    Yeah I know, that's the logical idea, and exatly the advice I would give to someone else in my scenario. But I just find it so tough to hurt someone I have feelings for, and justify them as well.
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    Better to potentionally hurt her now than end up hurting her more in a few months time when you're in a situation thats bad for the both of you, financially and emotionally.
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    Don't live with your partner at uni. It causes many many problems down the line.
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    Living with her will only make things akward between you two if your not comfortable about it.
    I still think that your thoughts about missing being single is sad. If you truely loved her then you wouldn't be regretting being with her. You should be happy but if your not, you may as well end it because its not fair on her.
    Give it time and it may get better. Don't be too rash and end things, it may not be the right time.
    Good luck
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    If you are asking us our advice then I think you shouldn't do it. When me and my bf moved in togetherwe were both exactic at the idea, and that's the way it should be.

    If you do and it deosn't work out, its going to be very awkward and umcomfortable for your final year of uni!
 
 
 
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