I Am going out with The Love of My Life, and we are soon to be going on to our Second Year together. She is not fat what so ever. The thing is she never eats any thing except fruit and vegetable, even when she is at Her own house. She is skinny, and now her diet has developed to an extent where she has unhealthy bags under her eyes. When we talk about having children she tells Me that she does not want to have any because they will make her look fat. I Am constantly telling her the Truth, that she is Beautiful, that she has an Amazing body, Amazing Bum and yet she has chosen to ignore Me all this time. She says that she Loves Me, yet when We are sitting there in front of My Mother, and I propose a certain question, My Mother goes she would choose the diet over you. She has suffered from bullemia before, and yet she thinks that this diet thing of hers is perfectly healthy and normal. Yet Today Me and My Mother were telling her, with My Mother crying, that that is not the case. I Am telling her she is killing her self, and when we are alone she is telling Me to "f-off" and refusing to speak to Me.
I Am 18 Years Old, and I Am crying.
Please tell Me what to do.
No she does not, I made her eat some prawns Today in front of My Mother because she feels ill and her immune system is completely crap, and now, for not the first time, she is saying "f-you", "f-this", no compassion what so ever, My Mother was crying Today, and yet still.
I think maybe she should see a councellor? If she is seriously anorexic then maybe she should go to a clinic? From the sounds of it, if she won't listen to anyone, she has a proper psychological problem and needs professional help. I think you should take her to her doctor TBH.
Aww *hugs for both of you*. You really need to get her to talk to a professional. If she's not listening to her boyfriend telling her she's beautiful, then she needs help.
(btw whats with the Capitals?)
the reason shes becoming cranky sweetie is because she has a low blood sugar level - but to me this sounds like quite like anorexia or some other ED.....the girl is not eating enough to sustain her own body.....has become paranoid about how she looks....sweetie dont force her to eat something anorexia is a physchological and physical disease - pushing leads to more of the same characteristics shes showing.....sit her down (give her something to eat like an apple or banana to keep in check her blood sugar is ok) and ask her why she wants to do this......its very hard the road to remission sweetie its not a fail-safe either show her pictures of what she looked like before........ask her what does she see in the mirror when she sees her face.....if she says she sees someone whos not fat ask her do you see someone whos healthy.....if she answers yes then point out the faults such as the bags under her eyes etc......but dont force her in anyway - its the worst thing you can do ..... trust me ive been down this way before - when she admits she needs help bring her to a pyschologist and dietician! when explaining this people forget how important a dietician is......they will set out a meal plan what she can follow if she wishes as her stomach has shrunk to nothing never make her eat more than she can after all being anorexic the stomach is somewhat similar to when you get gastrointestinal surgery done and get your stomach shrunk - all you can do at this point is follow what i've said and make her come to terms but other than that be as supportive of a boyfriend you can be and allow her to see she is beautiful no matter what shape, height or size she may be xoxo
come on musicbloke, tammygirl's only expressing her opinion, and advising from her own past experiences. no harm done- we all trying to help eugene afterall