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    This is quite long. The whole story is here but you can just read the last bit in italics for a summary at the bottom if you like.

    I'm a first year at uni and I haven't been particularly social very often this year, only going out occasionally, and not joining many societies/clubs etc. but I went out last night to blow of some steam.

    I was in a club and I approached a really attractive girl and got talking. Turns out she's in the same department as me (but different course) and in her 4th year, so we had loads to talk about and we really clicked.

    Later on in the night, she was surrounded by guys pretty much all the time so I didn't get much of a chance to talk then, but every time I passed her in the club she'd shout out to say hi to me and smile, which she never did to any other guys. Across the night, and between other girls, I spent a little time dancing with her, even a little grinding, but she always randomly walked away after a minute or so at best. At first I thought she was playing hard to get but then later on I saw her dancing with another guy and next time I looked over she was making out with him...

    I had no place to go home that night so I asked around the people I'd spoken to if I could crash at their house and she instantly accepted, but said her and her friends were going for a curry first. I agreed and we went along. We ate, then went to her friend's house and all chatted for ages, by the time we left it was like 4:30am. It felt a little strange, me being 18 and they were all 21 or older.

    We went back to her house and she said this: "Do you want to share the bed or go on the couch or what? I'd normally never trust a guy in bed with me, and especially people like *male friends we'd been speaking to before* but I can tell you're not like them." (I'm not) So I agreed to share the bed and we spoke more for a while, not settling down to sleep until like 5:30am. She wasn't uncomfortable with me putting my arm over her and cuddling up to her and we spooned and slept like that for a few hours until we woke up.

    She was really cool in the morning and we had some morning recovery drinks and spoke a bit more. Nothing happened during the night.

    I'm just so confused because I like her and she clearly likes me, but im not sure in what way. I honestly didn't think I had a chance with her. She was so easy to talk to and such a nice girl and we got on well. She told me to stay in touch when I finally left.

    What should I make of this girl who I honestly wouldn't think I had a chance with, but got on so well with? She let me 'sleep' with her and flirted a lot. She never once at any stage even seemed slightly uncomfortable with where my hands were on her, although I didnt really go beyond her legs, sides, arms and back. I don't know if I just missed a massive opportunity to take things further with her or what...She was the kind of person who I could quite happily be either friends with or more. I like her more than I want to have sex with her. (if that makes sense, i hope it does)

    I feel really good about what happened, its a pretty good confidence booster for someone like me, even if I blew the chance to do more... and even if I just became friends with her, she's the first person who I feel i could actually be close friends with since I've started uni.

    I just basically want to know what you make of it. Do you think she wanted me to come on to her and make it happen, or do precisely what I did? Do you think she likes me as a friend or more?

    Trying to understand these kinds of things is normally so futile haha, but any thoughts would be appreciated.

    Thanks for reading, appologies for the long post.
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    Not sure, girls can be hard to read sometimes. She might've wanted you to come on to her or she might just genuinely be comofortable with spooning mates in bed.
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    That's a damn hard situation to interpret.. Sounds like she likes the company but doesn't want anything more really.. But play it cool and if more stuff like this happens it's likely she'll develop feelings for you.. If not, then you can admire her while she never knows. Nice to have someone to care about, but gay at the same time. Either way, don't persue right now.
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    Any more thoughts?
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    Hmm sounds like a tough one alright. Well I'd say regardless of whether she thinks of you as a friend or something more, that you should act like a friend and be gentleman-like. Who knows you could end up becoming the best of friends or boyfriend/girlfriend...
    The whole bed thing is quite ambiguous...generally if she offered you the bed it can mean one of two things: Either she finds you totally non-threatening (i.e. like a girl's gay best friend (no offence! , and since she openly met someone else and discussed her guy friends with you and as you are also a couple of years younger, I would sway towards this opinion)
    Or she wanted something more ...
    The best thing would be to act as a friend and you'd never know something more could happen and even if it doesn't at least you'll end up have a good friend (which you can never have too many of!)
    Hope this helps!

    P.S. go out as much as you can and socialise as much as it only gets harder after first year. Enjoy it!!
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    toyboy much? if she got off with someone, grinded with several guys, and then let you sleep in her bed? run./
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    ^Zactly

    Sounds a ho type
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    We went back to her house and she said this: "Do you want to share the bed or go on the couch or what? I'd normally never trust a guy in bed with me, and especially people like *male friends we'd been speaking to before* but I can tell you're not like them." (I'm not).


    LET FOOGLE TELL YOU SOMETHING ABOUT WOMEN. If any guy believes a girl when she tells you, "i usually don't do this" then You stupid
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This is quite long. The whole story is here but you can just read the last bit in italics for a summary at the bottom if you like.

    Thanks for reading, appologies for the long post.
    You really could've had sex with her, no doubt, but if you're not that guy you're not that guy... better to work with what you have then to press things and make a hash of it. Ring her, chat her up, make her laugh, invite her AND HER FRIENDS out to a club with you and some mates, be sexual, kiss her, **** her.

    Have fun

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    (Original post by Kev.)
    You really could've had sex with her, no doubt, but if you're not that guy you're not that guy... better to work with what you have then to press things and make a hash of it. Ring her, chat her up, make her laugh, invite her AND HER FRIENDS out to a club with you and some mates, be sexual, kiss her, **** her.

    Have fun

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    this? OP
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    Inb4 "What if she really doesn't want sex?"

    Then you will find out this about half way through the point of kissing her. No way to find out before with out seriously diminishing your chances of sleeping with her... properly.

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    Just, dont even bother. Girls are the most ridiculously complex things there are, give you all one signals then make a total U turn in a week :rolleyes:
 
 
 
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