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    Please Anon.

    Well, I was at the walk-in center today, due to some lower abdominal pain. Turns out I had a urine infection. But anyhoo, when the doctor/nursey woman asked me if I ever felt pain having sex, I said yes, sometimes a bit on entry and for about a minute or so, which I thought was pretty normal? She then told me that sex should never ever hurt, and when I left the room to pee (:woo: ) she kept saying it to my boyfriend, and basically made him feel awful.
    Do you think she was right with that? And am I wrong in feeling that they way she said it was a bit unprofessional?
    Cheers.
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    I agree with you on both points.

    Sex does hurt for girls, as far as I know, particularly if you're fairly new to it. Lubrication and experience helps I'm told. It does depend on the type of pain, if you get like hot burning pain I think that's meant to be bad. But generally I get pain and I know it's that I'm still tight, and this is probably true for a lot of women.

    She was unprofessional, I think, to keep going on about it to your boyfriend. You could make a complaint. Maybe she was just trying to help, but it sounds like she did it stupidly.

    Having said that, I'm assuming that's the sort of pain you're talking about, normal sex pain. If your boyfriend is hitting your repeatedly with a sledgehammer (or just generally hurting you through kicking/punching/whatever) during sex - then well that *should hurt* but it's not good sexual practise, with the sledgehammer at least. If you're into that sort of thing though...

    But joking aside, sounds like you got a bit of an idiot at the clinic. If oyu're really worried go to a GUM clinic - specialist place for sexual health stuff.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)

    Having said that, I'm assuming that's the sort of pain you're talking about, normal sex pain. If your boyfriend is hitting your repeatedly with a sledgehammer (or just generally hurting you through kicking/punching/whatever) during sex - then well that *should hurt* but it's not good sexual practise, with the sledgehammer at least. If you're into that sort of thing though...

    Lol, I'm happy to say that no, he doesn't hit me with a sledgehammer! :woo: And yeah, it just kinda feels like he's stretching me a bit (he's quite big :rolleyes: ) And we do use lube, I think it's just a matter of time
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    No, of course it shouldn't hurt. It's understandable if it's your first few times but otherwise... why would you expect it to hurt? Why would people seek out sex if it was supposed to hurt?
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    (Original post by Pink Bullets)
    No, of course it shouldn't hurt. It's understandable if it's your first few times but otherwise... why would you expect it to hurt? Why would people seek out sex if it was supposed to hurt?
    I don't expect it to hurt, I just find that it does, on occasion. And you ask why people seek out sex? Because I still get pleasure from making love to my boyfriend, as I mentioned above, it only hurts for about a minute after entry - it doesn't ruin my sex life. Sex isn't supposed to hurt - some people just find out that it can.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Lol, I'm happy to say that no, he doesn't hit me with a sledgehammer! :woo: And yeah, it just kinda feels like he's stretching me a bit (he's quite big :rolleyes: ) And we do use lube, I think it's just a matter of time
    That sounds normal to me, or at least, it's exactly how it is for me
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    Sometimes sex hurts for me for the first minute or so, if I'm not wet enough and he's trying to push himself in despite my asking if he can spend a minute or two kissing my neck to really turn me on and get me wet. But once he's in and the wetness is flowing, everything's perfect! No pain And yes, I think that was unprofessional of her to say that to your boyfriend! Other than the fact that it's wrong to discuss someone's medical status when they're not present - even though he was with you - I think it definitely wasn't her place to repeat that it hurt you!
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    Sex hurts for me too. Like for a bit until I get wet. If I dont get wet enough, then I just stop (like most people would). I've taken to using lube, and there are some really good one's out there to make it better for you
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    Sex really shouldn't hurt - maybe more foreplay is the answer?
    anon 4 -why are you doing it that way round? surely you should make sure you are wet enough before having sex?

    But yeah, after saying it, she shouldn't have kept saying it repeatedly - thats a surefire way to imply that the person you are talking to is an idiot, and it was unprofessional of her.
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    anon 4 -why are you doing it that way round? surely you should make sure you are wet enough before having sex?
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    Just if we're having sex straight after or really soon after just having sex. Have loads of foreplay and I'm really into it mentally, but just not physically apparently. Meh, nothing like Durex Play O heehee
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    anon 4 -why are you doing it that way round? surely you should make sure you are wet enough before having sex?
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    Just if we're having sex straight after or really soon after just having sex. Have loads of foreplay and I'm really into it mentally, but just not physically apparently. Meh, nothing like Durex Play O heehee
    Well yeah...your natural lube or lube you applied before the first time has run out.....you will obviously need more. And durex play o isnt lube. Durex play on the other hand is....
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    Ditto. He's quite big and I'm very wee...
    I can't seem to get past the pain.
 
 
 
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