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Flirting tips for Shy guy with little experience? watch

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    Here's the situation, there's this girl in my college I really like and she likes me too(She's shy too) I speak to her quite alot about the work but I kinda struggle to get past the work stage. We've chatted online too and obviously I found it easier there.

    So I need some tips on how to flirt when I'm with her in college....my experience is really limited.
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    Be yourself is the main thing! Maybe tease her a little but not too much. Give her a hug? Things to let her know that you are actually interested and not just messing around. And if you are considering asking her out then just do it, you won't know unless you ask!
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    Ask her what the biggest animal she reckons she could throw over a crossbar would be.
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    Make up stupid questions to ask. Start up weird joke so only you 2 konw about them. Tease her mercilessly in an obviously friendly way(sticking chewing gum in her hair is not cool).
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    Just get chatting to her :P If she likes you too then theres nothing to lose.

    If you find it hard talking face to face, get to know her online, and maybe ask her out on a date? Thats how me and my boyfriend started out anyway, we were both quite quiet, and mainly chatted online, went out on a few dates, and we've been together since.
    good luck
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    Let the drinks flow!

    As they do so, your love will blossom like a flower in the spring.
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    (Original post by ed_jnr)
    Let the drinks flow!
    ugh

    intoxicating yourself should not be an accepted answer. :hand:
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    (Original post by JoMo1)
    Make up stupid questions to ask. Start up weird joke so only you 2 konw about them. Tease her mercilessly in an obviously friendly way(sticking chewing gum in her hair is not cool).
    Would anyone outside of primary school think it was?
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    (Original post by dichr0ic)
    ugh

    intoxicating yourself should not be an accepted answer. :hand:
    It shouldn't, but sadly in the world we live in it is - alcohol, quite sadly, is too wrapped up in our culture to be easily avoided.
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    (Original post by ed_jnr)
    It shouldn't, but sadly in the world we live in it is - alcohol, quite sadly, is too wrapped up in our culture to be easily avoided.
    :sadnod: yep.
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    (Original post by Gardocki)
    Ask her what the biggest animal she reckons she could throw over a crossbar would be.
    Which animal would win in a fight/race is always a good bet aswell, eg
    baboon v giraffe to the death.
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    Invite her to a gig/comedy night/etc.

    Invite her as part of a group so there's no pressure. Then have a few drinks, relax and hopefully the rest will come naturally.
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    grow balls and pick up a physucally endearing activity
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    I used to be a pretty shy guy and I managed to figure out how to let a girl know I was attracted to her without looking like an idiot if she rejected me. Act cocky and funny (must be both, but stay yourself, there's nothing worse than trying to act like someone else who is cocky and funny, just make a few cocky jokes and try to convince her to admit she likes you etc.). Make jokes your fashion sense being supremely better than hers for example, give her patronising hugs when she does something stupid (we all do, especially if we're with someone we like :rolleyes:), blame things that you did stupidly on her and start a light hearted argument, but always keep it light hearted and joking, reminding her every now and again with comments equivalent to 'im kidding really, you know I don't think you're an idiot, not all the time anyway' *cheeky smile or wink*

    (Original post by dichr0ic)
    ugh

    intoxicating yourself should not be an accepted answer. :hand:
    I actually find that just having a couple of drinks (not getting absolutely wasted) really helps me to socialise and meet people and many of my friends I have today I would likely not have had the confidence to get talking with otherwise. I'm not endorsing getting wasted as a good method of socialising, but a little alcohol can help ease the tension and make an evening so much more comfortable.
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    (Original post by Conor Tickner)
    a little alcohol can help ease the tension and make an evening so much more comfortable.
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    i know what you mean!
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    (Original post by keepa7)
    Would anyone outside of primary school think it was?
    it was metaphorical.
 
 
 
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