Seconday virginity/born again virgins - wtf???

apparantly in america, bush is imposing the teaching of abstinance instead of sex ed, and keeping virginity is the new rage, with cults like 'true love waits' and 'love matters'.

i read a site saying that many peaople have premaritial sex all over the shop, then when they find their partner to marry, they abstain for a few weeks or months before the marriage to amke them virgin again. in the us, if you have abstained for a while eg 6 months, you automatically can be considered a born again virgin.

if you have lost your virginity, i think true love waits gives you a card, badge and t shirt when, for $5 per time, you become a secondary virgin. there is no limit to how often you can do this.many do this just so they can tell their bf/hubby that they are a virgin.

a secondary virgin is someone who has had sex, but now wants to wait until marriage.

isnt someone who has already had full sex already not a virgin?
is it me, or is this whole thing ironic and stupid?

80% of people break the pledge, and when they do they are 3x more likely not to use protection.

what do you think? anyone here a born again virgin?

isnt someone who has already had full sex already not a virgin?
is it me, or is this whole thing ironic and stupid?

i'm catholic and i wanted to wait for marriage but in all of my relationships so far (2) the strain of this has been too much. most boys seem to want to sleep before marriage. and i definately want to be married so i can have kids. so my plan is to wait until im 25,and if im still not married, i'd sleep with the next relationship i had.it seems many boys are not willing to marry someone they had not slept with- sexual compatibility and all that.

i totally agree peops! the idea you can reclaim your virginity for $5 is ridiculous.

Well "reclaiming your virginity" is a mind/spiritual thing and has NOTHING to do with any type of business. It's a personal thing. This whole "$5" doesn't get you anything but material goods (shirt/whatever) and these organizations are more to unite people with the same ideas/goals/etc..

Reclaiming your virginity(spiritual virginity) happens when you decide to do it, going to a seminar or something and paying $5 is helping fund the program.

Aren't we lucky we have Amanda to explaint he strange American ways!

I think that's all well and good, but I've been on American forums before and the way teens are brought up over there has turned them into really judgemental people! One girl saying she's pregnant results in an outbreak- pages of people telling her she's betrayed God, or if you have sex before marriage you're betraying your future husband or something. I'm religious but as far as I'm aware the Bible says not to judge others, only God can judge.

I'm religious but as far as I'm aware the Bible says not to judge others, only God can judge.

no matter how many seminars, pledges, badges,t shirts. sure, they might make you pure of spirit and a good person, but they cannot make you a virgin again.

after all, a man who marries a 'virtuous' 'good' 'pure' woman and has no sex with her until marriage as she says she is a virgin, then finds out on the wedding night that actually she has
had 15 previous partners, then decided to become virgin again, is ridiculous.

sorry if i insulted you/anyone. i wasnt saying that people who have sex before marriage are bad people. i was saying i thought the notion that wearing a badge/t shirt/signing up for seminars/not having sex for 3 weeks could make you virgin again was ironic and a ridiculous concept. how can there be a virgin who has had sex with 100 people?

yes it cuts down on pregnancy, but i still think they should call it something else

I think American's are really cool in a very quirky way!