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    I was 17 when I had my daughter - I'll be honest, it is monumentally hard work. You have to be there every day you have to get up every night, often frequently. There are no days off, if you want to go out you have to organise a sitter - and then often pay that sitter. Sometimes family will babysit BUT will get pissed off if you're out every night. Children are lovely, and very rewarding, but you have a lot of time ahead of you, there is no rush.

    I'm now trying to go back to Uni and get my degree, its been 7 years since my eldest was born - and Its hard work juggling everything. Sometimes I feel like I'll be missing out on 'Uni life' but that is the decision I've made.

    Regarding going to Uni this Sept - If you're pregnant now you're looking at an Oct/Nov birth. which means deffering to next year minimum, so You'll be at Uni with a 10 month old baby, or alternately leaving said baby with your parents while you're at Uni. at that age babies need huge amounts of your time and attention.

    I'm not saying HAVE AN ABORTION, or HAVE THE BABY, but do be aware of the magnitude of the decision, and the huge commitment to your time, finances and sanity that a child is.

    As others have said find a local clinic or advisor you can speak to face to face.
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    My personal opinion is that you have an abortion, carrier before baby. You don't seem ready but its up to you.
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    Depends on the kind of person you are.

    I'd say adoption, because so many people can't have kids and you'd be able to bring immense joy to someone.

    That being said, I'm biased against abortions - I don't like this quick-fix culture.

    The most important thing is being able to move on from whatever decision you make, because things won't be the same no matter what you decide to do.
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    (Original post by Psylencia)
    I was 17 when I had my daughter - I'll be honest, it is monumentally hard work. You have to be there every day you have to get up every night, often frequently. There are no days off, if you want to go out you have to organise a sitter - and then often pay that sitter. Sometimes family will babysit BUT will get pissed off if you're out every night. Children are lovely, and very rewarding, but you have a lot of time ahead of you, there is no rush.

    I'm now trying to go back to Uni and get my degree, its been 7 years since my eldest was born - and Its hard work juggling everything. Sometimes I feel like I'll be missing out on 'Uni life' but that is the decision I've made.

    Regarding going to Uni this Sept - If you're pregnant now you're looking at an Oct/Nov birth. which means deffering to next year minimum, so You'll be at Uni with a 10 month old baby, or alternately leaving said baby with your parents while you're at Uni. at that age babies need huge amounts of your time and attention.

    I'm not saying HAVE AN ABORTION, or HAVE THE BABY, but do be aware of the magnitude of the decision, and the huge commitment to your time, finances and sanity that a child is.

    As others have said find a local clinic or advisor you can speak to face to face.
    Thanks for your honesty, I appreciate it
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    (Original post by psychocustard)
    Good luck - if you ever need to vent, feel free to PM me :hugs:
    Tempting Thanks.
 
 
 
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