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    This is more of a vent than anything else tbh.

    I am so sick of being single.
    I don't know what I'm not doing/doing wrong.
    Sometimes I think its because I might be just that damn unattractive but then I see other girls who also aren't what the majority would call attractive in very happy relationships. I know it sounds harsh, and people may say that it's my attitude is the reason why I am single but tbh I've not always been this bitter. It's just got worse now that I am at uni.

    I try to go out as much as I can - aim for once a week - which is a mission with my flatmates (theres only really 3 of us girls and 1 guy who's never here because we have the resident tutor living in our flat) who aren't into going out at all. They are the laze around in your room on your own watching shows on the laptop type. I love them but I wish that once in a while they would like to go out with me. All of freshers week I had to pretty much go out on my own and tag along with drunken randomers who forgot me the next day.

    When I go out - I stick to a middle ground - not too much make up but not totally make up free either. I stick to the unofficial boobs out or legs out rule :rolleyes:. I drink sociably - I don't let myself get to the paralytic (sp?) stage and I don't stand around in corner either - I get out there and dance.

    I've never really pulled whilst coming to uni (only about 4 times) and if I have its always been on a night when I'm on my period :mad: or when its a guy who's trying it on with anyone and everyone. I smile, I make brief eye contact I don't know what else to do.

    It's driving me insane. I very seriously considering just going down the "one night stand" road, but I also don't want to have to stoop that low and tbh even getting one night stands is proving difficult. What I want at the most is like a casual fun flirty thing. Nothing too heavy. What do I have to do?! Please give constructive advice.

    Sorry if too long to read.
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    (Original post by polaroid13)
    My sexual fantasy would consist of Vinnie Jones, Brock Lesnar and Eminem almost raping me. (No DP though mind you, I'm kind of anal about anal sex.)
    Something doesn't seem right here for a start.
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    (Original post by katherine_madnesss)
    Something doesn't seem right here for a start.
    Lol it's only fantasy.
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    What do you look like?
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    Go knock on a couple of flats and introduce yourself. The nicest people (a.k.a. the nutters / the people that you want to be friends with as every night out with them is unforgettable) will invite you in / want to get to know you Just get a few people together and arrange a night out and get to know them all. That's the easiest way to meet guys or girls if you don't have a proper uni friendship group.
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    (Original post by polaroid13)
    Lol it's only fantasy.
    Pretty crazy fantasy,
    maybe one not for the internet? haha

    Nah my understanding from other people and personal experience is don't look for people, it will find you - just try to meet new people - go out with your friends etc and not worry about it.

    Every time we go out as a group of Lads it often just ends up bieng a drunken mess, nobody really pulls but when we just take it easy and so its just friendly and people meet other new people just cos' your taking it easy... that's my advice.

    Just relax. :yep:
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    (Original post by polaroid13)
    Lol it's only fantasy.
    Well as long as you don't look like the guy on your profile...
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    Maybe just make sure that you dont look dog rough when you go out and then maybe you'll get some lovin' :P
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    (Original post by polaroid13)
    Lol it's only fantasy.
    I read that as well, thinking there might be a picture on your profile page or something and laughed to myself a bit =P It's not the typical thing people seem to post on their profile pages!

    Judging by your post you do seem nice enough and quite sociable. I really don't know what it is you're doing wrong, it's just one of those things I guess...
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    (Original post by polaroid13)
    I've never really pulled whilst coming to uni (only about 4 times) and if I have its always been on a night when I'm on my period :mad:
    did someone say red wings?

    pm me.
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    (Original post by polaroid13)
    This is more of a vent than anything else tbh.

    I am so sick of being single.
    I don't know what I'm not doing/doing wrong.
    Sometimes I think its because I might be just that damn unattractive but then I see other s who also aren't what the majority would call attractive in very happy relationships. I know it sounds harsh, and people may say that it's my attitude is the reason why I am single but tbh I've not always been this bitter. It's just got worse now that I am at uni.

    I try to go out as much as I can - aim for once a week - which is a mission with my flatmates (theres only really 3 of us s and 1 guy who's never here because we have the resident tutor living in our flat) who aren't into going out at all. They are the laze around in your room on your own watching shows on the laptop type. I love them but I wish that once in a while they would like to go out with me. All of freshers week I had to pretty much go out on my own and tag along with drunken randomers who forgot me the next day.

    When I go out - I stick to a middle ground - not too much make up but not totally make up free either. I stick to the unofficial out or legs out rule :rolleyes:. I drink sociably - I don't let myself get to the paralytic (sp?) stage and I don't stand around in corner either - I get out there and dance.

    I've never really pulled whilst coming to uni (only about 4 times) and if I have its always been on a night when I'm on my period :mad: or when its a guy who's trying it on with anyone and everyone. I smile, I make brief eye contact I don't know what else to do.

    It's driving me insane. I very seriously considering just going down the "one night stand" road, but I also don't want to have to stoop that low and tbh even getting one night stands is proving difficult. What I want at the most is like a casual fun flirty thing. Nothing too heavy. What do I have to do?! Please give constructive advice.

    Sorry if too long to read.
    Tbh i don't think you can force these things. It doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong or offputting, it might be even more frustrating, but if it was me i reckon i'd just be even more patient? Not always easy, i know
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    Why don't you try a different look, other than boobs/legs out.

    Dress smart/casually for a change and see where that goes. Different guys have different tastes.
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    You do all the work, we're just scared of rejection as well!
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    Stop being annoying.
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    Why are you so desperate to be in a relationship - in my experience guys can sense this and will steer clear - you should be able to enjoy life being single, and on your own. You shouldn't be going out purely to hook up with someone, or to find a boyfriend....
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    (Original post by Dionysus)
    Well this one's easy to diagnose! Basically you're gagging for it. Just find someone and **** them! And if you like, I'm only a PM and a train ride away :-)
    man-whore :yes:
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    (Original post by Tomby1)
    Go knock on a couple of flats and introduce yourself.


    Super effective if you do it naked.



    Ever watched he vids on Dare Dorm?
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    So are you after a relationship or sex?

    If it's the former you aren't going to get a decent one by sleeping with guys you meet in bars.
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    N'aww don't get stressed :console:

    I think at uni a lot of people are there enjoying singledom and those who do got out a lot are probably those who want to stay single. Sure, they might go for one night stands but if that's not what you want then I wouldn't advise it.

    Have you tried more sociable groups, as opposed to those awful sounding flat mates? Do you live near many other flats? Are there any clubs you have/ could join? Maybe spend more time socialising in the town rather than at uni? Hopefully you'll eventually meet someone and can eventually take things from there Don't rush though, you can have fun without a relationship!
 
 
 
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