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Uni drop-out, no confidence and getting a job watch

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    Please don't reply to this thread with insults, I really don't need them. I would just like some constructive advice.

    I've just withdrawn from uni in my final year (I had become so stressed I couldn't cope any more). I should be issued a diploma of higher education for the first two years I passed. I am planning on finishing my degree through the open university but courses don't start until October. In the mean time I need to get a job...

    The problem is that the last two and a half years of uni have totally trampled on what little confidence I had to begin with. I have good GCSEs and A levels, and I have work experience from before I started uni (shop work, cafe type stuff and my last job was in an office). But uni was such a miserable and pointless time I regret ever going, and I feel like I am in a worse position than when I first started.

    My main problem is knowing that I will have to explain to potential employers why I left uni (just thinking about uni makes me feel physically sick)... and also I know they will expect a reference from someone at university. I had so few contact hours while I was there, that even my personal tutor wouldn't know who I am, should I just ask him for a reference anyway? It's no problem getting a reference from my last employer, but I left over three years ago, so I don't know if that will be acceptable.

    Plus the constant news of the recession and high unemployment just makes me feel like there's no point even trying to compete for a job (I'm not aiming high! shop-work or office-monkey would be more than enough)
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    You'll be fine and I doubt they'll ask you to explain why you dropped out...I think references from your last employers should be acceptable enough.
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    Your personal tutor will still be able to give you a reference. All they can really do is comment that you passed your last two years and maybe comment on your attendence. Doesn't really matter that they don't know you.

    If you don't mind me asking, why didn't you stick it out for the last term? I absolutely hate uni and have done since xmas of first year but I'm thinking i mayaswell get that god damn shiny piece of paper.
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    Just say you wanted to study in a different way and would rather self study and work, you don't have to say you hated it or anything and they shouldn't mind, especially if it's just shop work.
    Hopefully the job will build up your confidence again . It's hard getting a job now but not imposible, just apply for everything you see.

    Asking the tutor for a reference will be fine, they should have a very generic template anyway and it is his job.
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    (Original post by romeos*****)
    If you don't mind me asking, why didn't you stick it out for the last term? I absolutely hate uni and have done since xmas of first year but I'm thinking i mayaswell get that god damn shiny piece of paper.
    Yeh, I would have felt like that too if I had any chance of passing my January exams. I failed or did badly in exams in second year, but due to high grades in coursework I passed everything. This year the modules have no course work, and I got so stressed about failing the exams that I couldn't face going to them. I was also behind with my final year project so I thought I had no choice but to drop out.
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    Your position isnt too bad, you've got some work experience, you should get your cert. HE or similar, both of which should have loaded you up with transferable skills. I think it would be useful for you to sit down with a careers advisor, and put together you as a package to sell to employers.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Please don't reply to this thread with insults, I really don't need them. I would just like some constructive advice.

    I've just withdrawn from uni in my final year (I had become so stressed I couldn't cope any more). I should be issued a diploma of higher education for the first two years I passed. I am planning on finishing my degree through the open university but courses don't start until October. In the mean time I need to get a job...

    The problem is that the last two and a half years of uni have totally trampled on what little confidence I had to begin with. I have good GCSEs and A levels, and I have work experience from before I started uni (shop work, cafe type stuff and my last job was in an office). But uni was such a miserable and pointless time I regret ever going, and I feel like I am in a worse position than when I first started.

    My main problem is knowing that I will have to explain to potential employers why I left uni (just thinking about uni makes me feel physically sick)... and also I know they will expect a reference from someone at university. I had so few contact hours while I was there, that even my personal tutor wouldn't know who I am, should I just ask him for a reference anyway? It's no problem getting a reference from my last employer, but I left over three years ago, so I don't know if that will be acceptable.

    Plus the constant news of the recession and high unemployment just makes me feel like there's no point even trying to compete for a job (I'm not aiming high! shop-work or office-monkey would be more than enough)
    If it makes you feel any better Ive finished uni and got a degree and now going to the jobcentre hehe! You should go there, they will help you get a job....yes it is the most depressing place on earth but they will help you. Also just keep looking at the jobcentre site for jobs, theres new jobs everyday. In Manchester there is a place that will help you with your CV for free im sure theres an equvilent whereever you are. Just ask your jobcentre when you apply for JSA. Hope this helps!
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    (Original post by MancBoy)
    If it makes you feel any better Ive finished uni and got a degree and now going to the jobcentre hehe! You should go there, they will help you get a job....yes it is the most depressing place on earth but they will help you. Also just keep looking at the jobcentre site for jobs, theres new jobs everyday. In Manchester there is a place that will help you with your CV for free im sure theres an equvilent whereever you are. Just ask your jobcentre when you apply for JSA. Hope this helps!
    Lol, you have obviously had a better experience of the job centre than I have in the past! I almost feel like the person I spoke to was solely there to tell me I had no hope of finding a job. I think they will probably just have a go at me for leaving uni, and it'll knock my confidence even more.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Lol, you have obviously had a better experience of the job centre than I have in the past! I almost feel like the person I spoke to was solely there to tell me I had no hope of finding a job. I think they will probably just have a go at me for leaving uni, and it'll knock my confidence even more.
    Well not meaning to destroy your confidence but a reality check here... I dropped out of uni last august.. Got made redundant from my job (which i started two years ago) and have been seeking employment since..

    The jobs market is very small these days, and unfortunately there is always someone that has more experience in each role that yourself.. for example i thought office admin, thatd be easy, but i have no experience..

    sorry this isnt very constructive, but im in a similar boat
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Lol, you have obviously had a better experience of the job centre than I have in the past! I almost feel like the person I spoke to was solely there to tell me I had no hope of finding a job. I think they will probably just have a go at me for leaving uni, and it'll knock my confidence even more.
    You can leave that bit of information out (the leaving uni part) and just say that you'll be getting a diploma soon. I've been scared out of my job centre last time I tried, a security guy at the door grabbed my arm and said a bit abruptly, "Signing on?". I get scared off easily!

    Try your luck with sending round CV's using your previous reference from your previous job. You've got nothing to lose by emailing your tutor and asking for a reference, the worst he/she can do is email back and say no. I've had this issue with my personal academic tutor as well though, I changed mine in 4th year (and every year in between because of people leaving ) so she said she wouldn't be able to give me one as she hadn't know me long enough. I tried my course leader instead. Is there any lecturer you got on with or that was approachable? Try them. You could also try voluntary work if all the references come to nothing. Then you can use the voluntary one later. Good luck
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    I've done the same in the last couple months.(although I was 2nd year).
    Just sign on now(so you start getting money). Look around for a few easy jobs/perhaps temp.

    I got a job straight away (temp which became perm), shouldn't be too hard. You won't need to use anybody from the university for references, I used old teachers/college lecturers.

    The only people who really care about how recent your references are, are banks/insurance companies.
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    Thanks for the replies... I guess I don't have to use the uni for a reference, and my personal tutor could probably write one based on 1st and 2nd year grades.

    I was also wondering about how to go about finding a job in London. I have only ever worked in a rural town, where you can literally go into every business and give them your CV. But now my husband is interviewing for a job in London, so we might move up there. I have absolutely no idea where to start, the thought of looking for a job in London is so daunting. Does anyone have any advice for London job hunting?
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    (Original post by twinrage)
    If you really want a job you'll get one. Stop whining about it like a ******* ******.

    There's plenty of good reasons to drop out. As ffar as references goes who gives a ****!?

    Just get a damn job and move onwards and upwards. If you really want to succeed you will.

    I'm sick of ***** like you moaning as if it is really hard when you have it better than the majority of people on this planet. You're most likely not destitute and go on Internet porn at least three times a day for a sloppy **** bash.

    Get a grip you ******* ****.
    Yeh, great, real helpful, thanks.

    By the way it was you I was talking to in the first post when I said "please don't reply to this thread with insults" you're obviously too stupid to understand what I meant by that.

    I guess there are some people worse off in the world than me. People like you. I feel so sorry for your family. They must be so ashamed to have a relative like you, insulting people you don't know on the internet. Classy.
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    (Original post by twinrage)
    Yup. They generally won't give a ****.



    When searching just look for jobs in London.



    Move there, and get a ******* job you waste of skin.



    If it's daunting looking for a job you should stick to what you've been doing to survive currently. Suck a reasonably wealthy guys **** so he supports you. I bet you enjoy that you SLUT.



    This is all that this post needed.

    http://www.justlondonjobs.co.uk/sear...s=Receptionist

    First job, 19 grand a ******* year.

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    I'd wish you good luck but you wouldn't know what to ******* do with it, *****.

    Just out of curiosity, what is wrong with you?
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    What is wrong with you? If you don't know and want to find out, I'm sure there are places you could go where they could run some tests on you. You never know, you might have some kind of new disorder, you could get it named after you. That would be fun for you wouldn't it.
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    (Original post by twinrage)
    You stupid slut.

    GTFO.
    Lol, you know what, you have boosted my confidence because no matter how badly I think about myself sometime, I know I could never be worse off than someone like you. Thanks
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    OP you need to learn to be more dismissive :o:
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    (Original post by Nashy19)
    OP you need to learn to be more dismissive :o:
    More dismissive? Lol, yeh, I am the one with the problem (sarcastic, in case you didn't get that)
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    The economy is bad at the moment but things will pick up eventually.It's hard to get jobs now but that will change maybe in 2013/14 when this severe recession is over.
    OK, so you dropped out of uni, that's not the end of the world and as you said, you'l get some qualification and you can just tell employers you realised you prefered doing something more closely work related rather than academic.
    In the meanwhile keep your spirits up by thinking of ways to start your own business in a small way at first but then you can build it up so maybe you won't even need a job.
    Maybe look for things to sell in skips and sell them on ebay.
 
 
 
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