Scared of oral sex (two threads merged)

This may sound really strange but the thought of giving or receiving oral sex makes me feel sick. I don't have a boyfriend at the moment but I feel like if I do, he will expect me to do it - and I really don't think I could!

It seems to me that oral sex is quite a "popular" way of being intimate with someone without having penetrative sex - so I feel like I'm the only one who doesn't want to do it.

Does anyone else feel like this?

And guys, would you be disappointed/upset if a girl didn't want to give/receive oral sex?

Laura

Reply 1

OMGWTF

1

Not even recieve. I suppose I would be a bit disspointed

Reply 2

tbm

13

If you dont want to have oral sex when you're with a partner, thats totally up to you. Its your decision and you shouldnt feel pressurised into doing something you dont want to. The other person should respect your decision, and if they dont then they arent worth it. Do you think you'd feel differently if you were in a sexual relationship? Perhaps when you find the right person who you feel comfortable with, your feelings might change?

Reply 3

Jack0

You'll probably feel different when you have a boyfriend and it gets under the sheets.

Reply 4

Glory

1

the thought of giving it makes me feel sick also.. Im not too fussy about whether i get it or not from a guy.. I wouldnt be disappointed if he didnt wanna give it, cos i know i couldnt give it myself to him. If that makes sense

Reply 5

frost105

14

I dont like giving or recieving either. Dont worry your not odd!

Reply 6

Laura Lou

OP

13

.Em.

If you dont want to have oral sex when you're with a partner, thats totally up to you. Its your decision and you shouldnt feel pressurised into doing something you dont want to. The other person should respect your decision, and if they dont then they arent worth it. Do you think you'd feel differently if you were in a sexual relationship? Perhaps when you find the right person who you feel comfortable with, your feelings might change?

Hmm...
Now I'm think about it more I beginning to think that I might be more comfortable receiving it if I was in a sexual relationship with someone I felt comfortable with. However, the idea of giving it still makes me feel sick... lol.

Reply 7

grace

15

Glory

the thought of giving it makes me feel sick also.. Im not too fussy about whether i get it or not from a guy.. I wouldnt be disappointed if he didnt wanna give it, cos i know i couldnt give it myself to him. If that makes sense

if the thought of giving your bf oral sex makes you sick then you probably shouldn't be with him. Personally i love every little bit of my bf, nothing about him could ever make me sick and the thought of being that intimate with him really turns me on. I love going down on him.

Reply 8

Jonatan

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Laura_M

This may sound really strange but the thought of giving or receiving oral sex makes me feel sick. I don't have a boyfriend at the moment but I feel like if I do, he will expect me to do it - and I really don't think I could!

It seems to me that oral sex is quite a "popular" way of being intimate with someone without having penetrative sex - so I feel like I'm the only one who doesn't want to do it.

Does anyone else feel like this?

And guys, would you be disappointed/upset if a girl didn't want to give/receive oral sex?

Laura

Don't worry about it, if you feel uncomfortable about it that is perfectly ok. I am sure you are not alone. Also I would never want a girl to do something she felt bad about just to please me. I would not love anyone any less because of it.

Reply 9

Balloo

Well at the end of the day it isn't ot everyone's taste (excuse the pun). Your feelings might change once you find someone you're really mad about!

Reply 10

Daveo

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Laura_M

This may sound really strange but the thought of giving or receiving oral sex makes me feel sick. I don't have a boyfriend at the moment but I feel like if I do, he will expect me to do it - and I really don't think I could!

It seems to me that oral sex is quite a "popular" way of being intimate with someone without having penetrative sex - so I feel like I'm the only one who doesn't want to do it.

Does anyone else feel like this?

And guys, would you be disappointed/upset if a girl didn't want to give/receive oral sex?

Laura

Any boy who actually likes you for you isn't going to care about giving or receiving oral sex. But you never know what might happen if you find someone you really like, maybe you could try to ease yourself into it and you might find you actually like it.

Reply 11

Jonatan

13

grace

if the thought of giving your bf oral sex makes you sick then you probably shouldn't be with him.

Now that's very harsh of you. The way I understood it it was the act in itself she was uncomfortable with and I don't see why that should matter in a relationship if you really love each other. If she did not want to have sex at all that woudl be anotehr matter but Im sure it is not uncommon that people don't want to take it further than that.

Reply 12

Glory

1

grace

if the thought of giving your bf oral sex makes you sick then you probably shouldn't be with him. Personally i love every little bit of my bf, nothing about him could ever make me sick and the thought of being that intimate with him really turns me on. I love going down on him.

well its probabily why im single then and not actually gave it to anyone yet, since the guys ive been out with aint been exactly nice. They end up doing really jurky things and i just leg it. Bets with mates, going to his ex's after seeing me. I have a thing abit a bit like a rule, takes alot to upset me and make me cry, if they make me cry they dont deserve a second chance.

Alot of people ive spoke to, even at the time current boyfriends say some girls do it to every guy and some dont, meaning theres a limited number that are likely to get it, i guess im the one who dont. Im not ruling it out but in past experience the thought of it made me feel sick and very comfortable. I supose trust plays a very big part in it, its something thats built with time.

Reply 13

Saffie

11

I was going to start a thread like this, but figured I'd wait til I actually had a boyf and needed to worry about it. Mine would have been more on a general fear of intimacy... anyway...

I feel the same as you, makes me feel sick and I really can't believe how openly people discuss it, I never realised everyone did it 'til reading TSR. Anyway, my fears spring from a guy going down on me, so are slightly different to yours. :blush:

TBH, I just think it's not worth worrying about, and I wouldn't suggest you tell any partners until you're in that sort of situation. Also, as people have said you just have to hope when you have a boyfriend it'll seem ok. =/ Alternatively, get drunk and see what its like (actually that'll probably scare you more)

Reply 14

NDGAARONDI

16

grace

I love going down on him.

So you keep telling us.

Reply 15

grace

15

NDGAARONDI

So you keep telling us.

mhmm. your point?

Reply 16

Annik

2

me and my mates have discussed this many times..
We all thought that receiving was too weird.. most of us are self conscious and wouldnt wanna even try it :confused:

I guess im jst showing my innocence..
I once almost gave oral.. and then almost vomited *awww memories*.. So the thought really, really freaks me out still! Plus someone told me that they gagged last week.. I think the idea of using a condom (altho a bit weird) actually makes me feel more comfortable bout the idea..
Generally, i think my ideas might change in a stable relationship tho.. :redface:

Reply 17

viviki

14

How did you almost give oral?

I don't like being given it but I don't mind giving it.

Reply 18

grace

15

Annik

me and my mates have discussed this many times..
We all thought that receiving was too weird.. most of us are self conscious and wouldnt wanna even try it :confused:

I guess im jst showing my innocence..
I once almost gave oral.. and then almost vomited *awww memories*.. So the thought really, really freaks me out still! Plus someone told me that they gagged last week.. I think the idea of using a condom (altho a bit weird) actually makes me feel more comfortable bout the idea..
Generally, i think my ideas might change in a stable relationship tho.. :redface:

i think a lot of girls are iffy about recieving...i used to feel sooo self concious and would have to be pretty drunk before allowing a guy to go near there. I guess it comes down to trust really, personally i have to feel soooo comfortable with a guy before letting him go down on me.

As to the whole gagging thing, a little bit of gagging isn't so bad (and apparently feels nice for the guy...go figure). But i had a friend who actually did vomit on her bf while going down on him (this is not the same friend who pissed on her bf by the way if you've read another one of my posts!). But they're still together so i guess the point is that if you trust the person and are comfortable with them it doesn't matter so much if it goes wrong.

Reply 19

Saffie

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viviki

I don't like being given it but I don't mind giving it.

Yep I think I'm more likely to favour that if I ever actually have a relationship. :cool:

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