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Jealousy over pretty girls

Hi people, just wondered how many people would class themselves as a jealous kind of person? I'm asking because (sorry if this sounds really big- headed) but some girls seem to be rather jealous of me. I am told that i'm very pretty (other people's words!) and I get asked out a lot but this seems to create a lot of animosity between me and other girls. As a result, most of my friends are male. Girls just seem to be so nasty to me for no proper reason, even if they don't know me. For example, the other night I went clubbing, and was just minding my own business when a girl who had been giving me evils all night came up to me and said I looked like a slag (for the record I didn't, I was just wearing a mini skirt and others had commented on how nice I looked). I only had to walk past another girl and she asked me why I thought I was so good- I simply walked past the girl, its not like I was strutting around like a supermodel! I just get so fed up of the verbal abuse and dirty looks, whether its in a club or on the street. A lot of girls are automatically nasty to me until they realise that I'm not actually a bitch and I'm not going to try and get off with their boyfriend. So what I want to know is do any other girls have this problem?If so how do you deal with it? I realise that this seems really shallow, but i just hate the fact that girls don't really want to get to know me properly. I'm just worried that when I go to uni people will leave me out like they see to do at the moment. Plus, are any of you out there jealous people who do this kind of thing? Cos I just wondered why people felt the need to be so nasty for such a rubbish reason. Sorry for rambling on!

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Reply 1
I know the feeling. My suggestion is just be friends with guys and not worry about the girls.

(out of my group of friends, 2 are girls and 8 are guys)

obviously there are some nice girls out there and i feel im very lucky to have my 2 best girl mates, as i find it incredibly difficult to become friends with girls. not because theyre jealous of me. they just dont seem to like me.

i too am worried about uni and having girl friends, because i need them. i dont know what id do without my girls. i just find it hard to get along with people that are very bitchy, and generally thats girls. because i say what i think alot and maybe am too blunt people sometimes dont like that and especially girls take it to heart.

as for girls being bitchy it could well be because theyre jealous of you, i really think that not all girls are like that. maybe its just youre unlucky.

x x x
Reply 2
rach1986
Hi people, just wondered how many people would class themselves as a jealous kind of person? I'm asking because (sorry if this sounds really big- headed) but some girls seem to be rather jealous of me. I am told that i'm very pretty (other people's words!) and I get asked out a lot but this seems to create a lot of animosity between me and other girls. As a result, most of my friends are male. Girls just seem to be so nasty to me for no proper reason, even if they don't know me. For example, the other night I went clubbing, and was just minding my own business when a girl who had been giving me evils all night came up to me and said I looked like a slag (for the record I didn't, I was just wearing a mini skirt and others had commented on how nice I looked). I only had to walk past another girl and she asked me why I thought I was so good- I simply walked past the girl, its not like I was strutting around like a supermodel! I just get so fed up of the verbal abuse and dirty looks, whether its in a club or on the street. A lot of girls are automatically nasty to me until they realise that I'm not actually a bitch and I'm not going to try and get off with their boyfriend. So what I want to know is do any other girls have this problem?If so how do you deal with it? I realise that this seems really shallow, but i just hate the fact that girls don't really want to get to know me properly. I'm just worried that when I go to uni people will leave me out like they see to do at the moment. Plus, are any of you out there jealous people who do this kind of thing? Cos I just wondered why people felt the need to be so nasty for such a rubbish reason. Sorry for rambling on!



If you are pretty - and whether you think it yourself or not - some girls are going to be jealous of you. It's not your fault that they're jealous and there's not much you can do about it. These girls are just feeling insecure about there own looks. It's them with the problem, not you.
As for meeting new people at uni - just be yourself. If you think your first impressions (your looks) make people reluctant to be your friend, don't worry about it just let your personality show through and people will see you for who you really are.
(Which uni are you going to? - I'll be your friend, - LOL)

Laura
post a pic lets see if shes got reason to be jealous
Reply 4
~~hannah~~
I know the feeling. My suggestion is just be friends with guys and not worry about the girls.

(out of my group of friends, 2 are girls and 8 are guys)

obviously there are some nice girls out there and i feel im very lucky to have my 2 best girl mates, as i find it incredibly difficult to become friends with girls. not because theyre jealous of me. they just dont seem to like me.

i too am worried about uni and having girl friends, because i need them. i dont know what id do without my girls. i just find it hard to get along with people that are very bitchy, and generally thats girls. because i say what i think alot and maybe am too blunt people sometimes dont like that and especially girls take it to heart.

as for girls being bitchy it could well be because theyre jealous of you, i really think that not all girls are like that. maybe its just youre unlucky.

x x x

Soory, I didn't mean it to come across like that, I don't think all girls are jealous of me :redface:
Reply 5
Hey Rach - what can i say - girls suck! Well, we'll most likely be in the same class at uni and you seem nice to me - pretty faces don't mean jack. If you're vacant and a pretty face then so be it, but if you've got something to say then cool, we'll get along just fine. There will always be jealousy amongst girls. We never seem to be satisfied with ourselves.....i'm pretty happy in my own skin, so i don't think i'd dismiss a person just because they're pretty :-\ i have lots of pretty friends :smile: although one did actually steal my bf, lol :tongue:)
Reply 6
Laura_M
If you are pretty - and whether you think it yourself or not - some girls are going to be jealous of you. It's not your fault that they're jealous and there's not much you can do about it. These girls are just feeling insecure about there own looks. It's them with the problem, not you.
As for meeting new people at uni - just be yourself. If you think your first impressions (your looks) make people reluctant to be your friend, don't worry about it just let your personality show through and people will see you for who you really are.
(Which uni are you going to? - I'll be your friend, - LOL)

Laura

Thanks for the advice! :smile: I'm off to Leeds, where are you going? :smile:
Reply 7
Fleece
Hey Rach - what can i say - girls suck! Well, we'll most likely be in the same class at uni and you seem nice to me - pretty faces don't mean jack. If you're vacant and a pretty face then so be it, but if you've got something to say then cool, we'll get along just fine. There will always be jealousy amongst girls. We never seem to be satisfied with ourselves.....i'm pretty happy in my own skin, so i don't think i'd dismiss a person just because they're pretty :-\ i have lots of pretty friends :smile: although one did actually steal my bf, lol :tongue:)

Hey, I won't be out to steal your boyfriend, I'm not that kind of girl at all :smile: PLus, I always have something to say ( you'll soon find out :wink: )
Reply 8
rach1986
Thanks for the advice! :smile: I'm off to Leeds, where are you going? :smile:

Liverpool - never mind - you seem really nice so I bet you'll have no problems making friends at Uni.

Laura
Reply 9
rach1986
Hey, I won't be out to steal your boyfriend, I'm not that kind of girl at all :smile: PLus, I always have something to say ( you'll soon find out :wink: )

good good :smile: now post a picture of yourself so we can rate you :p:
Reply 10
I will as soon as I can! Anyway, you'll get to see me in the flesh soon enough :biggrin:
Reply 11
Laura_M
Liverpool - never mind - you seem really nice so I bet you'll have no problems making friends at Uni.

Laura

Thank you, thats made me feel a lot better!
Reply 12
Wahey! I don't think i'm bad looking, but i wouldn't say i was a stunner - could you be friends with such a lower being as myself?! :P:
Reply 13
Fleece
Wahey! I don't think i'm bad looking, but i wouldn't say i was a stunner - could you be friends with such a lower being as myself?! :P:

Well, I wouldn't say I was a stunner either, other people say it :biggrin: :wink:
Reply 14
rach1986
Well, I wouldn't say I was a stunner either, other people say it :biggrin: :wink:

:biggrin: fair enough..i like a girl with modesty!
Reply 15
Fleece
Wahey! I don't think i'm bad looking, but i wouldn't say i was a stunner - could you be friends with such a lower being as myself?! :P:

I don't judge people on looks, I judge them on the content of their character (or something like that ha ha) :p:
Reply 16
Fleece
:biggrin: fair enough..i like a girl with modesty!

Hey, modesty is my middle name....
Reply 17
Corrrrrrrr... I'd wanna go to Leeds uni now if you're as pretty as you say you are :wink:
Seabiscuit
Corrrrrrrr... I'd wanna go to Leeds uni now if you're as pretty as you say you are :wink:


hmmm i think shes lying to be honest.. just an attention seeker
Reply 19
Guys eh..