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    (Original post by Libtolu)
    don't tell anyone. I don't go around proclaiming my heterosexuality, if you don't want to shag them then they don't need to know either way.

    And how old are you if you're still in school can you really know when your that young?
    I hate it when people say this , if you're old enough to be attracted to people , you're old enough to know about your sexuality . Well , that's my opinion anyway.

    OP - It's hard but you may have to socialise outside of school to find people who are less close minded When I was in Year 9 my best friends were some twins who were the most shallow people I've ever had the displeasure of meeting. They were openly homophobic and I , being young and stupid , didn't really do much to shut them up because they were popular and I was not.

    Anyway I left them , got proper friends and now I'm out and proud (:
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    (Original post by DirtySyko)
    But the thing is.. I just can't trust anyone. There's a girl called Mia in my year, she openly admitted she was not straight the day she started in year 7, we're both now in year 9 and she still gets the piss taken out of her. Infact, the girls who I hang around with are always talking about how "pathetic" she is for being a lesbian and I try to just stay out the discussion. See now that's exactly why I can't trust even my closest of friends. Obviously, I don't really care much for my repuation or such it's just that if I admitted it, I'd get the piss taken out of me and words hurt, man. Ahhhh.
    Go be friends with mia :confused:

    Though i always thought girls were more accepting, i know that nearly all boys go through a period of being a bit homophobic as in hide your bums its gay graham(this is a memory for year 7), but we grow out of it when we get older but i assumed thaqt girls couldn't be homophobic.
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    (Original post by Libtolu)
    don't tell anyone. I don't go around proclaiming my heterosexuality, if you don't want to shag them then they don't need to know either way.

    And how old are you if you're still in school can you really know when your that young?


    I take that back, You're 13 of course your friends aren't mature enough, if my mate told me he was bisexual when we were 13 i would have run for the hills wait until they've grown up a bit i mean seriously i was still calling random people gay for no reason and running around playfighting at 13, the liklihood is you wont be finding a relationship until you're at elast in college so wait until then by the time they're 16 they should have grown up a bit.

    And a little tip if you tell most adults they will say what i thought when i found out your age, you are really young how do you know.

    They will most likely say its a phase.

    Don't tell boys either they will ask for pics
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    (Original post by Nick_000)
    How else will they meet prospective partners then if nobody knows that they are gay?
    shes 13 it's my understanding that sexual consent for homosexuality is 18 or is it 16 now don't know but either way it's unlikely shes going to meet other lesbians(ones that have come out) at her age and i would rather wait 3 years until people have matured and then openly look for a partner rather than suffer 3 years of taunts.
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    (Original post by Libtolu)
    shes 13 it's my understanding that sexual consent for homosexuality is 18 or is it 16 now don't know but either way it's unlikely shes going to meet other lesbians(ones that have come out) at her age and i would rather wait 3 years until people have matured and then openly look for a partner rather than suffer 3 years of taunts.
    16. Same as hetro's.
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    (Original post by Winnieee)
    I hate it when people say this , if you're old enough to be attracted to people , you're old enough to know about your sexuality . Well , that's my opinion anyway.

    OP - It's hard but you may have to socialise outside of school to find people who are less close minded When I was in Year 9 my best friends were some twins who were the most shallow people I've ever had the displeasure of meeting. They were openly homophobic and I , being young and stupid , didn't really do much to shut them up because they were popular and I was not.

    Anyway I left them , got proper friends and now I'm out and proud (:

    Yes i see the logic however i asked my friend when he realised he was bisexual and he said when he was 17, before that he had only been attracted to girls because the possibility of fancying men had never occured to him.

    Thankyou for praise of the edit, i had been to busy writing that to see this reply .

    You're too fast to reply :mad:
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    (Original post by Nick_000)
    16. Same as hetro's.

    **** me you people are fast, i can't refresh the page fast enough.
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    (Original post by Libtolu)
    shes 13 it's my understanding that sexual consent for homosexuality is 18 or is it 16 now don't know but either way it's unlikely shes going to meet other lesbians(ones that have come out) at her age and i would rather wait 3 years until people have matured and then openly look for a partner rather than suffer 3 years of taunts.
    She's not asking for sex though is she ?! She just wants to be accepted. And anyway , I'm not sure that you can really class lesbian sex as coming under the 'sexual consent' bracket. If you're just going for the whole scissor approach or whatevrrrr :dontknow:
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    All you can do is be yourself, and to all the narrow minded people who say its wrong , well forget them ! You dont want to be their mate anyway
    Is there not a coming out support group near to wear you live ? Try talking to a youth worker , it will be confidential and they can point you in the direction of support and maybe link you up with people who've already been through it and understand.
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    (Original post by Winnieee)
    She's not asking for sex though is she ?! She just wants to be accepted. And anyway , I'm not sure that you can really class lesbian sex as coming under the 'sexual consent' bracket. If you're just going for the whole scissor approach or whatevrrrr :dontknow:
    sexual consent, refers to any sexual contact. oral,anal,vaginal or any other contact that is commonly known as sex.

    Hey whats wrong with the scissor approach :confused:
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    (Original post by DirtySyko)
    Yeah, that's right but I feel like my mates are just too immature to know this. The otehr day I said to one of my firnds "what would you think of my if i were a lesbian?" and she replied with "well, that's disgusting".. so I went quiet after that. But the thing is, I really want to tell somebody but I feel like this is just one of those things that if I reveal to one person, it will spread and everybody will take the piss. I just want to know one thing, why is sexuality an issue in school? How come you're automaticly a freak if you're not straight? It ain't right jeez.
    it's not that it aint "right" if you're not straight. it is just that you are crazyyyyyyyyyyyy woman!! how can you fancy girls when there are some STUNNINGGGGGGGGGGG hot guys around?!?! (johnny depp, brad pitt, tom welling, chad michael murray, cristiano ronaldo, the JLS boys....) LOL!
    there are soooooooooooo many hot guys i think we will never run out of hot guys so i dont see how girls can like girls!! lol
    btw honestly, i am not homophoebic or anything. i have no problem with it. I just think you lot are nuts for not appreciating the male beauties we have in the modern world
    best of luck with telling your friends hun xx
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    btw also, the lesbian phase is a thing that most people go through...a lot of my friends "turned lesbian" for like 6months or something, but everyone is straight again now. i actually only know like 1 lesbian person in the whole world atm :O
    maybe you'll grow out of it. xxx
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    Gosh! I'd better change my orientation to technically straight... just in case anyone was confused. :woo:
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    (Original post by Libtolu)
    sexual consent, refers to any sexual contact. oral,anal,vaginal or any other contact that is commonly known as sex.

    Hey whats wrong with the scissor approach :confused:
    ooh cool , thanks for clearing that up (:
    ooops , I didn't think I'd broken the law xD

    And lol , absolutely nothinggg ! (;
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    (Original post by Libtolu)
    don't tell anyone. I don't go around proclaiming my heterosexuality, if you don't want to shag them then they don't need to know either way.

    And how old are you if you're still in school can you really know when your that young?


    I take that back, You're 13 of course your friends aren't mature enough, if my mate told me he was bisexual when we were 13 i would have run for the hills wait until they've grown up a bit i mean seriously i was still calling random people gay for no reason and running around playfighting at 13, the liklihood is you wont be finding a relationship until you're at elast in college so wait until then by the time they're 16 they should have grown up a bit.

    And a little tip if you tell most adults they will say what i thought when i found out your age, you are really young how do you know.

    They will most likely say its a phase.

    Don't tell boys either they will ask for pics
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    OP, judging by the girl who still gets the rip taken out of her, I'd advise not coming out right now.

    Not to hide who you are, but well, so you don't end up resenting who you are because narrow minded people take the rip.

    From seeing other friends who've come out, the best way is usually to have a partner first, and then when people realise that's who you're with they'll work out your orientation and usually you end up getting very little stick for it that way, rather than just telling people about it.

    Well, that's what I suggest.
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    (Original post by BringMeThatHorizon)
    it's not that it aint "right" if you're not straight. it is just that you are crazyyyyyyyyyyyy woman!! how can you fancy girls when there are some STUNNINGGGGGGGGGGG hot guys around?!?! (johnny depp, brad pitt, tom welling, chad michael murray, cristiano ronaldo, the JLS boys....) LOL!
    there are soooooooooooo many hot guys i think we will never run out of hot guys so i dont see how girls can like girls!! lol
    btw honestly, i am not homophoebic or anything. i have no problem with it. I just think you lot are nuts for not appreciating the male beauties we have in the modern world
    best of luck with telling your friends hun xx

    Yes an i being a straight man don't understand how girls or any men fancy men when there are so many beautiful girls around.

    And your other comment about growing out of it is exactly why i told her not to tell parents or any other adult because its exactly that sterotypical ******** that forces people to stay in the closet, thank you for helping the op tho.
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    OP, don't listen to any of the imbeciles who try to persuade you that it's 'just a phase' or that you're too young to be sure you're gay. I knew I was into girls from age 11. If they were sure they were straight at 13, you can be sure you're a lesbian.

    I wouldn't recommend coming out tbh, simply because you'd have to face the kind of idiots like the posters on this thread. Join an LGBT youth group and maybe tell your family. That way you'll be able to feel freer but won't have to face any bullying. Just remember that if anyone has a problem with it, it's their problem, not yours
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    Or OP don't categorise yourself, fancy what you fancy without placing a label on it.

    You might fancy certain women certain men, you never know who you will fall for in the future just accept yourself and sstop fretting, tell your friends when you think they are ready.

    Ohh and people respond differently to hypotheticals than they would in real life.

    If someone said hypothetically if someone came to you and said they were going to kill themselves what would you do? i would say i would tell them to jump off a cliff or somewhere remote so it doesn't disrupt my day.

    If it happened in reality i would try to disuade them from doing it.


    Your friend may have said what she said because the question was hypothetical if you said, i am a lesbian i doubt she would react the same way.

    But i'm not a 13 yr old girl so i have no idea if this is true or not, better to be safe than sorry etc
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    so you are a lesbian.....

    does this mean you are on a different planet to us
    do you work on a different plane to us mere mortals...

    NO, ignore those idiots, your real friends will support you/not really change their view of you and those who aren't will be ********s
 
 
 
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