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    I don’t really party and have only drank about once or twice. Call me boring but I guess partying isn’t for me! I guess in my mind I have this image of all university students going out every night, and I'm the only one to stay indoors...

    Maybe things will change at university but I just want to know one thing.

    If your one of those individuals that doesn’t want to go out and party at university, will people make fun of or think badly of you?

    (I'm not anti-social neither do I have any kind of mental disorder, I just lead a pretty boring life...)
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    How do you know you won't want to go out and party at university if you haven't been to university!

    Try it and if you hate it im sure there will be other people that don't like partying, generally my friends that doen't go clubbing etc all the time have other groups and clubs or go to the gym etc
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    Yeah like Ronar said you might change your mind. When I went to university (especially in first year) the people who didn't party (go out/have a few cans at home with people) were called boring, and to be fair they were a bit. You'll find with all the socialising, if you're having a good time with people, the partying will come naturally . Hope this helps and don't worry about it.
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    You don't have to do it every night but come on, everyone likes to party! Unless you are socially awkward and generally don't enjoy the company of others and meeting new people.
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    If I were you I would go out to every club night and event in freshers week, whether or not you enjoy it. I'm in my third year and most of my best friends here are those I met on pub golf and club nights in freshers week.

    In all honesty if you don't do that, people won't make fun of you, but they might not know that you exist. Once you have friends and everyone calms down then you can have a perfectly functioning social life without going out, just having people over for drinks and stuff.
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    (Original post by Ronar)
    How do you know you won't want to go out and party at university if you haven't been to university!

    Try it and if you hate it im sure there will be other people that don't like partying, generally my friends that doen't go clubbing etc all the time have other groups and clubs or go to the gym etc

    Yeah you right
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    You might change your mind when you are at university. Such a variety of people go to uni that you'll always find people like you
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    (Original post by Antzlck)
    You don't have to do it every night but come on, everyone likes to party! Unless you are socially awkward and generally don't enjoy the company of others and meeting new people.
    No I loveee socialising! I guess having strict parents I hardly get the chance to go out to party without being caught... at university i will be free!!
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    (Original post by Mudya)
    I don’t really party and have only drank about once or twice. Call me boring but I guess partying isn’t for me! I guess in my mind I have this image of all university students going out every night, and I'm the only one to stay indoors...

    Maybe things will change at university but I just want to know one thing.

    If your one of those individuals that doesn’t want to go out and party at university, will people make fun of or think badly of you?

    (I'm not anti-social neither do I have any kind of mental disorder, I just lead a pretty boring life...)

    Stop worrying what people will think You're your own person and you only have one life, do what YOU enjoy!

    My only other advice is don't knock anything until you've tried it It's good to jump into some situations, you might love it (referring to anything, not just clubbing!) Get out there! X

    EDIT: And if you don't like it 'out there' get back in :P Just try it first!
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    (Original post by Mudya)
    No I loveee socialising! I guess having strict parents I hardly get the chance to go out to party without being caught... at university i will be free!!
    haha seriously stop worrying, you'll be fine.

    I have a friend like you, very very sociable girl but strict parents so wasn't able to go out so much and sadly still isn't when she's at home ... went to uni and was free to party hard
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    (Original post by Mudya)
    I don’t really party and have only drank about once or twice. Call me boring but I guess partying isn’t for me! I guess in my mind I have this image of all university students going out every night, and I'm the only one to stay indoors...

    Maybe things will change at university but I just want to know one thing.

    If your one of those individuals that doesn’t want to go out and party at university, will people make fun of or think badly of you?

    (I'm not anti-social neither do I have any kind of mental disorder, I just lead a pretty boring life...)
    No I loveee socialising! I guess having strict parents I hardly get the chance to go out to party without being caught... at university i will be free!!
    i know someone just like this! he rarely goes out, or at least much more rarely than the people in his building, but he still seems to enjoy uni. his 'excuse' is his work, but there are people doing similar courses who seem to go out as much. and your conception of students going out every night is true in some cases. :cute:
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    (Original post by Mudya)
    I don’t really party and have only drank about once or twice. Call me boring but I guess partying isn’t for me! I guess in my mind I have this image of all university students going out every night, and I'm the only one to stay indoors...

    Maybe things will change at university but I just want to know one thing.

    If your one of those individuals that doesn’t want to go out and party at university, will people make fun of or think badly of you?

    (I'm not anti-social neither do I have any kind of mental disorder, I just lead a pretty boring life...)
    I don't do it because I don't live there (however I would not do it if I did live there either :awesome: ) but no-one looks down on me. People sometimes gave me a funny look when we started the course in October, but those people who gave me a funny look don't do that now I am getting all A's and they are getting C's. Not that everyone who goes partying gets bad grades, but the ones in my tutor group who go out almost every night are getting C's whereas I am getting A's. (I am not generalising! There are many who are getting good grades and partying, I am solely referring to those girls in my tutor group! Also, not that C's are bad grades, I am just referring to them in comparison to A's.)

    I like going out for nice meals with my friends and stuff and I haven't really found anyone at uni who likes to just do that really. I may have found one person but she lives at home which is the opposite side of uni to my house

    I probably haven't had the best experience to be honest because I live at home so have not met as many people as others and I have also found that no-one I have met so far has anything in common with me. Most of the people I have met have horses would you believe, and they are always talking about their horses and racing and dressage etc. I have sat on a horse once so I have no idea what they are talking about, I do not enjoy the conversations anymore. It was okay for the first 2 months asking "oh how is your horse" and asking other questions about horses and riding, but now I have worn all those questions out and I have nothing else to input to the conversations. I wish I could just find someone who is like me

    But no I wouldn't worry about being the only one not partying, you probably won't be the only one anyway. It doesn't matter if you don't party, just try and find people who prefer to do the stuff you like doing

    Sorry for going off topic, I just needed a rant lol. You don't happen to be coming to Birmingham do you???
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    (Original post by HaNzY)
    I don't do it because I don't live there (however I would not do it if I did live there either :awesome: ) but no-one looks down on me. People sometimes gave me a funny look when we started the course in October, but those people who gave me a funny look don't do that now I am getting all A's and they are getting C's. Not that everyone who goes partying gets bad grades, but the ones in my tutor group who go out almost every night are getting C's whereas I am getting A's. (I am not generalising! There are many who are getting good grades and partying, I am solely referring to those girls in my tutor group!)

    I like going out for nice meals with my friends and stuff and I haven't really found anyone at uni who likes to just do that really. I may have found one person but she lives at home which is the opposite side of uni to my house

    I probably haven't had the best experience to be honest because I live at home so have not met as many people as others and I have also found that no-one I have met so far has anything in common with me. Most of the people I have met have horses would you believe, and they are always talking about their horses and racing and dressage etc. I have sat on a horse once so I have no idea what they are talking about, I do not enjoy the conversations anymore. It was okay for the first 2 months asking "oh how is your horse" and asking other questions about horses and riding, but now I have worn all those questions out and I have nothing else to input to the conversations. I wish I could just find someone who is like me

    But no I wouldn't worry about being the only one not partying, you probably won't be the only one anyway. It doesn't matter if you don't party, just try and find people who prefer to do the stuff you like doing

    Sorry for going off topic, I just needed a rant lol. You don't happen to be coming to Birmingham do you???
    Its ok!
    No I'm not going to Birmingham, either Leicester or Nottingham
    Also the weird thing is I get on most with people who party like mad, I guess I am a party animal in the inside!! :P
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    (Original post by Mudya)
    Its ok!
    No I'm not going to Birmingham, either Leicester or Nottingham
    Also the weird thing is I get on most with people who party like mad, I guess I am a party animal in the inside!! :P
    Owwhhh, no harm in me trying to find similar people who are going to be in the year below me

    Haha maybe you are a party animal, when you give it a go you may be converted
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    (Original post by Mudya)
    I don’t really party and have only drank about once or twice. Call me boring but I guess partying isn’t for me! I guess in my mind I have this image of all university students going out every night, and I'm the only one to stay indoors...

    Maybe things will change at university but I just want to know one thing.

    If your one of those individuals that doesn’t want to go out and party at university, will people make fun of or think badly of you?

    (I'm not anti-social neither do I have any kind of mental disorder, I just lead a pretty boring life...)
    You don't have to party! My friends and I like to be more relaxed and if you want to chat with people a club for instance isn't the best environment. Furthermore there is nothing better than having intense discussions/debates into the early hours of the morning! :yes:
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    (Original post by Mudya)
    I don’t really party and have only drank about once or twice. Call me boring but I guess partying isn’t for me! I guess in my mind I have this image of all university students going out every night, and I'm the only one to stay indoors...

    Maybe things will change at university but I just want to know one thing.

    If your one of those individuals that doesn’t want to go out and party at university, will people make fun of or think badly of you?

    (I'm not anti-social neither do I have any kind of mental disorder, I just lead a pretty boring life...)
    I hardly drink any alcohol, some people find it strange but I don't really care lol. I honestly don't enjoy alcohol and don't really like it either so yeah. I have never experienced any negativity about me not going out a lot. You will find loads of people who feel the exact same as you. Don't worry too much!
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    Don't worry, it's not a crime. Just enjoy yourself in other ways.
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    (Original post by Mudya)
    I don’t really party and have only drank about once or twice. Call me boring but I guess partying isn’t for me! I guess in my mind I have this image of all university students going out every night, and I'm the only one to stay indoors...

    Maybe things will change at university but I just want to know one thing.

    If your one of those individuals that doesn’t want to go out and party at university, will people make fun of or think badly of you?

    (I'm not anti-social neither do I have any kind of mental disorder, I just lead a pretty boring life...)
    1) if they do, they you don't wanna know them anyways.

    2) tbh, it depends how you act. if you literally do bugger all in your free time, then they might think you're boring. cause you probably are.


    I don't "go out" at night round the town like most uni students. its just ******* lame. everyone does it, and the fact most people need to get hammered to enjoy themselves is proof of how dull it is. after 6 shots a supermarket is fun. why go to a club? House parties are fun, but nightlife around town is just not fun. I personally prefer to either see my girlfriend, go bmxing, skateboarding, climbing, or whatever.
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    (Original post by Mudya)
    If your one of those individuals that doesn’t want to go out and party at university, will people make fun of or think badly of you?
    People will probably think it's strange, at least in the beginning, because a lot of people at uni, especially in first year, think they're having a bad social life if they only go out once or twice a week, but (in my experience) they don't really mock you. I do have one friend who calls me an misanthrope, but that is a joke ... I think. *

    If you're doing what it is that makes you happy, why do other peoples' opinions of your social life bother you? And if you're not happy with it, change it!

    * No, it is. It's that kind of friendship.
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    They'll think you're fine. I really dislike clubbing because of the music so the only time i go out is to reflex (80s music woo!) or if it's a friends birthday or something. Other times you'll find me residing in a pub. Pubs are great because you don't have to drink, nobody will think anything of what you choose and it's a nice atmosphere to chat to people. I think sometimes in life you've just got to do things you don't particularly enjoy so go out a few times for your friends and to make some friends in freshers week etc. Also, i can go for months without going clubbing. It's just not something that i feel has to be done, i've still got pleanty of friends so all is good
 
 
 
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