Giving your gf space-help

Ive been with my gf for 6 months and since the summer she has been back home and ive been at home in cardiff. She lives an hour away on the train. Well ive been so bored at home. Ive had nothing to do and ive just ended up texting and calling her too often and when she doesnt txt back i ring her up and talk to her. I never use to be like this its only been since the summer because ive been so bored. Shes told me she wants me to stop textign and calling so much as if i carry on ill lose her but she said its nothing to worry about and that she just wants space. A girly mate told me just to text and call once a day giving her some space. Im just worried if i back off like that she'll go off me and will forget about me. Anyone got any advice. I just find it hard not too txt her during the day because ive got nothing keeping me busy so im looking to keep myself busy by looking for a job etc. WIll texting her and ringing her once a day gonna work? she says she still loves me and wants to be with me but she said ive gotta give her some space.

try to understand that just because she doesn't want to spend all her time with you doesn't mean that she doesn't love you. i had the same problem with my old boyfriend. i need time for myself sometimes, that is just who i am and he couldn't accept that.

(might add that we didn't break up simply because of this.)

Hello Emma , long time no seen

Ive been with my gf for 6 months and since the summer she has been back home and ive been at home in cardiff. She lives an hour away on the train. Well ive been so bored at home. Ive had nothing to do and ive just ended up texting and calling her too often and when she doesnt txt back i ring her up and talk to her. I never use to be like this its only been since the summer because ive been so bored. Shes told me she wants me to stop textign and calling so much as if i carry on ill lose her but she said its nothing to worry about and that she just wants space. A girly mate told me just to text and call once a day giving her some space. Im just worried if i back off like that she'll go off me and will forget about me. Anyone got any advice. I just find it hard not too txt her during the day because ive got nothing keeping me busy so im looking to keep myself busy by looking for a job etc. WIll texting her and ringing her once a day gonna work? she says she still loves me and wants to be with me but she said ive gotta give her some space.

just find other stuff to do. one of the main reasons i broke up with my last bf was that he was too clingy. he would text me, and if i didn't reply within half an hour he would text me again to ask if i got the previous text. now, i'm quite an independent person, and so after a while this really began to get on my nerves. of course, this wasn't the only reason i broke up with him - we weren't suited in other ways - but i would say that it was the main reason that we broke up when we did. i'm not trying to portend a doomed relationship here, i'm just saying that if your gf is anything like me, then you could be heading for trouble. try only calling/texting her when you have a real reason to ( as i'm sure you used to, before this summer). just don't do the "hi, i'm really bored, how is your day?" thing. the fact that she needs her own space doesn't mean doesn't care about you, it just means that she needs her own space. by calling/texting her a lot you might make her feel that she has to divulge information (e.g exactly what she's done today, regardless of how interesting it has been) when she would prefer not to and, depending on what type of person she is, she might resent it, or feel that she is being smothered. to be honest, if you want to know how often to call/text her, i think the best person to ask is your girlfriend. or you could try not calling/texting her and seeing how often she contacts you of her own accord, as i imagine that that would be quite a good indicator of what she expects/feels happy with.

hi

how is warwick? or maybe i should ask how is UK?

Thats a double positive, tho Linda wants a double bed and I still need more time

Thanks for the advice. She told me she wants 1txt/call a day. she said she still loves and wants to be with me so thats good. Im gonna show i can give her space and i hope she appreciates that. Just ive grown really close with her that its hard to back off. I hate summers

Look if she says leave her alone, just leave her alone! You don't wanna look like some desperate stalker!

I know i dont wanna look like a stalker! Just hard. We've only seen each other twice since middle of june and its hard not seeing her often but she doesnt sound willing for me to see her and she hates the idea of me going out clubbing with her which im not sure why and ive asked her about that but she wont give me a straight answer.

This is his gf of 6 months not some recent aquisition.

I'm afraid it looks like you might be heading for the glorious party of one, jjinit.