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Can someone help me make sense of this situation watch

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    So basically I was sort of getting with a guy and he's now decided that although he (apparently) still really likes me, he thinks we should leave it for a bit and try being friends.
    I guess that sounds simple enough - he's not interested anymore. However, I don't understand how someone can suddenly change their mind, especially as when we had a similar conversation last week he seemed more keen for something to happen, saying he wasn't just going to stop liking me and it wasn't too late for anything to happen between us.
    Obviously there doesn't have to be a reason, but I spent the night drunkenly throwing myself at one of his friends (classy) the day before he decided this, and although he said he doesn't care and it's fine I'm thinking it could be a reason? Especially considering he does get jealous easily. I dont know.
    Also he mentioned a lack of effort from both of us, to actually make something happen, but then I don't see why we can't just start making an effort now?
    This has all pretty much been said via texts/emails and he said it would be a good idea if I came over later so we could speak about it face to face. Great. I am possibly the worst person in the world for speaking about feelings etc.. I have no idea what we're meant to be speaking about, especially as the situation seems to be pretty clear to me; I like him and he doesn't feel the same way anymore. Does he just want to rub that in my face (or perhaps engrave it into my forehead so I am 100% clear and will leave him alone now)?

    I'm not really sure what I'm asking, just wondering if anyone has an outside opinion on what he might be thinking (obviously it's best to ask him and he's sort of already said) or how to go about having this lovely conversation I've now set myself up for? Hey, so you don't like me anymore and now I feel awkward doesn't sound like the best way go about it.. help help help!!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Obviously there doesn't have to be a reason, but I spent the night drunkenly throwing myself at one of his friends (classy) the day before he decided this, and although he said he doesn't care and it's fine I'm thinking it could be a reason? Especially considering he does get jealous easily. I dont know.
    I think the answer lies here.

    Why did you throw yourself at his friend, if you like him? If I was him and that happened to me, I would definitely lose interest. It's bad enough if a girl you like is throwing herself at other men, but when it's one of your friends, that's a big no no.

    If it just the alcohol causing this behaviour then obviously that will be of a concern to him in the future. He will be thinking is she going to be like this everytime she's drunk?!
 
 
 
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