Whenever I get close to a guy.... then bam I get scared and back off :(

a couple of times i've liked a guy who i've got to know/or been friends with, and then as soon as I feel there is a spark and we like each other, I get freaked out and dont feel like I want to go out with him anymore.
I think its because i'm scared of having a relationship or something, i'm 17 and ive never had a bf, so I think this is it?
Ive told myself maybe i'm not ready, but if i'm not ready now, when am I ever going to be??
Does anyone else feel like this? i can quite happily fancy a boy without getting to know him, but then nothing ever comes of it and I feel sad. But when I like a boy who may like me too (and we talk loads) then I back off. Aggh I hate it, help please!

I'm a 16 year old guy and i never had a gf.... Im probobly freaky i just care more about my studies then girls... But when i go to college/uni uhhhh its all gonna change.... Hope it will

my ex was like that. I still miss her. I don't know what to suggesr really. I tried going as slow as possible with her, but she eventurally broke up with me. I never tried to even kiss her or hold her hand unless I was sure she'd be okay with it. Maybe you'll eventurally get used to it?

a couple of times i've liked a guy who i've got to know/or been friends with, and then as soon as I feel there is a spark and we like each other, I get freaked out and dont feel like I want to go out with him anymore.
I think its because i'm scared of having a relationship or something, i'm 17 and ive never had a bf, so I think this is it?
Ive told myself maybe i'm not ready, but if i'm not ready now, when am I ever going to be??
Does anyone else feel like this? i can quite happily fancy a boy without getting to know him, but then nothing ever comes of it and I feel sad. But when I like a boy who may like me too (and we talk loads) then I back off. Aggh I hate it, help please!

Sorry to hear but it sound like...your a person who asks permission, is it okay i can kiss you now or should i kiss you later.

Not sure what her real reason she broke up with you. Her loss.

I know how you feel. I used to feel unhappy about not having relationships but if anything had actually happened I would have run a mile. I used to have crushes on people who I would never get, sometimes because they were in relationships, just because I liked the security of knowing that I would never have to deal with an actual relationship. I was older than you are when I finally realised that an actual relationship was something I wanted and that I wanted to make things happen. You will feel ready. Not everyone reaches the same stage at the same time and there's no reason for you to force yourself into conforming to the norm if it's not something you're comfortable with yet.
As for why I felt that way, I'm not completely sure. But I do think that it had a lot to do with how I saw myself and how I felt about myself. I needed to mature and gain confidence and that's probably what you need to do as well. Finally I'm naturally kind of cagey about my feelings and the thought of having to share them with someone else used to frighten me somewhat. Just don't worry about it. There's no race.

a couple of times i've liked a guy who i've got to know/or been friends with, and then as soon as I feel there is a spark and we like each other, I get freaked out and dont feel like I want to go out with him anymore.
I think its because i'm scared of having a relationship or something, i'm 17 and ive never had a bf, so I think this is it?
Ive told myself maybe i'm not ready, but if i'm not ready now, when am I ever going to be??
Does anyone else feel like this? i can quite happily fancy a boy without getting to know him, but then nothing ever comes of it and I feel sad. But when I like a boy who may like me too (and we talk loads) then I back off. Aggh I hate it, help please!