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We've been on this earth for ~18 years now... What have we done with our lives? watch

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    I've done a lot of things and achieved quite a lot of things, but sometime in the past year or two it dawned on me that focusing on achieving all the time does not create real happiness, merely a shallow notion of it. Achieving things is a justification for stressing yourself out constantly and putting all that pressure on yourself, and making yourself believe it's worth it. When really happiness is so much more important. So I've calmed down a little bit, though I still plan to keep an active and ambitious lifestyle.
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    Not a great deal, everyday is like sunday to me.
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    (Original post by cpj1987)
    Many things. I've learnt loads, I've had excellent friendships, I've fallen in love, I've helped people and potentially saved lives, I've got my perfect career, I've influenced so many people, and I've had fun.
    Perfect example of a perfect 18 years journey,unlike mine...

    Well I made friends, saved many lives(not proud) most likely indirectly contributed to slaughter of animals and tons of CO2 due to ehh... internet! Manipulated people, observed society and its citizens. And every once in a while research the meaning of quantum physics on wikipedia.( although i still don't get it)

    Bloody waste of time! stupid american high school movies and their high school adventures!
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    (Original post by Jelkin)
    I've done a lot of things and achieved quite a lot of things, but sometime in the past year or two it dawned on me that focusing on achieving all the time does not create real happiness, merely a shallow notion of it. Achieving things is a justification for stressing yourself out constantly and putting all that pressure on yourself, and making yourself believe it's worth it. When really happiness is so much more important. So I've calmed down a little bit, though I still plan to keep an active and ambitious lifestyle.

    This, absolutely. So many people try to justify their existance by listing acheivements and experiences, implying somehow that these things lead to happiness, or puts them somewhere above others who haven't done the same things. A person who can churn out the longer list, and attach impressive sounding words like 'oxford' is better than the uneducated, un-acheiving person (perhaps through no fault of their own) who's never left their little town. So many things people list are just superficial and just the 'done' things, that everyone wants to do, just to repeat it to other people. I just don't think that someone who has travelled has necessarily broadened their mind, or someone who's passed a lot of exams or whatever has somehow proved their worth and intelligence more than the next person. Sure these are all great things to experience, but I reject the idea that they equal happiness or self-validation.

    The things I've done could mean ****-all to the next person, and really, most of them mean little to me too. Most are just things I was made to do, or felt I had to do. A big part of Western Soceity seems to be about chasing after qualifications, see this, do that, and join in the race to do the most. otherwise you're seen as lazy and narrow minded.

    There are only a handful of things that really give life any meaning, and they're usually for free, and right under our noses - the rest are all fleeting pleasures and a lot of the time, just utter crap.
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    I can't say I've done a lot with my life- mainly education up until this point really. I don't even have my driving licence yet! xD

    I've had some great experiences though (holidays to Florida, trips to Germany etc.)
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    I think to a large extent life begins at 18. Most things I'd describe as an achievement I've done since I turned 18. It's difficult to have really 'done' anything when you're dependent on your parents and only have a weekend job. Life begins when you move out.
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    (Original post by milesofsea)
    I just don't think that someone who has travelled has necessarily broadened their mind

    Sure these are all great things to experience, but I reject the idea that they equal happiness
    But how do you know it hasn't broadened their mind? And to me personally, travelling does equal happiness. Of course a lot of other things equal happiness to me too, like love and having good friends etc., but it doesn't mean that by saying travelling also equals happiness for me, I'm somehow being superficial, and that happiness I've got from it is fleeting; the happiness I've got from travelling will stay with me for the rest of my life.
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    Nothing worth mentioning
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    I've done nothing but I'm okay with being unimpressive. I sleep better.
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    (Original post by In2deep)
    Travelling is amazing isn't it I've been to Egypt as well and the pyramids were nothing compared to all the other wonders.
    I know, right? Did you see Luxor as well? That was incredible! Much less "touristy" as well, if you pick the right time of year, whereas Giza is always packed full of people you just want to hate :sigh:

    It really cheapens what is a genuinely impressive sight.

    I have been to atleast 12 countries but they were mainly in Europe. Sweden (again), Toronto and Beijing are next on my list.
    I've been to Spain, France, Ireland, Cyprus, Greece, Turkey, Egypt, Jordan and Lebanon. I might go to New Zealand over the summer if I can find someone to go with, and I plan on applying to do a foreign exchange year at SFU near Vancouver in 2011-2012. So much to see, so little time.
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    (Original post by FormerlyHistoryStudent)
    But how do you know it hasn't broadened their mind? And to me personally, travelling does equal happiness. Of course a lot of other things equal happiness to me too, like love and having good friends etc., but it doesn't mean that by saying travelling also equals happiness for me, I'm somehow being superficial, and that happiness I've got from it is fleeting; the happiness I've got from travelling will stay with me for the rest of my life.

    I didn't say it hasn't broadened their mind, I said it hasn't necessarily.

    I know some people who went travelling in their gap year and spent most of it drunk/sunbathing, or completely secluded from the natives, they didn't immerse themselves in the culture in any way. Why did they go? So they could quote those magical words 'I've been travelling' at every opportunity or write it in their CV/Personal statement.

    Don't get me wrong, I love travelling more than anything else, and I have been to a lot of places, I just don't think it's an acheivement, or anything to boast about, because I've just been lucky. I would hate to have the automatic assumption (I'm not saying you do) that I'm more broad minded than someone who's never had the inclination or chance to do the same. In the end though, this thread is what life acheivements you feel have made your life worth anything so far, and unless you've directly impacted other people's lives on your travels, really, going to see fantastic places around the world is just self indulgent. :dontknow:
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    (Original post by milesofsea)
    I know some people who went travelling in their gap year and spent most of it drunk/sunbathing, or completely secluded from the natives, they didn't immerse themselves in the culture in any way. Why did they go? So they could quote those magical words 'I've been travelling' at every opportunity or write it in their CV/Personal statement.
    There's good travelling and bad travelling, and what you're talking about is bad travel. I totally agree that there's no point going to foreign country at all if literally all you do is lie on a beach, get drunk, eat English food, only talk to other English people, etc. That's why when I went travelling I did a variety of different things, ate local food, tried to learn at least basic phrases in each local language, went to see some places that are almost completely off the tourist trail, and in towns or cities that are on the tourist trail, I explored places within them that most tourists don't think to visit. It's why I will never go to Benidorm, for example - I've heard so many bad things about it being saturated with tourists, full of ugly buildings, completely lacking a local culture...
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    (Original post by Aphotic Cosmos)
    I've wasted my life.

    Oh well, back to TSR.

    Naw, but seriously, I think I've achieved some things. It's just that most people also achieve similar things in their own way and on a similar timeframe.

    I've:
    - Got the grades I needed to get to university - I put a lot of work into my IB, and whilst the grades I got weren't good enough for my choices, I am still proud that I saw that ***** of a course through to the end without a mental breakdown, and that the grade I got was still great. Also still chuffed with my GCSE results
    - Got to university - not the ones I wanted to go to, but in retrospect, one I would have liked to have known about when doing UCAS. I love it!
    - Put a ****-ton of work into getting a driving licence - it took a year and a stupid amount of money, but I did it.
    - Built a PC - it took a day and a stupid amount of money [I could build a dirt cheap one, but what would be the point?], but I did it.
    - Seen some of the wonders of the world, ancient or modern - the Pyramids & Sphinx, Valley of the Kings, the Rose City of Petra, the Eiffel Tower, the Colosseum, the Mona Lisa, Michelangelo's David, the Temples of Karnak, the Suez Canal . . .
    - Seen bits of the world others rarely go to, like Jordan and Lebanon, but haven't seen enough of it! Still want to go out and explore!
    - Taken some awesome photographs!
    Cool nice stuff!
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    I'm 14. And does made my mum/friends a freaking lot happier count? And made my school more respected. And made my Dad sadder and poorer. And seen more the world than most people of my age. And posted once or twice on TSR.
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    I've been in and out of the porn business for 7 years... I am where I've wanted to be since I was 12. I think that's something.
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    created enough masturbatory friction to power my village and lower its carbon footprint. BAM
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    Got a 1st at uni. Fell in love. Been to 10 countries outside Britain. Experienced lots of amazing music, places, books, films, events. Made a handful of very close friends that I assume I'll be able to rely on for the rest of my life.

    But probably the main thing was just growing up and figuring out how to be optimistic, confident, self-aware etc. Im happy 9 out of 10 days now, which wasnt the case when I was younger.

    Ive had 22 years not 18. Hopefully by 30 I will have added: set up a successful business and have beautiful wife & child.
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    I've gotten some pretty good grades, made truly excellent friends and I do my fair share of volunterering.

    On the flip side: I've watched more Disney than is acceptable for an 18 year old and I spend a lot of time in the pub.
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    Through many years of painstaking research I have discovered the fact that poo is actually brown. I will be doing a few lectures in some of the worlds greatest universities, such as Harvard, Yale, Oxford and Cambridge.

    The research has deprived me of great youthful experiences, like sex, drugs, alcohol etc. Never the less i will be making enough money to buy my own personal whore house and drug factory to regain my teenage life in a force so strong i will become a "super teenager", if you will. Im off to finish my slide shows right now then playing Call of Duty Modern Warfare 2.

    Later my homies !
 
 
 
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