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    OK i have compiled a short questionnaire to try and gauge the different levels of confidence people have when it comes to relationships and meeting people.

    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    Fairly, I would say 6-7? Depends on the day

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    Comments that others say to you and the desires to be like others?

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    Carry on chatting, smile, scream "OMG!" in my head, and if I feel really confident and hes gorgeous, grab his number.


    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    Nope.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    Of course... I have particular clothes/ shoes etc that do the trick.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    I think I'm too young yet to consider that. Ive still got the whole of my life to make decisions.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    Yep! And it was a bit rocky, it didnt work out, but we're still really close mates. Well worth it

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    Depends on the person, I mainly believe them though, unless they've got a reputation for b****ing.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    Yes. Sometimes it's due to their intelligence or looks, but I think I could never be them! But then I remember that you're not going to be equal on every factor.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    Nope, coz lying's unattractive, and it's uncomfortable, especially if they find out.

    Hope this helps... why are you asking??
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)


    Not very much at all. I constantly doubt myself and my abilities, which funnily enough makes my performance at everything so much worse. I think I would do a lot better if I was more sure of myself but because I don't have the confidence..I miss out on or muck up opportunities.


    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence


    My childhood and genetics. My mum has Social Anxiety Disorder and it would not surprise me if I have it too. My Dad abused me. I was picked on at school, due to that I skipped most of it and didn't thrive. My peers bullied me because I was the nice but weird, shy, ugly girl.


    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?


    I chat to them if they seem friendly and sane enough.


    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?


    Not at all, I have never have approached an attractive stranger.


    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?


    Sometimes it helps and other times it makes me feel worse. I don't like drawing attention to myself. Anyway, I never look nice even when I make some effort.


    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.


    Constantly, and I fail because of my anxiety holding me back.


    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?


    Not sure, because I have never been in a relationship and all the guys who have liked me I have not had feelings for. I probably wouldn't though because I don't like risk. I don't like making myself vulnerable.


    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?


    I don't get many of them, but when I do I see it as a pity thing.


    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?


    Yes I do.


    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?


    No, I do not see the point. I would rather someone liked me for me.
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    Not very. Especially in terms of ability e.g. at school

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    In terms of appearance - celebrity culture, role models, obsession with looks and weight

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    Talk back

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    Oh lord no. If they approach me then it's cool, but other way wrong and I'm :eek3:

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    Yes, of course. First impressions will undoubtedly be based on appearance

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    Yes, e.g. after unproductive days, if I eat too much, etc

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    Yes. Often your mind is your worst enemy and you shouldn't listen to it:p:

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    Depends what they're complimenting me on!

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    Yes

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    Oh no - 'come as you are'
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    OK i have compiled a short questionnaire to try and gauge the different levels of confidence people have when it comes to relationships and meeting people.

    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)

    Very. Everything happens for a reason, I make the best decisions I can but if something goes wrong, learn from it and move on

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence?

    Previous failures, degrading comments from those around you, lack of encouragement.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?

    Talk back - it'd be rude not to! If I'm talking for a while maybe just text a mate from the group to say everything's alright or just let them know where I am.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?

    Yeah.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?

    Yep. Well, it's not so much self-confidence, as knowledge. If I go out in a pair of trackies and a slouchy hoody I don't expect to make a very good impression!

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'?

    Nope. **** happens - learn and move on

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?

    Yep. It's worth a shot, right? If it's meant to be then it will work. If it doesn't work out, then it obviously wasn't mean to be!

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?

    Only if they compliment by ability to ballet dance.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?

    Nope - we're all human, and for everything I'm better than her at, undoubtedly there's one thing she's better than me at.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?

    Nope. Lies have a bad reputation for coming back at you, often when you least expect it. Honesty is key to most things in life, not just relationships.

    Thanks in advance.

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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)

    I've become more confident in college than I did at school. My confidence has definitely improved, probably from 2/10 in school to 7/10 (maybe hihgher, I'm not actually sure) at college. I often have doubts about stuff though, so I'm not 'sure' about things all the time. This is why I'm bad at making decisions.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence

    Bullying in school.
    No/hardly any friends and rejection.
    Bad familial experiences, such as abuse.
    Undesirable appearance, such as weight gain and 'ugliness'.
    Conflicting cultural ideals and values.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?

    Talk to them. If I like their personality as well as their looks, I may consider taking it further at a later moment in time.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?

    I don't think I've ever done this, so I can't comment for sure.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?

    Yes.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.

    Definitely. I know I could have done better in high school and at GCSEs. Had I not been so lazy...

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?

    I can't comment on this.

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?

    I don't hang around with people who would not be sincere in the given case.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?

    No I don't.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?

    No.
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    I have very little confidence. Though I feel i'm good at some things, even with these I still panic my self silly about failure. My biggest lack of confidence though comes from my body image. I really sturggle in social situations where I know hardly anyone and everyone else knows one another, I just can't seem to make myself talk.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    Call me vain or shallow maybe, but i'm quite hung up over my appearance, and this is one of the reasons for such low self confidence. I feel like i'm constantly being judged upon the way I look and I hate that! It makes me feel unbelievably uncomforable.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?

    I'd talk back; I'd feel rude not to. But I'd be incrediby nervous and shy and my covnersation would pretty much consist of just answers, rather than iniating anythign myself.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    No.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    I feel better about myself if I've gone out with my hair and makeup done nicely and wearing clothes I really like, so my confidence is usually a little better.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    Yes.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    I dunno...Ive only been in one relationship, so I can;t really answer this properly.

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    Yep. I can rarely see how they can be sincere.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    I always feel bad for my boyfriend that he's stuck with me when he could do so much better. It probably sounds silly and absurd, as he does love me...i just don't get why :/

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    No.

    Ruth xx
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    (Original post by Tom.)
    OK i have compiled a short questionnaire to try and gauge the different levels of confidence people have when it comes to relationships and meeting people.

    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)

    Depending on the situation I can come across as a 10, but usually a sense of false confidence in a way i would suppose.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence

    Feelings of non acceptance/being constantly mis-understood... Wanting things that you just can never really get.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?

    Talk back, and if everything seems to go quite well, maybe actually reciprocate in terms of a conversational point of view... maybe flirt a little, but see what happens (usually I would feel shocked almost)

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?

    To a certain degree yes... but i need some sort of comfort (like knowing they barely know anyone around... or me knowing a few people around)

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?

    Usually yes

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.

    Constantly, though not in a conventional sense... like I feel like I can do anything and am able to, but I don't find enough of a drive to go for certain things... (and ironically I am actually one of the best at most things I do - which contradicts the thought of being a failure by making myself as "why do I feel like I think I am a failure?")

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?

    Well considering almost all relationships I believe will end at a point yes i do enter them... but I would NEVER enter a relationship with someone who I would have to grow to like...

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?

    Very often yes, I feel most people compliment others for their own benefit.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?

    No, but in terms of a relationship, I do feel I may actually ruin it for them - but thats for other reasons.


    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?

    No never, in fact I make a constant point of being as truthful as possible, even when someone asks me something involving them.

    Please C&P the previous in a post. And please be as honest as you feel you can.

    Thanks in advance.
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    (Original post by DarkWhite)
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    I loved your answers! Very optimistic, makes a refreshing change!
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)

    Erm, I'm quite confident in my apearance, but not really about my abilities. Also, I always worry about whether people like me or not.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence

    Lack of self-belief.
    Being constantly told that you are useless.
    Pressure.
    Never thinking that you're good enough.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?

    Chat back if they look and seem nice (ie. friendly and not scary). If not, leave.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?

    Depends on the situation, at an organised event, yes, but not randomly in the street.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?

    Yes

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.

    Not at the moment, but I always think that I'll be one in the future.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?

    Yes, but if it wasn't working after a few months I would end it...might as well try something.

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?

    Depends on the person, ie. if it is a popular person at school then no. You can normally tell by the tone of their voice.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?

    Not compared to my friends, but compared to people who I admire.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?

    No, because it would be so bad if they found out.
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    Not particularly.
    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    Knocking my front teeth out,leading to retainers and braces, and getting bullied when I was younger.
    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    Talk,probably.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    Nope.
    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    No.
    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    Very often.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    Nope.
    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    I think they're insane.
    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    Err.. yeah?
    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    No.
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    I veer wildly between utter self contempt and fantastical arrogance; the middle ground is something I strive for. As such, it very much depends on the day and the circumstances.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    I have huge issues with my looks. To put it mildly. Mirrors generally strike me with terror. Then again, I can be so manic that on occasion I'm quite capable of outrageously flirting and asking someone out, not batting much of an eyelid at any suggestion it was futile.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    Though I could, on occasion, appear somewhat aggressively confident, inside I am almost always likely to be absolutely squirming and desperate to move as quickly as possible.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    Funnily enough, I tend to find approaching much easier than being approached, when my mood is aggressive. When it is recessive, I would think of approaching someone as likely to make them uncomfortable and therefore somewhat unfair.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    On the occasions where I have felt good about myself in that sense I have been known to become outrageously different. To say yes would be an extremely mild term.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    Constantly. In some thing I use it very strategically as a way of striving for improvement. In others the effect is markedly less positive.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    I take the view that life is for living as and now. Even if I felt for some reason it wasn't going to work out, but truly liked them, I'd want to let it take its natural course and learn from it that way. Better to love and to have lost . . .

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    Normally I'd wonder if they are well or are attempting to use me for something. On other occasions it seems so obvious that I wonder why they are not saying it. :p:

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    In truth I have never felt any other way, deep down.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    I have stretched the truth on some things in the past, but purely creative lying, no. Even the former occasions have caused me much guilt. Rightly.
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)

    Very sure. I know who i am, what i like, what i want to be and where i aim to be etc

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence

    Family problems and lack of experience for me i'd say

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?

    I'd try and keep the conversation going. But after about 2 mins i'd be struggling and then she'd probably walk away.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?

    Not at all. I get nervous and the words dont come out

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?

    Definitley. I stroll down the street to work as though i'm Roberto Mancini in the scarf

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    Only in the relationships field. In everything else i'm excellent. Great education, job and prospects. Just dont like being alone.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?

    Yep. As things may change you gotta give it a chance.


    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    Sometimes, as i think they might be taking the piss. But 80% of the time i believe them.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    Not really. I feel i have a lot to offer, I am a witty intelligent guy who is just a little shy and take a bit of time to open up and be myself with new folks. As soon as i tackle that problem i should be sorted.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    Only a tiny lie, nothing major that could ruin a relationship.
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)

    I'm quitely confident about myself. I may not have the best looks/body/abilities ect. but that doesn't bother me. I am who I am, and people love me for it.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence

    Hormones and the past. They usually have a nasty habit of combining with each other and i'll just feel.. inadequate in so many ways.


    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?

    If they're hitting on me (If, lol) i'd prolly walk away, i'm not interested. If not, i'll talk to them for about 5 minutes then walk off.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?

    Noo. I'm too shy/get too nervous then start to stammer, which is highly attractive. But even if this didn't happen, I wouldn't really bother as i'd believe i'd have nothing of worth to say to them/be ignored.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?

    Yes.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.

    The only time is at uni, compared to others on my course (Especially music!) I feel like a failure. But I blame that on a) my education and b) the fact i've forgotten basic music due to being out of it for so long.


    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?

    Never been in this situation, so can't comment.

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?

    Yes, always have done.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?

    Compared to my boyfriend, yes - he's done a lot to be proud of.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?

    Noo.
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    Alright.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    Family. School. All sorts.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    Talk back.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    I don't approach people normally. But if I do it's only because I can find an easy conversation starter.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    Nope. Cba dressing up. I'm far too lazy.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    Nah. No point.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    Yeah. Never know unless you try.

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    Somtimes. Depends what the compliment was.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    Not really.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    Nah, no point.
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)

    like someone up there said, quietly confident. i'm not a loud person but i'm confident in who i am. however, with the added physical appearance aspect, it brings me down to about a 6/10 usually i'd say

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence

    physical appearance mostly

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?

    reciprocate the friendliness and have a convo

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?

    not if there's no reason. if i have to approach them to ask for, i dunno, a spare pen then yeah that's fine. otherwise, nooo it's hard i never do it

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?

    yep

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.

    very very rarely

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?

    hm, probably yeah

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?

    yeah

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?

    usually

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?

    nah, don't think so

    what's this for op?
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    Not really very confident. Sometimes I get panic attacks when worrying about social situations.
    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    My anxiety disorder, which stems from some stuff that happened when I was younger.
    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    I'd probably be very flattered, but the paranoid part of my would wonder why the hell he is talking to me.
    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    Not at all. I have occasionally, but only when I'm actively trying to combat my confidence issues.
    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    Yes, but then I become less confident, because I worry about whether I actually look nice, or if I look awful. I even panic before the occasion as I worry whether my outfit that I loved in the shop is suitable for what I've bought it for.
    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    All of the time.
    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    I would, but then I'd flake out a few months in.
    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    Yes. I worry they pity me, or are are flattering me so I will do something for them.
    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    All of the time.
    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    No, I hate lying, and I hate liars. I probably wouldn't talk to the person in the first place though.
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    (Original post by Tom.)
    OK i have compiled a short questionnaire to try and gauge the different levels of confidence people have when it comes to relationships and meeting people.

    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    Depends, I think I'm more confident in a way when I'm around people 24/7 and feeling like people are always seeing me. But I'm more confident when I feel I blend in with the 'normal' crowd - out with friends, having a laugh and a drink, like everyone else.


    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    Being around people who I perceive to have the qualities I lack - in your face attractiveness, outgoing, instantly seeming to find friends upon being in a new place. If that makes sense.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    Talk back, try and find something interesting/witty to say. Think myself lucky because that almost never happens

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    No. I don't approach guys.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    Yes, but I still never feel like I look as good as others who've dressed up.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    In the past I saw myself as a good academic achiever with maybe social failings. Now I'm starting to think I'm rubbish at both my studies and my social life.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    Yeah.

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    Sometimes, mostly I accept it though.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    Yes, atleast I do at the moment.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    I don't lie because if something ended up happening it would be found out. I might leave stuff out or over-exxagerate things though.

    Please C&P the previous in a post. And please be as honest as you feel you can.

    Thanks in advance.
    Looking at this, in some ways my confidence seems to be going up at the moment, but at the same time I'm getting much more self critical about myself again, having stopped caring for a while.
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    Looking at this, in some ways my confidence seems to be going up at the moment, but at the same time I'm getting much more self critical about myself again, having stopped caring for a while.
    Should've read 'I think I'm more confident in a way when I'm notaround people 24/7 and feeling like people are always seeing me'
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    Not very. 3/10

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    Many things. Probably for me, my AS is a large contributor.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    Try (unsuccessfully) to talk back, hoping my friends were on their way back.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    No.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    Not much, but it helps.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    No. I feel down at times but I never think of myself as a failure.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    No.

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. If alcohol is involved then I'd usually believe it less.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    Sometimes.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    No. I couldn't lie to save my life.
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    Absolutely not at all :\

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    Appearance, being awkward in social situations, not having a lot in common with most people, having difficulty making friends, generally feeling inadequate and 'lower' than everyone else.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    Make an excuse to leave.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    Don't think I would.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    I tend to feel worse by dressing up because I don't look as good as others.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    Yes, because I am

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    Dunno

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    Yes

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    All the time with my bf.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    Wouldn't do that. No point really
 
 
 
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