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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    In everything but relationships

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    A whole host of things. Like I said, I am confident in life, I love meeting new people. At Uni, I meet new people all the time and I love it. But the second I'm attracted to someone, BAM, every ounce of confidence flies out the window. Literally, like that, its gone. Theres a few factors:
    My height. I'm about 5'6, and smaller than most people I know. MASSIVELY insecure about this. Second, every girl I've liked seems to hurt me. Third, I over think things WAAAAY too much. The smallest thing, even a silly facebook status or something along those lines will set me back MILES. Four. I feel pathetic for feeling like this, yet if I want to talk about it, I clearly have to bring this all up. Nearly 20 and never been in a relationship doesn't scream much.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    Get talking! Although at the moment, I can't stop thinking about one person in particular, and I don't want to even flirt with anyone else, purely because I want said person so badly.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    No. But I know the second we actually get talking, I'll be fine. I fear rejection, because I know it will knock my confidence more.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    I am a very confident person anyway, but when I look good, I really do love it. And I know that it does get noticed! I don't mean to brag, but I do get a lot of female attention, I just can never capitalise well on it.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    Constantly. I'm embarrased about my lack of relationships in the past. I know its not a bad thing, because I never found the right person, but at the same time, it has knocked my confidence back massively.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    I'd try everything in my power to make it work. In fact, talking about said girl above, these are my thoughts exactly.

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    It depends on the person giving the complement

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    Definitely. Mainly because I have never been in a relationship, I feel inexperienced and that I don't know what to do, whereas they will have been, and I worry that I'll be learning massively and they'll get bored of it.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    No. I don't like lies. I am very honest, and I don't have secrets. What you see is what you get with me. If you don't like me for me, then I don't want you. Simple as.
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    I think good about myself, I know I'm very pretty, intelligent, skinny, but I'm not confident. Or maybe I am confidence but have low self-esteem - or perhaps its the other way around. Either way, I'm confused about why I am so unconfident around other people, even though I see myself as above them.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    Perfectionist tendencies & caring too much on how people view me. I know you can't please everyone but I want to.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    I would engage in conversation, although it really depends on how I am approached. People who are too 'out there' or prying make me close up, yet people who don't know how to make conversation make me really awkward. On the whole though, at first I think I would talk for a bit, if the conversation dies I would go find my friends.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    Definitely not. Thats something I really would never do, unless I was under the influence tbh.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    Yes.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    Sometimes. I'm a perfectionist. I'm 1.64m tall and 48kg, but I still see myself failing to be skinnier. My grades are the top in my year, yet when I get one that isn't 'the best' I beat down on myself. When I got rejected from Oxford I kind of had a mental breakdown too.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    Yes, because it could. Attraction is always there for a reason.

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    No.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    Nope, I haven't met anyone thats made me feel like that.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    No.
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)

    Below average in terms of confidence, but extremely sure of myself, if that makes any sense.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence

    Fear of rejection and embarassment.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?

    After getting over the shock, I'd try to get a decent conversation going, in order to find out whether they have the right personality.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?

    I've never actually made an approach before. Guess that means no, huh?

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?

    Looking good definitely helps, but ultimately it's about compatability.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.

    Never.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?

    Yes. How can you know before trying?

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?

    Yeah... I get a little paranoid and ask myself whether they're playing mind games, being sarcastic, etc., but I never let it show.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?

    Yes, but only in terms of physical attractiveness. That's what keeps me from approaching people. I'm sure of my intellect and character.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?

    Never.
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    Not overly.
    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    Bad experiences, not confident with appearance.
    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    Talk back
    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    No
    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    Not really
    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    No
    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    No
    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    No
    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    Yeah
    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    No
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    - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    Quite confident now because I feel attractive and happy with most things. If I want something, I do my best to achieve it.
    But I used to be quite unsure of myself, in my earlier teens (had acne, braces, was just miserable really)

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    People maybe being unhappy with their appearance, or having family or friends who put them down.
    And things that have happened in their past.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    I might be surprised at first, that someone was confident and came over, but I'd happily talk to them, if I liked them I could flirt a bit.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    Not usually, but it depends on the situation.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    Yes... I refuse to go out without makeup and reasonable hair. I love making an effort with my appearance and it boosts my confidence.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    Only if I am suffering a depressive spell xD I never think it seriously, though I sometimes think I could work harder at stuff, but wouldnt go so far as to call myself a failure.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    It would depend... If I thought I would definitely end up getting hurt or being used and was not happy with that, then I would have to seriously assess the situation. But I think there is ALWAYS going to be a risk it won't work... so sometimes you just have to grab life by the balls and go for things!

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    I used to, when I was in my early teens, but I am quite confident with myself now, most of the time so I would say thank you and believe them!

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    Not really.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    No not majorly. I think people do sometimes try to act in ways that would impress another person, but I wouldn't change who I am to make someone like me.
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    [QUOTE=Tom.]OK i have compiled a short questionnaire to try and gauge the different levels of confidence people have when it comes to relationships and meeting people.

    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    Pretty confident. Like everybody, I have my moments of doubt about various things.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    Aspects such as negative self image, not taking care of your body, the way others treat you, the way you were brought up etc. Also, the media to a certain extent.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    If they don't look dodgy I am usually happy to talk to anybody.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    I don't often find myself fancying complete strangers I've never spoken to. I would probably prefer if the guy approached me first.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    I do like to make a bit of an effort if I'm going on a night out but I wouldn't say it boosts my social confidence to a huge extent. I'm just as confident meeting people in everyday situations when I am dressed casually, minimal make-up etc.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    I have done in the past when I haven't put enough effort into something or not done as well as I should have done in a test/uni assignment etc.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    Yes, I have done, sometimes you have to follow your heart.

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    Depends who it is & what the compliment is. Usually I just say thanks & accept it.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    Not really, everyone has their strengths and weaknesses.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    Have done when I was young & foolish. Wouldn't do it these days.
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)

    not very, being with my bf has made me better than i used to be but when on my own my confidence is pretty low

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence?

    i was bullied a lot up until only a few years ago, both physically and mentally

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?

    hesitate, see whether they seen trustworthy. then talk for a little bit and either make a quick escape or keep talking if he seems decent

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?

    nope, not at all, i just admire from afar

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?

    a pretty outfit can make me feel more confident but i can be very self concious about the length of my dress and things like that

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.

    not really, i did when i was rejected from cambridge and durham but im fine now, im still predicted good grades

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?

    id see how it went for a bit but would say if i didnt think it was working

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?

    all the time!! my bf hates it cos he cant win, whatever he says is wrong

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?

    yup, i think my bf deserves better cos i think he's extremely sexy and i aint

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?

    no, if they dont like me for the crazy lady i am then can sod off
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)

    Around 4/10

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence

    Peer pressure + peer opinions, your own experiences (bad ones), rejection

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?

    Talk back, I'd be pretty over the moon really. I just talk a load of crap that seems to always make girls laugh ha.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?

    I've never really done so... But I have struck up conversations with people I barely know at school - using humour again really.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?

    I guess so, I mean I wouldn't feel confident if I looked terrible

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.

    I used to, not so much now.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?

    Yeah I would

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?

    Yeah, usually take it with a pinch of salt

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?

    YES

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?

    Nope, no point
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    How is your confidence? (A short Questionnaire)

    OK i have compiled a short questionnaire to try and gauge the different levels of confidence people have when it comes to relationships and meeting people.

    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    Not very, I always doubt myself, and if someone says I'm wrong I would probablyjust agree with them then argue.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    I don't know really, the fear of upsetting people (pathetic I know!)

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    Be totally freaked, turn bright red, but try my best to chat to him

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    Never have, probably never will lol

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    Yes, if I know (think) I look good then I find it easier to chat to people etc.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    Nope. I sometimes feel like I've failed something, or someone, but not that I am a complete failure.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    Maybe, this one depends on the circumstances.

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    I don't really mind/care. Compliments are nice, but not the 'be all and end all'.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    Yes, all the time :|

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    No! Whats the point in that?? I might exaggerate the better things about myself thought.... :P
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    That depends, I doubt myself sometimes but I know I don't need to hide myself and can put on quite a show i necessary. Though, I don't feel this "necessity" often, so I'd go with 6/10.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    Fear, nothing else. Only my fear of loosing/failing prevents me from doing what I really want, as soon as I can overcome my fear it's like it never existed in the first place.


    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    Talk with her about her studies/life plans, I think a lot of people like telling other about it to, well, kind of reassure themselfs and get a little advice. It breaks the ice easily.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    No, well, depends on how much I drank before or if I am in a good mood, its quite easy than. Usually I wouldn't do it, though.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    Hell I do, its a good feeling when others tell you your efforts are actually succesfull, e.g. your looking good.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    No, I think that no one is a "failure".

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    Is their something like "fill confidence"? I'm never 100% sure about a thing, but in love, that's not even important, if I really love someone I would at least give it a try.

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    No, I kinda know when they are sincere and when not.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    Yes

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    I don't lie, but sometimes I hide things I don't want others to know about me, which could be counted as lying.
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    It changes according to who I'm with really. Generally I don't have much self confidence.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    Experiences when young, and the friends you have. What you base your self worth on (I.e. how many friends youhave, how clever you are etc.)

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    Talk back, but let him lead the conversation.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    Not at all.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    Yes

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    No, I think "Failure" is a bit final, like something you'd judge at the end of your life...and I still have my whole life to live, so I have time to rectify anything I think would make me a "failure".

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    Probably not

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    Sometimes, but I always find that I feel really awkward when someone compliments me.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    Most of the time, yes

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    No
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    Ok-ish, generally 6/10 but more with things I know I'm good at like work/uni/sport.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    Lack of any interest in me by any girl ever.
    Being bullied at school.
    Being the quiet guy that's always overshadowed.
    Image/reputation from previous 2 points that can't be shaken off.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    Have a conversation.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    Not at all, I've never done this.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    Slightly.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    Generally no, but in terms of relationships yes.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    Probably. If I can't imagine that things could ever work out then no.

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    Yes, doesn't happen often but I have in the past.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    Yes. Almost everyone seems to be more awesome than me and I often think why the hell someone I like would want me and not someone else.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    No.
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    (Original post by op who probably doesn't want this in their quote list, so lets make a really long seeming name that will probably span over 2 lines, gosh, I really am feeling silly right now[s)
    p[/s] ]OK i have compiled a short questionnaire to try and gauge the different levels of confidence people have when it comes to relationships and meeting people.

    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)

    very

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence


    giving emotional authority over to other people


    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?


    talk back and ask them fun questions that pop into my head. Should they like good twee music perhaps try to get them to dance with me.


    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?


    Not sure, I don't generally have the urge to just do that. It depends entirely on the situation. Sometimes I do it, sometimes I don't.


    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?


    If I feel I don't look repulsive I lose confidence, if I feel I look attractive or neutral the confidence is the same.


    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.


    I used to tell myself I was almost religiously. I've worked on that a lot and now I just accept the good and bad things in general.


    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?


    yes, but so far I've not had to. I prefer open relationships, I don't feel they're a good place to project possessiveness.


    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?


    depends what the compliment is and who said it.


    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?


    only with very specific areas of my life. Generally I then try to change myself so that I'm more like what I want to be. This tends to be a very conscious decision.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?


    I might hide the truth but I wouldn't actively lie, unless it was a jokey thing.

    Please C&P the previous in a post. And please be as honest as you feel you can.


    would I lie to you ?

    Thanks in advance.

    your welcome
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)

    Im not at all confident, and often doubt my own ability.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence

    Paranoia. Popularity. Failing instead of succeeding. Unsure about body. Unsure about self.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?

    Well, talk back to be polite. Although, not really take it seriosly, think it was a mick take.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?

    No. I never do. I always think I have no chance, so what's the point.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?

    Not really no. My confidence level stays the same.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.

    Mostly.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?

    No. I would have to be sure first. If they were immature for example, then I wouldn't see the point.

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?

    Yes. I always question opinions. If I can't see it, how can anyone else?

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?

    Yes. I think that I have no chance.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?

    No. What's the point about lying about yourself? They would find out anyway.
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    Fluctuates, sometimes I can have a pretty healthy ego, other times it can be pretty deflated depending on life events. But on average I'd say 7/10 maybe.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    Bad experiences. With me it's things like being really awkward with someone => less confidence about conversational skills, messing up something performance-wise => stage fright kinda thing. But it works the other way round too :yep:

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    Probably be pretty taken aback! But I'd try and make conversation and all.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    Hell. No. Not sober :p:

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    I guess maybe a teensy bit. But then if I'm just a pretty face who doesn't come across as interesting or likeable then what's the point?

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    No, I can always reassure myself with achievements but I feel more of a failure in comparison to people close to me quite alot.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    Yeah, give it a chance at least

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    Depends on the person, with people I trust then I believe them. But there are some people who are often sarky, and some people who are outright fake and I'd probably be a bit sceptical.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    Yarp. Don't most people?

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    I have done in the past when I was younger and stupider but definitely not anymore.
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself (briefly)?

    9.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence?

    Social conditioning; insecurity.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?

    Run game on her, foo'.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?

    3 second rule.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?

    Mhm. All of that stuff helps 'inner game'.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'?

    Yep.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?

    Definitely. It's not a big deal.

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?

    Nope.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?


    Never; abundance mentality.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?

    Yup.
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    Quite high like a 7.5

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    Fear (of inadequacy/rejection/failure)

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    Talk to them

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    Yea fairly easy, alcohol helps...

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    Probably yeah but I pretty much always dress the same unless I am suited...

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    No

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    Yea I would give it a go

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    Depends who it is

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    No

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    No
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)

    I like to think that i'm a confident person, but I have my insecurities and I really hope to get over them in the near future.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence

    Personally, my height (i'm only 5'7ish), my race, my body, rejection in front of friends, etc...

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?

    I'd start talking back of course


    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?

    I wishhhh. Maybe one day.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?

    I do at the start, but I don't use any of this confidence to actually go approach anyone, and the factors that I think attack my self-confidence, just whittle me back down again.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.

    Sometimes, I look back and think, I could have done all that differently and life would have been so much better, but I guess I now know what I need to do to make sure I won't fail in the future.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?

    I tried, it failed. Never doing that again.


    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?

    Not really, i've been complimented enough to know where my good points are, but that was in a time where I personally think I was more 'confident'.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?

    Nah, I just want to get with only fit people.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?

    I would, but I find lying extremely hard to do as I don't really believe in it.
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly)
    4/10

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence
    Expectations, comparisons, physical appearance

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do?
    Talk back reluctantly

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to?
    Ha! Nope

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice?
    Pretty much

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'.
    When I'm having a bad day

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person?
    Probably not

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere?
    Definitely

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like?
    Yeah

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone?
    Maybe little things
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    1 - How confident and 'sure' are you about yourself? (briefly) - I'd say I'm really quite confident with myself, around an 8 on a scale of 1-10.

    2 - What do you think contributes to lack of self-confidence - Assuming I'm being judged on my bad features instead of good.

    3 - Imagine a scenario: You're out with your friends and you find yourself alone, an attractive guy/girl walks over and sits down next to you and starts talking to you. What do you do? - I'd chat back, offer to buy them a drink.

    4 - Do you find it easy to approach and talk to a stranger that you are attracted to? - I've never really been in that situation having been in a long term relationship for a while but I think it'd depend on the circumstances, if alcohol was involved etc.

    5 - Do you gain confidence about meeting people if for example you dress up and feel good about yourself because you look nice? - Definitely, it's always nice to feel that you look good.

    6 - Do you ever think of yourself as 'a failure'. - No, never.

    7 - Would you ever start a relationship that you weren't fully confident would work? But you really liked the person? - Sure, you never know fully that you're right for a person and vice-versa, it's all about taking chances.

    8 - If someone compliments you, do you find it difficult to believe they are sincere? - Depending on how sincere they sound. Usually I'm cool with it though.

    9 - Do you ever feel inadequate compared to someone that you like? - I try not to, it has happened though.

    10 - Finally - Would/do you lie about yourself to make you seem more attractive to someone? - No, I stand by 'taking me as I am'
 
 
 
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