No hate please.
I've lied so much that lying has almost become easier than telling the truth, and when I lie I seem to feel better about myself. I lie to friends, mostly about smaller things, like adding an extra A to my GCSE's when we discuss intelligence, or I lie about what games I have, and even whether I went out last night or not. I'm just a loser, I have nothing cool in my life, no talents, so I lie and lie to make up for that. I've made so many lies already that nobody knows the 'real' me.
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- Thread Starter
- 13-02-2010 16:57
- 13-02-2010 17:04
Perhaps we could know the real you if you werent anon.
But it seems like you've realised lying may make you feel better but it doesn't make you a better person. Take up a hobby, learn a skill, meet new people. Become who you want to be, don't just pretend you are someone you're not.
- 13-02-2010 17:27
I used to have problems with this. The way I got over it is to start off by being honest to myself.
- 13-02-2010 17:33
People who do this piss me off loads. Also you can pretty much guarantee that everyone knows you're lying anyway, which makes you look like even more of a ****.
- 13-02-2010 19:59
Complulsive lieing is actually a mental disorder and commenly linked with other disorders such as OCD, anxieties and depression. I have OCD and I also complusively lie; it has screwed up my relashionship with the one person I ever loved and want to be with, it has caused all sorts of problems, I try and actively not lie. Even the tinyest things like the reason I was late to meet a friend or what I had for lunch that day I lie about and I dont know why. I try to not lie when I know I am going to, sometimes it works, though not very oftern. Im actually considering getting phycological help, look up treatment for complusive lieing on google and see what you can do about it. Dont just keep on with it, it screws up your life, friendships, relashionships, family bonds, work- everything.
- 13-02-2010 20:04
I hated this guy who has the same problem as you. I suggest you stop as your friends may grow tired of your lies.
- 13-02-2010 20:10
As said above, it can be a mental disorder. Read up on it. Loads of self help sites online, only pyschology site I visit is pyschology today, might be something on there. Go see a pyschotherapist.
One thing I know about lying is that they all come out in the end. Always. Even the little ones. Sometimes after weeks, sometimes after months, sometimes years - but the truth will always, always come out. Whenever we tell lies, there are subcommunications we let off that other people pick up on - very often subconciously - we are programmed by evolution to recognise the tell tell signs. Often lying is a way to make up for an insecurity and to try to make other people like us by pretending we are 'better' (as we perceive better) than we really are; actually people HATE being manipulated and will dislike you subconciously when you do it even if they don't know for sure that you're lying.
Only thing you can do is not give a fig what other people think about you. When you stop caring, you'll find people will like you a whole lot more.