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    (Original post by student x)
    Thanks for the responses guys. I think you're right about going to a gay club/bar.

    Ive never been to one though, and just worry everyone will be all grabby/touchy. Dont get me wrong i wouldnt mind some of the attention, but i dont want to seem just selling myself. I am probably over thinking it..

    I dont have any gay friends to go with me though.. unless some of my straight friends would want to come. Hmm.
    I wouldn't if I were you. Don't know how to expound without sounding offensive but take my advice..give it some time.
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    Hey TSR,

    This has always been effecting me. Ive never had a relationship yet. . I havent yet come to terms with my sexuality or told any friends/family, but i want to have a relationship so i can accept my sexuality before 'coming out' and finally be happy.

    Basically, i have always been extremely cautious going up to a guy i like the look of in a bar/club/uni. I think this stems back from growing up and not trusting any randomers.. I just dont have a clue what to say/do and just end up looking/admiring them as they just go on by..(frustrating!). I think dancing is probably my most confident thing i do (when drunk i add) because it needs no talking. I can never hear people talk in clubs and my voice is too quiet to be heard. Very frustrating.

    I guess my question is how do you know a guy is gay? When is the greenlight to make a move? I seem to be attracted to more 'straight-looking' men, but with this comes the dilemma: is he gay or straight? I really worry what would happen if i did dare to approach a guy in a club who wasnt gay. Have any straight TSR guys been chatted up by a gay guy before? What did you do?

    Be great to hear your stories on this.

    Cheers TSR.
    If he looks like this then you're in business baby:

    http://www.boston.com/ae/movies/blog/bruno.jpg

    No but really a gay club never occured to you?
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    (Original post by student x)
    Hey TSR,

    This has always been effecting me. Ive never had a relationship yet. . I havent yet come to terms with my sexuality or told any friends/family, but i want to have a relationship so i can accept my sexuality before 'coming out' and finally be happy.

    Basically, i have always been extremely cautious going up to a guy i like the look of in a bar/club/uni. I think this stems back from growing up and not trusting any randomers.. I just dont have a clue what to say/do and just end up looking/admiring them as they just go on by..(frustrating!). I think dancing is probably my most confident thing i do (when drunk i add) because it needs no talking. I can never hear people talk in clubs and my voice is too quiet to be heard. Very frustrating.

    I guess my question is how do you know a guy is gay? When is the greenlight to make a move? I seem to be attracted to more 'straight-looking' men, but with this comes the dilemma: is he gay or straight? I really worry what would happen if i did dare to approach a guy in a club who wasnt gay. Have any straight TSR guys been chatted up by a gay guy before? What did you do?

    Be great to hear your stories on this.

    Cheers TSR.
    You ask for a mature reply, when your thread starts with "Gay TSR"

    Look, you knew yourself before you wrote the title, you were gonna get trolls (like myself) making silly remarks, so why bother?

    I question your logic...
 
 
 
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