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How do YOU ask a girl/guy out? (Not a lame request for help!) watch

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    So I was thinking the other night about how you ask a girl out. Its well know that by making people say/do different things you can get different responses to the same question. For example first thing to do when negotiating deals or disagreements is to get the other person to say "yes" to just about anything. Doesnt matter what it is, but once they have said yes once they are much more open and receptive to agreeing with what you want.

    If we take a few common ways of asking a girl out;

    Will you go out with me?
    Do you fancy going out for a drink?
    Can I take you out some time?

    They all have very subtly different meanings, even though the end result is nigh on identical. The first and third one use personal pronouns, which put a much greater emphasis on the fact it is "me" who is asking or taking "you" out, whereas the second is much more mutual and casual. You might think that nobody will notice such small differences, but the words have as much to do with the answer as the question itself, and the presence of one or 2 key words are all that people make a decision on. Not entirely sure where this thread is going yet, but I thought it might be interesting if anyone knows about popular, or verbal psychology? So what works best for you, and why? Bit of a mind dump, feel free to contribute in any useful way!
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